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How did you pay and who got the money?

[edwardcatflap]

Wow, How did the in laws justify/get away with the first scenario? If you don't mind me asking.

[Newbie]

[Ocalmy]

We kept the money we received from friends (my wife's friends) and my wife's parents kept the money they received from their family and friends.

We paid for everything we could on our own, and they took care of the rest.

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[Mr. Pink]

In laws kept the money, they paid for everything. I didn't have a problem with it because they gave us money for a housing deposit as did my parents way before the wedding took place and they bought a lot of the stuff for inside the apartment.

99% of the people there were friends/relatives of the in-laws, so most of the money was from people they knew...my friends mostly gave me gifts, not cash, and my family gave me cash before the wedding.

[Weigookin74]

[Milwaukiedave]

The way it worked for us is my wife put a small deposit down on the wedding hall, her parents bought us hanbok and and a nice pair of dress shoes for me. The money from the guests covered the rest of the cost.

[Newbie]

[oatmeal]

i think the saddest thing about weddings is that it's determined by how much money you spend on it rather than the amount of love you have for each other.

Why can't a wedding simply cost a couple grand only and still be the best wedding ever? I don't justify weddings that cost $10,000 or more. It seems like such an old tradition that has simply been commercialized over the years.

Here's my idea of a great wedding. Make it a potluck, everyone brings their own delicious, unique, homestyle cooked foods and we can have a HUGE ASS BANQUET that costs 0$. You can hold a small wedding with only closest friends and family right in your own future house property (say you have big enough backyard or a nice piece of yard/land). Your friends and family can provide the entertainment by doing a talent show or karaoke style performances, and really, the only thing money should be spent on is on the rings and maybe for the bride (becuz she always dreams of this as a little girl growing up) a white bridal dress. But other than that, no other expenses. You can have an absolutely smashing time, less formal, more realness and closeness with the attendees, and all in all, you'll have an official wedding license, and one of the best times in your life without breaking the bank or burying yourself in years of debt.

Oh, and video and camera stuff can nowadays be EASILY done by anyone who has a smartphone, camcorder, and computer at home and imovie or sony vegas.... why spend $5000 for a professional cameraman? You can do all that stuff right in your basement....ur own photo shoots with highest quality prints. I think we need to think outside of the box more when it comes to weddings......people are too stuck and rigid on the ideas of what a wedding should cost and look like.....we're all forgetting the fact that what a wedding really is about is the love between 2 people. Everything else is just icing on the cake. Really, who gives a crap about the 90% of other things that most ppl are stressing over when planning for weddings. It's your life, it's your wedding, make it your own style! Who says you gotta do all these things that cost so much money?

[Stain]

Another idea might be to save money and not get married. It will also save you money later when you break up. Unless, of course, there are children involved. In that case, bite the bullet and get married. It will be the happiest day of your life.

[giraffe]

my inlaws paid For the wedding. Whatever money the guests gave Went to my inlaws. No one made money or lost money. It ended up balancing out. basically the guests paid for our wedding. We didnt get any housing money from my inlaws. Was never expected, never asked. I'm glad the wedding paid for itself.

My parents gave us the option of either Giving us a small amount of money or Paying for a small ceremony in Canada. WE ended up taking the money.

[coralreefer_1]

I will be getting married soon, but I have wondered about this issue with my lady.

She told me (which I can somewhat understand and agree with) that her family will keep the money...mainly because her family (father) as gone to countless weddings/1st birthdays..etc over the years, giving money and such. The money given at our wedding, like another mentioned, will be mostly by her fathers friends, thereby making that money a kind of "payback" for all of the money he has given over the years.

Also, I think someone else may have been mixed-up..( or perhaps me) I have always heard that it was the man who provides the home, and the bride who has the responsibility to furnish the new place. That's all well and good to me, but my fiance tells me that although she/her family will furnish the apartment, she will not furnish the thing I want most (a badass top of the line Air Conditioner). She says its kind of a superstition that if a woman provides air conditioners or refrigerators for the home, it will make the man "cold-hearted" so to speak.

I'm curious to know if any of the other married guys here have heard that before?

[cabeza]

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