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| Are you OK with being "friends" with the boss ??? |
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| No way. If they wanna play, then they should pay. |
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| The odd little social outing is ok. |
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igotthisguitar

Joined: 08 Apr 2003 Location: South Korea (Permanent Vacation)
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Posted: Thu Aug 26, 2004 11:16 pm Post subject: Buddies with the Boss ... |
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>. Had this problem my first year here. Thank god it hasn't reoccured ( yet ). He was really pushy in fact, always wanting to hang out & spend my "free" ( i.e. after hours ) time together with me
Quite annoying really. Anyone else had this problem ???
Who thinks its best to be buddies with the boss ??? |
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sadsac
Joined: 22 Dec 2003 Location: Gwangwang
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Posted: Mon Aug 30, 2004 8:14 pm Post subject: |
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It's a tough call. The big problem in forming any sort of friendship with your boss is they don't differentiate between work and play. So if you say no to something or want something they think you are betraying that friendship. Better to just be a worker.  |
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prosodic

Joined: 21 Jun 2004 Location: ����
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Posted: Mon Aug 30, 2004 10:21 pm Post subject: Re: Buddies with the Boss ... |
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| igotthisguitar wrote: |
| Who thinks its best to be buddies with the boss ??? |
I could imagine there may be times when it would be useful. What about when you want that extra day off or you have a bad week.....Hey, what am I thinking? If Korean employers screw over family members, then friends are fair game. |
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Butterfly
Joined: 02 Mar 2003 Location: Kuwait
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Posted: Tue Aug 31, 2004 11:25 pm Post subject: Re: Buddies with the Boss ... |
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| Buddies with my boss. I like the guy. |
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agraham

Joined: 19 Aug 2004 Location: Daegu, Korea
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Posted: Wed Sep 01, 2004 1:35 am Post subject: |
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Not here. My boss lives in her office; we teachers live in ours. Her name is "Won Jang Sun Sang Nim" or "Boss Teacher" as far as I'm concerned.
She a nice lady and all, but there's no doubt about what form of speech to use when addressing her. |
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rapier
Joined: 16 Feb 2003
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Posted: Wed Sep 01, 2004 5:07 am Post subject: |
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Forming an open, friendly working relationship with your boss is essential in Korea. It means that issues don't degenerate into full on conflict because you can talk about it all first. And they're far less likely to try and shaft you in the end.
However, I always draw the line and keep a professional distance. I baulk at any hint of going drinking, or on picnics with them. Sharing a lot of drivel after 10 shots of soju late at night is cringeworthy. |
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Squid

Joined: 25 Jul 2003 Location: Sunny Anyang
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Posted: Wed Sep 01, 2004 5:24 am Post subject: |
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Trap for young players.
Being buds with the wongjang is all well and good until the SOB doesn't pay you what's owed.
"Oh you're my brother, my best friend"... heard that? I did and got shafted. Now I work for another critter says the exact same thing so I keep a close eye on my payslips.
In case there's any ambiguity in the above:
Friends with the boss here in Korea? ...Not on your nelly. |
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coolsage
Joined: 28 Jan 2003 Location: The overcast afternoon of the soul
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Posted: Fri Sep 03, 2004 1:41 pm Post subject: |
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| Refer to my post above, 'Faculty Dinner'. Westerners as a rule don't socialize with their colleagues beyond a beer on Friday night. Koreans who are co-workers are fond of strapping on look-alike hats and shirts and walking up hills together. With respect to my K-colleagues, my job is NOT my life. It's the old individual vs collective scenario again, and I know which side I'm on. |
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beast
Joined: 28 Jan 2003
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Posted: Sat Sep 04, 2004 3:19 am Post subject: |
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| I keep my boss locked in my closet. |
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Hagwon Muppet
Joined: 18 Mar 2003
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Posted: Sat Sep 04, 2004 4:40 am Post subject: |
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| coolsage wrote: |
| Refer to my post above, 'Faculty Dinner'. Westerners as a rule don't socialize with their colleagues beyond a beer on Friday night. Koreans who are co-workers are fond of strapping on look-alike hats and shirts and walking up hills together. With respect to my K-colleagues, my job is NOT my life. It's the old individual vs collective scenario again, and I know which side I'm on. |
Weterners don't socialise with their boss??????? Maybe not the McDonalds counter staff but a hell of a lot of office workers do on a regular basis.
If someone needs to come on an INternet forum and ask who they should be friends with then they really shouldn't be allowed out on their own. |
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rawiri

Joined: 01 Jun 2003 Location: Lovely day for a fire drill.
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Posted: Tue Sep 07, 2004 8:34 am Post subject: |
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[quote="Hagwon Muppet"][quote="coolsage"].
If someone needs to come on an INternet forum and ask who they should be friends with then they really shouldn't be allowed out on their own.[/quote]
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