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kelly

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Posted: Sun Nov 14, 2004 6:13 pm Post subject: |
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hellofaniceguy

Joined: 10 Jan 2003 Location: On your computer screen!
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| I somewhat agree- six weeks is very early to go back to work, at least full time. If you live in Seoul though, you could probably hire a Philipina nanny who'd be more aware of western child rearing customs. I know Ody went through this process recently- send her a pm. |
Why is it too early? The baby does not know the difference. Do you remember anything before the age of 2 months? Or two years? Bonding? It's for the benefit of the mother...not the baby. Even Dr. Spock published that in one of his many books.
I have seen many women over the years go back to work within one month after their baby was born.
But...someone posted....800.000 a month for baby sitting! That seems expensive! Way expensive! But if you have no choice... |
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kelly

Joined: 31 Jan 2003 Location: Seoul
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Posted: Sun Nov 14, 2004 9:36 pm Post subject: |
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| hellofancieguy: thanks, at home most moms get 2mths maternity leave, thats all. And they don't really have a choice but go back to work. I don't really care about the price to be honest, as long as he is looked after properly. All going well he'll be just fine, he'll have his dad to look in on him a couple of times a day anyhow, so it should be grand, thanks again, for the more positive words!! |
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peppermint

Joined: 13 May 2003 Location: traversing the minefields of caddishness.
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Posted: Sun Nov 14, 2004 9:57 pm Post subject: |
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| Only two months? Christ. In Canada there's a mandatory six month maternitity leave, with an optional extra sis months which can be taken by either parent. |
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kelly

Joined: 31 Jan 2003 Location: Seoul
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Posted: Sun Nov 14, 2004 11:01 pm Post subject: |
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Yeah I wasn't so sure, but I called my mom to ask her last night, in Ireland they get 9-12weeks paid maternity leave, usually two weeks or so before and then 7-10 after. Of course you can take unpaid leave but many businesses are that happy with people doing that. An acquaintance that I know that had a baby here in Korea, was given two weeks off after her baby was born by her hagwon... seems a little crazy, I figured out that all going well if he's born when he should be born he'll be 9 weeks old when I go back, but then again, how many kids are born when they're supposed to be lol!! |
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Tiger Beer

Joined: 07 Feb 2003
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Posted: Thu Jan 13, 2005 2:33 pm Post subject: |
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| I want to get a part time job, and this university job has arisen, with very few working hours and plenty of time off. Unfortunately it begins in Feburary, which means he will only be about 6 weeks old. But thanks for all the kind words I'm now thinking of turning it down, and opting for a sucky hagwon evening job.....we'll see. |
Take the university job! I'm sure you can find someone you trust to watch the baby while you are teaching. Seems like the better option than siging on with Pagoda as you later suggest in this thread. |
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canadian_in_korea
Joined: 20 Jun 2004 Location: South Korea
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Hmmm...what a decision to have to make. If you can try to make arrangments before the baby is born you will most likely feel better. But be prepared, once that little bundle comes along things drastically change......taking a sucky job is worth it in the end if you have peace of mind that your baby is safe.....heck I wouldn't even leave my daughter with my own parents until she was 2 months old!..haha...not that i didn't trust them...but some "motherly" thing kicked in and I thought nobody would take care of her the way I did... Do you know many of the military moms? Put your fiance to work....start spreading word that you will need someone...that way you can meet them before he is born and you won't feel rushed into making a decision. If you take a job...even if it is a good one and you go to work every day worrying about your baby....you will be wishing you took that sucky job... Oh and by the way....congratulations!...I'm sure everything will work out for you in the end.. |
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kelly

Joined: 31 Jan 2003 Location: Seoul
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Posted: Sat Jan 15, 2005 11:45 pm Post subject: |
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| Thank you, the baby was born there just before Christmas and he is amazing. I've taken the uni job and am starting the end of February and we have some interviews lined up for nannies this week so it all looks good. |
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Seoultrader

Joined: 18 Jun 2003 Location: Ali's Insurgent Inn, Fallujah
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Just thought of something - ya might want to take the kid to Daehangro on a Sunday. Hundreds of Flips there for Sunday mass, so I'm sure you could hold dozens of interviews right there on the spot.
Good luck and don't let the Leave-it-to-Beaver asshat(s) get to ya. |
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