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Divorcing a Korean w/Child Involved?
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Old fat expat



Joined: 19 Sep 2005
Location: a caravan of dust, making for a windy prairie
PostPosted: Tue Sep 17, 2013 4:42 am    Post subject: Reply with quote
Cosmic Hum:
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Actually, pretty inspiring in its honesty.
More marriages are acting as cautionary tales than ever before.
People should really start thinking about this more.
Perhaps the marriage machine is broken.

Well, yeah.

But people marry based on emotion, not reason. Think it out all you want, it is an emotional (irrational) decision.

I agree, honest. I am sorry he is in a state of regret. Not sure why you have globalized it.
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The Cosmic Hum



Joined: 09 May 2003
Location: Sonic Space
PostPosted: Tue Sep 17, 2013 4:51 am    Post subject: Reply with quote
Old fat expat wrote:
Cosmic Hum:
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Actually, pretty inspiring in its honesty.
More marriages are acting as cautionary tales than ever before.
People should really start thinking about this more.
Perhaps the marriage machine is broken.

Well, yeah.

But people marry based on emotion, not reason. Think it out all you want, it is an emotional (irrational) decision.

I agree, honest. I am sorry he is in a state of regret. Not sure why you have globalized it.

Not sure why either.
And now that I check this thread again, I don't know why I am contributing posts to a thread started by a troll.

I feel for the guy too and appreciated the honesty.
No need for my generalization.
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Old fat expat



Joined: 19 Sep 2005
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PostPosted: Tue Sep 17, 2013 4:59 am    Post subject: Reply with quote
No problems here.

Marriage has its ups and downs. It could be the getting ups and going downs have become too mundane. I wish him luck.
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alongway



Joined: 02 Jan 2012
PostPosted: Tue Sep 17, 2013 5:23 am    Post subject: Reply with quote
The Cosmic Hum wrote:
Old fat expat wrote:
^ Wow Shocked

Too bad and my condolences.

Hope you're not planning on going into inspirational speaking cos I feel kinda uninspired now.

Actually, pretty inspiring in its honesty.
More marriages are acting as cautionary tales than ever before.
People should really start thinking about this more.
Perhaps the marriage machine is broken.


I think you'll find that, historically, many people have had marriage issues. Especially when you had no opportunity to marry outside the tiny place that might have been your home village with its limited pool. They're only more talked about now.
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Died By Bear



Joined: 13 Jul 2010
Location: On the big lake they call Gitche Gumee
PostPosted: Tue Sep 17, 2013 5:26 am    Post subject: Reply with quote
Who's Your Daddy? wrote:
Died By Bear wrote:

Yeah me too, 14 years and no major issues. They nag a lot, but very good person thank god. I feel sorry for some of these people though.


I've only been married 3.5 years. I have a two year old son. But my wife nags like that's her job, and she's rarely happy. It's pretty miserable, and if I didn't have the son I'd have divorced her, and left the country. And if we were a Canadian couple in Canada I'd have divorced her too. The fact that we're in Korea with a child makes it much more difficult.

I told my wife to stop nagging, that I wouldn't put up with it. Honestly, I think that's a cultural difference. That Korean men will put up with it. But I now understand why the men are always "working late", because they don't want to go home.

Honestly, I'm not sure what I'm going to do.




I'm sorry to hear that about your relationship/family.

My wife doesn't nag like that, it's more of a play nag thing she's got going on. All women nag, trust me. But yeah, she loves to nag like she majored in it.
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hellofaniceguy



Joined: 10 Jan 2003
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PostPosted: Tue Sep 17, 2013 3:20 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote
Jonephant wrote:
fosterman wrote:
just make up and forget about it mate.

she is throwing out empty threats, any guy married to a Korean girl will tell you this.

you will get use to it.


+1


I don't know...but I disagree...
marrying a girl vs marrying a woman..difference.
Sure, both are females...but their is a difference.
I know many non koreans who have married koreans and have yet to have their wife nag, bitch, etc...even after 10/15/20 years of marriage.
Of course..it's a two way street and usually...it's the guy giving her a reason to nag!
Remember, three sides to every story...hers, his and the truth!
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Yaya



Joined: 25 Feb 2003
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PostPosted: Tue Sep 17, 2013 5:50 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote
I've never been married but one thing I've heard over and over again is the high and often unrealistic expectations Korean women have of their husbands. It's the 21st century but you still have Korean women who think that if they have husbands from the West, they should live there and that their husbands should be wildly successful.

I'm sure not all Korean women are that way, but well, let's say I've heard far more negative stories than positive ones.
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optik404



Joined: 24 Jun 2008
PostPosted: Tue Sep 17, 2013 6:59 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote
Yaya wrote:
I've never been married but one thing I've heard over and over again is the high and often unrealistic expectations Korean women have of their husbands. It's the 21st century but you still have Korean women who think that if they have husbands from the West, they should live there and that their husbands should be wildly successful.

I'm sure not all Korean women are that way, but well, let's say I've heard far more negative stories than positive ones.


People don't usually gossip about happily married couples.
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Old fat expat



Joined: 19 Sep 2005
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PostPosted: Tue Sep 17, 2013 10:49 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote
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People don't usually gossip about happily married couples.


Yes, and this is disturbing. White dudes, get your woman to vocalize more. Let the neighbors know the stud that you are. The gossip quotient is unbalanced! GUYS, DO YOUR JOB!
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