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Koreabound2004
Joined: 19 Nov 2003
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Posted: Mon Sep 13, 2004 9:50 pm Post subject: I have 1 son, and 1 daughter.... |
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Has anyone noticed that there are A LOT of families in SK that have this set up? I find it strangely odd that so many people can have this "perfect family." Comments...?? Has anyone else noticed this? |
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shortskirt_longjacket

Joined: 06 Jun 2004 Location: fitz and ernie are my raison d'etre
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Posted: Tue Sep 14, 2004 12:31 am Post subject: |
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actually, more of my students come from households that have two children of the same gender. only three or four of my students have the "one girl one boy" household.
two children seems to be the norm, however. only a few only children and none in my school that come from a family of three or more children. |
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Ya-ta Boy
Joined: 16 Jan 2003 Location: Established in 1994
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Posted: Tue Sep 14, 2004 1:46 am Post subject: |
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It is not an optical illusion.
A significant share of them occur after an abortion or two to insure that the second child is a boy if the first born is a girl.
I have known quite a few boys who have 3 or 4 or even 5 older sisters. |
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peppergirl
Joined: 07 Dec 2003
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Posted: Tue Sep 14, 2004 1:58 am Post subject: |
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Ya-ta Boy wrote: |
It is not an optical illusion.
A significant share of them occur after an abortion or two to insure that the second child is a boy if the first born is a girl.
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That's why it's illegal for doctors to tell the parents the sex of the baby these days. Some do anyway, but by that time it's too late to have an abortion anyway. |
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schwa
Joined: 18 Jan 2003 Location: Yap
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Posted: Tue Sep 14, 2004 2:23 am Post subject: |
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If a family has 3 kids, its a near-certainty they were born girl, girl, boy. |
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dutchman

Joined: 23 Jan 2003 Location: My backyard
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Posted: Tue Sep 14, 2004 6:16 am Post subject: Re: I have 1 son, and 1 daughter.... |
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Koreabound2004 wrote: |
Has anyone noticed that there are A LOT of families in SK that have this set up? I find it strangely odd that so many people can have this "perfect family." Comments...?? Has anyone else noticed this? |
I have this set-up. Are you implying anything about my wife and I?  |
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Ya-ta Boy
Joined: 16 Jan 2003 Location: Established in 1994
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Posted: Tue Sep 14, 2004 2:00 pm Post subject: |
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That's why it's illegal for doctors to tell the parents the sex of the baby these days. Some do anyway, but by that time it's too late to have an abortion anyway. |
Ummm...check the gender distribution in any public school in the country. (And in a lot of Asia generally.) Legal or not, it is being done to an extent that a lot of people are concerned about the consequences when this generation gets to marriage age.
Given the number of scofflaws (oh, how I love that word!) in this country, how would the government ever go about enforcing that law anyway? |
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Ody

Joined: 27 Jan 2003 Location: over here
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Posted: Tue Sep 14, 2004 3:56 pm Post subject: Re: I have 1 son, and 1 daughter.... |
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we too have the "perfect" setup.
'would like another to make it three if my husband will carry it. |
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dutchman

Joined: 23 Jan 2003 Location: My backyard
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Posted: Tue Sep 14, 2004 4:24 pm Post subject: Re: I have 1 son, and 1 daughter.... |
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Ody wrote: |
we too have the "perfect" setup.
'would like another to make it three if my husband will carry it. |
Good luck with that Ody. We figured 'why mess with perfection' and got things tied up after the second. |
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Koreabound2004
Joined: 19 Nov 2003
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Posted: Tue Sep 14, 2004 5:07 pm Post subject: |
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I am referring to Koreans, not to foreigners who have kids in Korea or with Koreans. I am not implying anything, just making an observation. I assumed that there were abortions being performed, as it seems unlikely that this many families would have 1 son and 1 daughter naturally. There had to be some intervention. I have met so many Koreans now who seem to have this ideal family, and so I wondered...and thought I would ask, before discussing my own assumptions. |
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Rather_Dashing
Joined: 07 Sep 2004
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Posted: Tue Sep 14, 2004 5:19 pm Post subject: |
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I wouldn't call it a "perfect setup"... after all, your children aren't going to have sex with each other. |
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TJ
Joined: 10 Mar 2003
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Posted: Tue Sep 14, 2004 6:38 pm Post subject: Perfect family |
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I'm Australian. When introducing myself to new students and I tell them that I have 2 sons and 2 daughters they all sit up and say "ooooooooohhh". When I tell them I have 3 grand sons and 3 grand daughters they all say "ooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh".
It's all very amusing.
Incidentally, it just happened that the boys arrived first. But, I guess some of my students may be wondering if the girls came first and we just kept trying until we had 2 sons.. |
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kelly

Joined: 31 Jan 2003 Location: Seoul
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Posted: Tue Sep 14, 2004 8:15 pm Post subject: ....... |
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They are getting pretty strict on not disclosing the sex of the children before birth here. Even in the International clinics, our doctor would not tell us the sex of our little baby, but she did give us the pretty obvious scans so we could work it out for ourselves. Her explanation wasn't so much about people getting abortions in order to have the perfect family. She said that when mothers found out that there baby was a boy the went outside of Korea to give birth so as the child would no have to serve in the ROK army...... |
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