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mercury



Joined: 05 Dec 2004
Location: Pusan

PostPosted: Thu Mar 24, 2005 2:29 am    Post subject: The most insecure place I have ever been! Reply with quote

Now I have traveld quite a bit. I have observed people, cultures, big countries, small countries. What I cannot figure out is the insecurity that goes on here in Korea. Last night I was having a beer, minding my own business, there was a table of Korean men behind me with some girls. One comes over and pours me some beer, and invites me over to arm wrestle him. I smile, say no, he insists. I go over, win, go back to my table. Soon the whole table of guys is coming over trying to get me to arm wrestle them. I beat 3 guys, my wrist is worn out, I smile, go back to my beer, the first guy I beat comes over and says "one more".


This is not the only thing. I have never heard so many people fish for compliments! When I was in Rome I never heard "do you like pizza, isn't it delicious". Mexicans never brag about tacos........"senior, do you like tacos, oh, isn't it spicy......." French people never ask me if I like "French cuisine" Not even in the Philippines!

I have never met anyone in a country that wears their feelings on their sleeves as much as they do here. If I complain about one thing, the person turns into a DEFENDER OF KOREA. They get angry, try to explain, I recently told a teacher that I wish Korea had a water system where we could drink the water. The teacher got all upset. She said "you do not understand the history of Korea, they could not make water system because of war, and we had invaders" I was like "what?"

And so, there is the one side of having the mentality of a victim here. We are poor, we were oppressed, we need special treatment, we are small country.etc.............

On the other hand they want to beat ANYBODY, at ANYGAME, and if they win they are in your face! I have a Canadian friend who told me that Koreans were really gloating the fact that they won so many gold medals at the last olympic games and Canada did not. My friend told me that he really did not care if Canada won or lost, but the Korean neighbor of his was crying when the American gymnest won the gold medal! Actually crying!


What is it with the people here? I have been to the Bahamas, the people are secure, cool, great people. Australians are confident, cool. The English, the Irish, the Thais, the Kenyens, the Japanese, this is the only group of people that seems to really need such recognition. Even a friendly game of pool becomes a spectacular contest down the street at the pool room. Geezzzzzzzzzzzz, I like competition, but too much can make a person crazy.

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Real Reality



Joined: 10 Jan 2003
Location: Seoul

PostPosted: Thu Mar 24, 2005 2:55 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Foreigners Experience Difficulties in Living in Korea
Overall living conditions, including education, housing, medical care, transportation, immigration, and access to the Internet are pointed to as inconveniences. Not only inconveniences caused by different systems and customs in Korea, but also special discriminating practices, such as the practice of submitting two years of monthly rent in advance like a deposit, which is required of foreigners just because they are foreigners, are ubiquitous. "Even though Korea has achieved some degree of globalization in going abroad, it has still a long way to go for globalization in embracing foreigners inward," said foreigners residing in Korea.

An official in the International Cooperation Division of Seoul City admitted, "The same complaints regarding visas, transportation, education, and environment are raised every year without being solved, due to the lack of cooperation from government agencies involved and their passive attitudes."
by Jae-Dong Yu and Soo-Jung Shin, Donga.com
http://english.donga.com/srv/service.php3?biid=2004070522448

Do You Need Therapy?
Professor Chey would like Koreans to "look inside" and explore their inner worlds. When she returned from the United States nine years ago, she noticed a lot of anger and stress in Seoul. "Koreans tend to think the problem is caused by someone else, that it does not lie within the Self," she said. Just about every Korean suffers from soul-deadening mental, physical or emotional tiredness.

"But first of all we must do complete self-examination. Our history testifies that Korean people have lacked serious self-examination," Professor Rhee Dong-shick explained. Due to political hard times, dirty money and competition people feel that they are not being treated nicely.
by Lizette Potgieter, Korea Times
http://times.hankooki.com/lpage/culture/200403/kt2004031817153511680.htm

According to a recent survey, as many as 90 percent of Korea's youth think they live in a country that's corrupt, and a considerable number of them say they're ready to join the club if the occasions calls for it later in life. Our society has become rotten to the core. Unnecessary regulations should be reduced, and bureaucrats should be given less authority to interpret the law.
Chosun Ilbo
http://english.chosun.com/w21data/html/news/200310/200310080034.html
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Swiss James



Joined: 26 Nov 2003
Location: Shanghai

PostPosted: Thu Mar 24, 2005 5:51 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

oh christ, you've set RR off now
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Yu_Bum_suk



Joined: 25 Dec 2004

PostPosted: Thu Mar 24, 2005 6:05 pm    Post subject: Re: The most insecure place I have ever been! Reply with quote

mercury wrote:
Now I have traveld quite a bit. I have observed people, cultures, big countries, small countries. What I cannot figure out is the insecurity that goes on here in Korea. Last night I was having a beer, minding my own business, there was a table of Korean men behind me with some girls. One comes over and pours me some beer, and invites me over to arm wrestle him. I smile, say no, he insists. I go over, win, go back to my table. Soon the whole table of guys is coming over trying to get me to arm wrestle them. I beat 3 guys, my wrist is worn out, I smile, go back to my beer, the first guy I beat comes over and says "one more".


This is not the only thing. I have never heard so many people fish for compliments! When I was in Rome I never heard "do you like pizza, isn't it delicious". Mexicans never brag about tacos........"senior, do you like tacos, oh, isn't it spicy......." French people never ask me if I like "French cuisine" Not even in the Philippines!

I have never met anyone in a country that wears their feelings on their sleeves as much as they do here. If I complain about one thing, the person turns into a DEFENDER OF KOREA. They get angry, try to explain, I recently told a teacher that I wish Korea had a water system where we could drink the water. The teacher got all upset. She said "you do not understand the history of Korea, they could not make water system because of war, and we had invaders" I was like "what?"

And so, there is the one side of having the mentality of a victim here. We are poor, we were oppressed, we need special treatment, we are small country.etc.............

On the other hand they want to beat ANYBODY, at ANYGAME, and if they win they are in your face! I have a Canadian friend who told me that Koreans were really gloating the fact that they won so many gold medals at the last olympic games and Canada did not. My friend told me that he really did not care if Canada won or lost, but the Korean neighbor of his was crying when the American gymnest won the gold medal! Actually crying!


What is it with the people here? I have been to the Bahamas, the people are secure, cool, great people. Australians are confident, cool. The English, the Irish, the Thais, the Kenyens, the Japanese, this is the only group of people that seems to really need such recognition. Even a friendly game of pool becomes a spectacular contest down the street at the pool room. Geezzzzzzzzzzzz, I like competition, but too much can make a person crazy.

I


Sorry, but your thread contains far too much evidence and too many clear examples of why you're right for the Korean mind to deal with.

I have a Korean friend, cool guy and all, but he thinks his circle of western friends is always out to put down Korea when we bitch about stupid little things. For instance, I once made a remark when we were talking to someone who might be going to Russia that I found Korea a like Russia in some respects: very easy to find stuff from street vendors who are everywhere, garbage everywhere, and an excellent metro system. Two positives, one negative. He looks at me like he can't believe I would point out the obvious about garbage like that. Can you imagine a Russian getting offended by such a statement? And he's one of the more easy going Koreans I know.
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eamo



Joined: 08 Mar 2003
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PostPosted: Thu Mar 24, 2005 6:07 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

The arm wrestling thing is funny because I've seen that scenario so often.
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Swiss James



Joined: 26 Nov 2003
Location: Shanghai

PostPosted: Thu Mar 24, 2005 6:16 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I agree that Koreans feel they have a lot to prove, and yeah they are kind of insecure- maybe getting less so though, I remember a few years ago people would regularly ask me whether I thought Korea was a third world country, haven't had that question in a long time.

On a side note, none of the guys in my office can beat me at arm wrestling now, and boy do I rub it in their faces every time we drink together.
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Gwangjuboy



Joined: 08 Jul 2003
Location: England

PostPosted: Thu Mar 24, 2005 6:23 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

If they do well at sport they lack any grace.
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Deconstructor



Joined: 30 Dec 2003
Location: Canada

PostPosted: Fri Mar 25, 2005 11:45 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Koreans are insecure only when dealing with Westerners. This is partly because they�ve romanticized the West and the English language to the point of absurdity. Furthermore, Koreans are new to the modern world; their economy is only 30 years old. I think they're still going through growing pains. Have you listened to their music? It is so nauseatingly romantic, that one wants to bash either the radio or one's own head. Have you noticed how shy Koreans are? It will disappear as they become as cutthroat in capitalism as we are.

I notice certain childish innocence about Koreans, which, I think is the result of inexperience. They�ll grow out of it. On the other hand, maybe they shouldn�t. It�s not like what we�ve achieved in the West is so desirable.
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jajdude



Joined: 18 Jan 2003

PostPosted: Fri Mar 25, 2005 12:29 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

It is strange. Well I understand a little korean. And I hear conversation shifts due to my presence. Waygook appears, and you hear conversation shift. I'd call that insecurity. Or perhaps a county that is simply not so interactive with Earth.

My guess: 99% of Koreans need 99% Korean everything 99% OF THE TIME.
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mindmetoo



Joined: 02 Feb 2004

PostPosted: Fri Mar 25, 2005 4:53 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Another reason Koreans remind me of Canadians. "Oh, isn't Canada great? Don't you notice how safe it is, not dangerous like America. Yeah, Canada is great..."
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Hollywoodaction



Joined: 02 Jul 2004

PostPosted: Fri Mar 25, 2005 5:11 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

jajdude wrote:
It is strange. Well I understand a little korean. And I hear conversation shifts due to my presence. Waygook appears, and you hear conversation shift.


Yes, I've noticed that some conversations turn to comparing Korea to other countries within a second of them noticing my presence. Rather silly. If I don't understand what they are saying, I ask my wife to translate. She usually says it's too stupid to bother.
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Tiger Beer



Joined: 07 Feb 2003

PostPosted: Fri Mar 25, 2005 7:49 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Hollywoodaction wrote:
jajdude wrote:
It is strange. Well I understand a little korean. And I hear conversation shifts due to my presence. Waygook appears, and you hear conversation shift.


Yes, I've noticed that some conversations turn to comparing Korea to other countries within a second of them noticing my presence. Rather silly. If I don't understand what they are saying, I ask my wife to translate. She usually says it's too stupid to bother.


Yeah, I experience that all the time as well. Usually its stupid stuff like the waygood isn't eating his bi-bim-bap correctly (because I scoop out some of the sauce) - and a big commotion occurs with one of the ajummas.. and a few laughs and jokes.. and everything settles down again.

Recently though had a nearby table of middle-aged Koreans going on and on about 'playboy' & 'SBS' and 'waygook' and whatever else. Made me uncomfortable.. but noticed it wasn't directed at me (they never looked at me - and I was glancing over there regularly). Funny its like subconsciously moved to that direction.. but then they seemed to totally seem unaware that I was still in the room.

(On the other side of the coin, I am sure foreigners go off about Koreans all the time in their prescense as well).
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casey's moon



Joined: 14 Sep 2004
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PostPosted: Fri Mar 25, 2005 8:13 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

mindmetoo wrote:
Another reason Koreans remind me of Canadians. "Oh, isn't Canada great? Don't you notice how safe it is, not dangerous like America. Yeah, Canada is great..."


As a Canadian, I am forced to agree with this. I'm cured of my "did you know *insert famous Canuck's name* is Canadian?" thanks to living in Korea. I'm so sick and tired of the way the media (and my husband) pay attention to any and all remotely famous Koreans, even the gyopos. I've finally cured my husband of reminding me that Korean dramas are very popular in Japan Rolling Eyes . I'm also sick and tired of my fellow Canadian teachers making ignorant anti-American comments and generalising about what makes Canadians better. Rolling Eyes

Not that I don't love Canada and Korea -- I do. But seriously.... grow up!
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manlyboy



Joined: 01 Aug 2004
Location: Darwin, Northern Territory, Australia

PostPosted: Fri Mar 25, 2005 8:55 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I have had/seen this exact same conversation several times:

Westerner: Koreans are very sensitive.

Korean: WE ARE NOT! WE ARE NOT!

Westerner: Look at you. You're being sensitive right now.

Korean: (pauses) YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND US!
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Sooke



Joined: 12 Jan 2004
Location: korea

PostPosted: Sat Mar 26, 2005 4:50 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

mindmetoo wrote:
Another reason Koreans remind me of Canadians. "Oh, isn't Canada great? Don't you notice how safe it is, not dangerous like America. Yeah, Canada is great..."


And this is an example of why you remind me of a tool, tool.
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