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Janny · Joined: 02 Jul 2008 Location: all over the place

Yes, compared to the attention I see given to the pretty Asian girls around me. Why are you bringing this up now? Do you think guys are turned off by girls who get money from their parents? I don't think so. I'd say that has nothing / very little to do with sexual attraction male->female. I might even be bold enough to say that Korean girls are given money from their parents far more often, ie. "princess" syndrome. I don't see that as a deterrence for male attention, from any racial background.

Or are you saying that they pay me no mind because my dad died ..maybe you need to clarify your objective here NYCgal!

My personal reasons (which I've been honest about in previous threads, in relevant discussions) for being 'given no mind' are not the issue here. I was answering the OP's question. Lay off.

NYC_Gal 2.0 · Joined: 10 Dec 2010

I think it's fair to say that many guys are turned off by girls who consider themselves spoiled princesses (you said it, not me).

Stain · Joined: 08 Jan 2014

Wait, don't fight yet. My popcorn's not done.

andrewchon · Posted: Sun Jan 26, 2014 4:08 am Post subject:

Janny · Joined: 02 Jul 2008 Location: all over the place

I am open and honest about who I was ten years ago and who I am today. I make no guarantees or firm goals about tomorrow. But self-awareness is a gift and I don't judge myself or others. I feel free to share myself honestly too, because strangers' opinions and comments don't define how I feel. (Maybe youngben should try that).

This genuine openness and self-awareness carries way more weight, in my opinion, than how attractive I am (am I turning them on???) to the men in my environs. I went into details about my dating life in a past thread because the question was raised, I had some thoughts on it, and I felt like sharing.

It's all temporary anyway; it's a complicated tapestry of elements that give one "attractiveness". You know this, you're a smart woman. I don't know why you had to get all bitchy on me about ...me.

NYC_Gal 2.0 · Joined: 10 Dec 2010

Janny · Joined: 02 Jul 2008 Location: all over the place

it's cool.
Thanks and feel better Smile

Youngben88 · Joined: 19 Jul 2013

Trying quitting two weeks shy of your bonus, airfare and salary

When you were in a perfectly happy situation !

Youngben88 · Joined: 19 Jul 2013

Not to mention it being your first proper job and you having just turned 24

(24 while in korea, during the time you quit).

NYC_Gal 2.0 · Joined: 10 Dec 2010

Why on earth would anyone do that?

Youngben88 · Joined: 19 Jul 2013

I did.

New guy suggested ruining the school

Had to call my parents to pay for my flight etc

Janny · Joined: 02 Jul 2008 Location: all over the place

Darling, this is not usually a good place for sympathy unless you forge some real "internet connections" with the users first.

1. I hope you simply learned a valuable lesson: fulfill your contracts and build a better radar about WHO to listen to. (answer: your own gut instinct) You may find out that most people you run into in this life are just passing through yours...and they do not have your best interests at heart. They have their own interests at heart. Real friendships are not usually forged within a few months' time. Yes, we meet valuable, quality people. They give us messages. But they should not be the sole determinants of big life decisions (such as going to China before a big job start in Japan).

2. Try not to rely on your parents so much.

3. Karma. Look into it. Good things happen to people who have good thoughts and do good things. Positivity goes a million miles in building better "luck". It seems like you need that. Don't dwell on the bad stuff. Give thanks for the good stuff and expect more. Then it will come.

4. You are in charge of your emotions. You can't control others, so why put all your emotional energy into them? You decide to be happy, and forget about what others are thinking, needing, feeling about you.

5. Spend some time by yourself, whichever country you find yourself in next (employed). Don't be so eager to find a posse and party. That stuff comes and goes. Learn about who YOU are and what you want in your life. The better you know yourself, the happier you will be. And the less you will need the advice, support and approval of others.

Cheers sweetie!

Youngben88 · Joined: 19 Jul 2013

As for the karma, I was at home for a year working for free- teaching people with learning difficulties and mental health issues

As for the party, I was having a great time in the uk...

Janny · Joined: 02 Jul 2008 Location: all over the place

"Working for free". The activity is noble, yes. But you did it because you were being supported by your parents. That is not what you are supposed to be doing in adulthood, and everyone (and you) knows it.

"party in the UK"....that's easy. Anybody can manage that. It has nothing to do with your real life. If, that is, you're interested in being an adult.

Don't feel bad. Lots of people extend their adolescence because parents support them and there are few jobs. I think it's happening more and more.

But you youngBen...take my advice above and smarten up a bit.

N.B.: Why did I invest so much time with you, youngben? Well, I'm anxiously waiting for the hour when I can make my way to the airport on vacation. So I'm bored, restless and full of mental and spiritual energy. And lucky you! You get it! You better not be a plucky, nerdy troll....I have my suspicions but whatev.

NYC_Gal 2.0 · Joined: 10 Dec 2010

Have a good vacation!