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caniff
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Posted: Sun Sep 07, 2014 8:32 pm Post subject: |
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I'd just like to add that a kid isn't proof of anything other than sex |
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Fail. Coupled with two wedding rings, a kid in the mix PROVES that the couple is in love and committed. As far as anyone knows the OP and his whor.e k-gf is in it for lust, and the ajussis stare them down as a JUSTIFIED result. |
You're a stupid asshole, in case you didn't know. |
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verok
Joined: 11 Aug 2014 Location: United States
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Posted: Sun Sep 07, 2014 8:54 pm Post subject: |
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Sesame wrote: |
Fail. Coupled with two wedding rings, a kid in the mix PROVES that the couple is in love and committed. As far as anyone knows the OP and his whor.e k-gf is in it for lust, and the ajussis stare them down as a JUSTIFIED result. |
Did I miss where the OP said his GF is Korean? Or are you psychotically projecting your own baggage right now? |
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PureLuck

Joined: 06 Jun 2014 Location: Seoul
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Posted: Sun Sep 07, 2014 11:34 pm Post subject: |
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This isn't something I've really noticed. I have noticed that strangers don't smile at each other, which is weird to me since it's an old habit I brought with me from back home.
Maybe once I get my first Korean squeeze I'll know what you are talking about. |
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Died By Bear

Joined: 13 Jul 2010 Location: On the big lake they call Gitche Gumee
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Posted: Mon Sep 08, 2014 2:17 am Post subject: |
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PureLuck wrote: |
This isn't something I've really noticed. I have noticed that strangers don't smile at each other, which is weird to me since it's an old habit I brought with me from back home.
Maybe once I get my first Korean squeeze I'll know what you are talking about. |
If you smile at random Koreans, they will think you're retarded or just a dimwit. |
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PureLuck

Joined: 06 Jun 2014 Location: Seoul
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Posted: Mon Sep 08, 2014 2:19 am Post subject: |
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Died By Bear wrote: |
If you smile at random Koreans, they will think you're retarded or just a dimwit. |
Yep, that's definitely the feeling I'm getting! |
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cdninkorea

Joined: 27 Jan 2006 Location: Seoul
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Posted: Mon Sep 08, 2014 7:06 am Post subject: |
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Aren't most young couples quite lusty - especially at the start of a relationship?. A strong physical attraction is probably a sign of a healthy relationship. |
Not Korean women. They have no sexual desire except for their husbands on their wedding night. Any Korean woman dating a foreign male is being defiled by her and must be brought to justice. |
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EZE
Joined: 05 May 2012
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Posted: Mon Sep 08, 2014 7:34 am Post subject: |
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Sesame wrote: |
Fail. Coupled with two wedding rings, a kid in the mix PROVES that the couple is in love and committed. |
I'm no Casanova, but I've been with enough married moms to know how wrong you are. |
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swashbuckler
Joined: 20 Nov 2010
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Posted: Mon Sep 08, 2014 7:51 am Post subject: |
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cdninkorea wrote: |
cj1976 wrote: |
Aren't most young couples quite lusty - especially at the start of a relationship?. A strong physical attraction is probably a sign of a healthy relationship. |
Not Korean women. They have no sexual desire except for their husbands on their wedding night. Any Korean woman dating a foreign male is being defiled by her and must be brought to justice. |
are you a virgin? |
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Mr. BlackCat

Joined: 30 Nov 2005 Location: Insert witty remark HERE
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Posted: Mon Sep 08, 2014 9:06 am Post subject: |
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Sadly, I think this is a big part of Korean society. By showing that you're having fun, Koreans think you're showing off. It's the same reason why when you ask a Korean how they're doing you'll likely hear 'terrible', 'bad', 'busy', etc. This has been confirmed by countless adult students and friends I've had here. That's why getting hammered is so common here, because it's the only time Koreans allow themselves to project positive emotions. I laugh at the idea that Koreans don't show emotion. They totally do, but usually just the negative ones. How many times have we seen Koreans throw a tizzy fit with crying, screaming and whining? But laughing, smiles and joking are only reserved for 5 bottles of soju after work. That's actually the stated reason, so a Korean can get to know 'the real you'.
Unfortunately, I think that's why us foreigners are expected to play the clown in class. We're outside this rigid structure, and then it's taken to the other extreme. We're not here to discipline or be taken seriously. We're here to be the clowns in class. Again, how many of have been told to be 'fun' and 'funny' in the classroom. It's because that's not allowed in Korean society. And then our co-teachers get jealous seeing the kids have fun with us and it creates resentment. Vicious circle, all of it. |
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cdninkorea

Joined: 27 Jan 2006 Location: Seoul
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Posted: Tue Sep 09, 2014 1:19 am Post subject: |
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swashbuckler wrote: |
cdninkorea wrote: |
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Aren't most young couples quite lusty - especially at the start of a relationship?. A strong physical attraction is probably a sign of a healthy relationship. |
Not Korean women. They have no sexual desire except for their husbands on their wedding night. Any Korean woman dating a foreign male is being defiled by her and must be brought to justice. |
are you a virgin? |
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optik404

Joined: 24 Jun 2008
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Posted: Tue Sep 09, 2014 5:27 am Post subject: |
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Mr. BlackCat wrote: |
Sadly, I think this is a big part of Korean society. By showing that you're having fun, Koreans think you're showing off. It's the same reason why when you ask a Korean how they're doing you'll likely hear 'terrible', 'bad', 'busy', etc. This has been confirmed by countless adult students and friends I've had here. That's why getting hammered is so common here, because it's the only time Koreans allow themselves to project positive emotions. I laugh at the idea that Koreans don't show emotion. They totally do, but usually just the negative ones. How many times have we seen Koreans throw a tizzy fit with crying, screaming and whining? But laughing, smiles and joking are only reserved for 5 bottles of soju after work. That's actually the stated reason, so a Korean can get to know 'the real you'.
Unfortunately, I think that's why us foreigners are expected to play the clown in class. We're outside this rigid structure, and then it's taken to the other extreme. We're not here to discipline or be taken seriously. We're here to be the clowns in class. Again, how many of have been told to be 'fun' and 'funny' in the classroom. It's because that's not allowed in Korean society. And then our co-teachers get jealous seeing the kids have fun with us and it creates resentment. Vicious circle, all of it. |
Uh, I see people smiling, laughing, and joking all the time. Have you never been to a cafe? |
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Chaparrastique
Joined: 01 Jan 2014
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Posted: Tue Sep 09, 2014 9:48 am Post subject: |
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optik404 wrote: |
Mr. BlackCat wrote: |
Sadly, I think this is a big part of Korean society. By showing that you're having fun, Koreans think you're showing off. It's the same reason why when you ask a Korean how they're doing you'll likely hear 'terrible', 'bad', 'busy', etc. This has been confirmed by countless adult students and friends I've had here. That's why getting hammered is so common here, because it's the only time Koreans allow themselves to project positive emotions. I laugh at the idea that Koreans don't show emotion. They totally do, but usually just the negative ones. How many times have we seen Koreans throw a tizzy fit with crying, screaming and whining? But laughing, smiles and joking are only reserved for 5 bottles of soju after work. That's actually the stated reason, so a Korean can get to know 'the real you'.
Unfortunately, I think that's why us foreigners are expected to play the clown in class. We're outside this rigid structure, and then it's taken to the other extreme. We're not here to discipline or be taken seriously. We're here to be the clowns in class. Again, how many of have been told to be 'fun' and 'funny' in the classroom. It's because that's not allowed in Korean society. And then our co-teachers get jealous seeing the kids have fun with us and it creates resentment. Vicious circle, all of it. |
Uh, I see people smiling, laughing, and joking all the time. Have you never been to a cafe? |
really? They don't exactly smile and joke all the time. Even at a hof they are often aggressive or obnoxious drunks as opposed to simply merry.
But what we're talking about specifically is how some of them react to the sight and sound of foreigners a) enjoying themselves or b) being successful. |
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Steelrails

Joined: 12 Mar 2009 Location: Earth, Solar System
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Posted: Tue Sep 09, 2014 10:26 am Post subject: |
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Having a kid doesn't prove anything. Haven't we all watched Maury? "You are not the father! And now we'll bring out guest number 8 to see if he is Sheila's baby daddy. And all wedding rings prove is that if you two split up you'll have to go to court and fight over that kid.
There's rock stars and athletes that change two wedding rings and kids more than they change teams. |
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trueblue
Joined: 15 Jun 2014 Location: In between the lines
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Posted: Tue Sep 09, 2014 5:34 pm Post subject: |
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Unfortunately, I think that's why us foreigners are expected to play the clown in class. We're outside this rigid structure, and then it's taken to the other extreme. We're not here to discipline or be taken seriously. We're here to be the clowns in class. Again, how many of have been told to be 'fun' and 'funny' in the classroom. It's because that's not allowed in Korean society. [b]And then our co-teachers get jealous seeing the kids have fun with us and it creates resentment. Vicious circle, all of it. |
I thought they resented us, anyway.
Still a good point, though.
But, I don't tolerate much from the scamming co-teachers. As long as they stay on their side of line, I stay on mine. However, once they start utilizing that passive aggressive agenda, I just remind them that they would not have their way of life if it were not for the taxpayers of my country.
Sorry, I am not trying to hijack the thread.
However, I would never marry a Korean woman. And, I don't mean any disrespect to those that have done so.
I just could not marry into their culture. I would NEVER bow to her parents or tolerate the cultural "challenges" that come with the relationship, including how the children are handled. |
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Steelrails

Joined: 12 Mar 2009 Location: Earth, Solar System
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Posted: Tue Sep 09, 2014 9:07 pm Post subject: |
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I just could not marry into their culture. I would NEVER bow to her parents or tolerate the cultural "challenges" that come with the relationship, including how the children are handled. |
What is so bad about bowing? Get over yourself. No one is going to come from behind and start raping you if you do it once. |
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