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[cat12345]

Skype? Breaking up the time with visits every few months? Does this ever work?

The relationship I'm in has lasted 3.5 years so far and we plan on doing a big trip at the end of my contract....so it's beneficial to both of us that I'm here.

Have you found this works? I know everyone will say "IT NEVER WORKS. DUMP HIM" but military people do this all the time...so I guess I'm asking how you made your success story happen.

and yes I'm the "girly girl" from before

[ktkates87]

I don't think I'd ever survive the long distance relationship. I know a lot of people say that it's impossible but of all the girls I know who have come here in a long-distance relationship, all but one have made it work. I think you can make it work it just depends on how hard you want it to work I guess!

Best of luck

[Lucas]

[cat12345]

See from what I gather from my friends the opportunities are a little thin on the ground for the ladies (Korean men not finding them attractive) whereas for him I'm afraid it would be a buffet of temptation Like maybe he'd resent me for going and yeah he says he's gonna wait, and then dump me over skype as soon as I get here

[Lucas]

[MoneyMike]

My girlfriend (Korean) left and spent 10 months in America last year, and we stayed together. I'll give some thoughts, but they won't be super positive I'm afraid.

Long distance relationships suck. While a good relationship feels like it adds something to your life, a long distance relationship feels like it's actively removing something. We talked on skype a few times a week and stuff, but that's not the same as being in the same room or anything.

I actually almost ended it a couple times. It was real tough to stick it out. There is no secret to making it work. Either you both have the gumption to deal with it for a year or you don't. After having done it once, I wouldn't even consider doing it again, no matter what the circumstances.

When I first came to Korea, I came with a friend from Canada who was trying to do a long distance thing with her boyfriend back home. It fell apart almost immediately.

Sorry for the negativity, but you need to know what you're getting into. Also, plenty of Korean men like western women. Every bar/club in my city goes through phases like this:

Phase 1: Some foreigners start hanging out there.

Phase 2: More people start going, spot becomes fairly popular.

Phase 3: Spot becomes too well known, now almost always packed, both Korean and foreign.

Phase 4: The general population of Korean men have found out that there are lots of foreign women there, and now there are 4 Korean guys to every 1 girl in the bar. They almost exclusively dance in a circle with each other, and generally act obnoxious.

Jeez, right now I know way more foreign women dating/married to Korean men then I do the other way around.