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Badmojo



Joined: 07 Mar 2004
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PostPosted: Wed Apr 13, 2005 4:24 am    Post subject: Re: hmm Reply with quote

desultude wrote:
kalbi wrote:
I think I would go along with either Peppermint's or The Bobster's suggestion.

However, I would like to raise an issue that one one else has: Privacy rights of this naughty kid.

-Is it possible that this kid's right to privacy is being violated?

-Is it ethically appropriate for a teacher to post the assignments of any students on a public message board without the student's permission?

-Would it matter if this were an essay as opposed to a journal entry??

Would love to hear your thoughts on this issue.

Kalbi


I agree. This may be cause for teaching about respect in the classroom, in a general way, but should not be linked with a journal.

I am doing research right now about journal writing. Thanks, R.R., for the link.

If we are to teach respect to our students, it starts first by example. The co-worker lost any moral high ground by sharing the contents of the diary in the first place. If we don't treat our students with respect, we shouldn't expect it from them.


Are you kidding?

This is a written composition for submission.

It's not a private journal entry. There's a big difference.

Something has to be done about this kid. You can't disrespect your teacher like that and get away with it. If any kid calls me as little as "babo", he's going to hear about it and there will be repercussions. This journal entry was a thousand times worse.

This arrogant little *beep* needs to learn some respect.
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kalbi



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PostPosted: Wed Apr 13, 2005 4:34 am    Post subject: O.K. Reply with quote

Ok Bad Mojo

Lets say that this was a composition and not a 'diary entry' as the original post states. Is it your position that it is ok for a teacher to publish online a composition that one of his/her students turned in, WITHOUT the permission of the student?
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Badmojo



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PostPosted: Wed Apr 13, 2005 4:52 am    Post subject: Re: O.K. Reply with quote

kalbi wrote:
Ok Bad Mojo

Lets say that this was a composition and not a 'diary entry' as the original post states. Is it your position that it is ok for a teacher to publish online a composition that one of his/her students turned in, WITHOUT the permission of the student?


First things first. It would be nice to know what this thing was. The OP was vague, saying "it was a journal entry written to the teacher." I thought by default that meant a composition, but maybe it wasn't.

Ok, on to your question - what if it was a diary entry? I say the kid is free to write whatever he wants in his diary AND the violation is not made when the teacher posts it on the Internet, but when the teacher reads it in the first place, IF he or she didn't have permission.

Now, what if the teacher had permission to look at the diary, but that was all. He or she then posts it on the Internet without asking. As long as they're not naming names, I wouldn't get too uptight about it. Privacy is being invaded, but does it matter so much when you don't know whose it is?
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redbird



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PostPosted: Wed Apr 13, 2005 6:02 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I've been around plenty of teachers who assign journals in the states, but I've always felt uneasy about them. A few days ago, I saw the article RR linked to and found myself agreeing with it. Kudos to the Koreans who articulated these privacy concerns.

If you assign journals, sooner or later, you're going to find out something you wish you didn't know. This time, it was how a student felt about a teacher. Next time, it could be some darker secret. Then, there's a huge ethical choice to make-- do you respect a student's privacy or do you alert the authorities?

One way to avoid some of these issues would be to assign fiction writing, I guess.
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canadian_in_korea



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PostPosted: Wed Apr 13, 2005 6:02 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I think perhaps some people are misunderstanding the "journal activity". You see they do this in schools in Canada also, my daughter had a journal in school that she passed into the teacher....the teacher read what she wrote ...made comments....asked questions to encourage her to elaborate on her previous writings. I could be wrong but this could possibly be the beginnings of learning how to write an essay...? The bottom line is this....my daughter was well aware that this was something done in school....to be handed into the teacher. Now if the teacher asked for the student to bring their diary from home...and snooped through it ...then yes....it is a violation of anyone's right to privacy. BUT.....I'm pretty sure that in this case the student was most likely aware that the journal entry would be passed into the teacher for evaluation. One of the things that I know appreciate more about Canadian society is that respect is earned....not given like it is here in korea....you respect me because i'm older than you, i grew up in a better hometown than you, i graduated from a better university than you. In Canada....if you haven't done anything that deserves respect....then i'm not going to give it to you...i couldn't care less where you went to school, how old you are or where you grew up...if you are a jerk that is all that matters. Someone once told me that in certain situations...you must demand respect...I think this applies with teaching english (at least in korea).....It is very easy to tell which korean teachers the students respect and which ones they don't....as foreigners I don't know if demanding anything will work here....we most likely wouldn't get it anyway.
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Badmojo



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PostPosted: Wed Apr 13, 2005 6:42 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

canadian_in_korea wrote:
I One of the things that I know appreciate more about Canadian society is that respect is earned....not given like it is here in korea....you respect me because i'm older than you, i grew up in a better hometown than you, i graduated from a better university than you. In Canada....if you haven't done anything that deserves respect....then i'm not going to give it to you...i couldn't care less where you went to school, how old you are or where you grew up...if you are a jerk that is all that matters.


That's beautiful. There are some things, "when in Rome", you change, but that's one I'll never change. Respect is not free.

I couldn't care less if you own the damn hagwon. If you want to stroll around with your hands behind your back glaring intently at your workers through your one "unlazy" eye, or sulk because I didn't bow or say hello to you, or you tell your workers... "If you don't want to work here, you don't have to", then I am not giving you an ounce of respect...

which may have everything to do with my thread last summer, "Given 5 days notice WTF."

There is a price to pay for holding onto to that attitude here.
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Ya-ta Boy



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PostPosted: Wed Apr 13, 2005 7:08 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

My reading of the situation is a little different.

The kid wrote something he knew the teacher was going to read. There is no privacy issue here. The kid was trying to communicate directly to one teacher his anger at another teacher.

Kids and everyone else are entitled to get angry. The manner of expressing that anger is a matter of public concern. I would say that physically harming or threatening to harm others is over the line.

The teacher who received the entry should call the kid in for a private chat and talk to him about two things:

a) What did the teacher do to him that made him so angry? (It wasn't assigning homework. Something else happened.)

b) Then discuss acceptable ways to express anger. Many people express their anger and hurt feelings by saying things like 'I will kill you' and it means nothing.


I would also like to mention that Koreans have a very different set of values about privacy. I get the feeling that the posters who got caught up in the privacy issue in this situation are applying Western standards, not Korean standards.
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redbird



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PostPosted: Wed Apr 13, 2005 10:00 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

canadian_in_korea wrote:
I think perhaps some people are misunderstanding the "journal activity". You see they do this in schools in Canada also, my daughter had a journal in school that she passed into the teacher....the teacher read what she wrote ...made comments....asked questions to encourage her to elaborate on her previous writings. I could be wrong but this could possibly be the beginnings of learning how to write an essay...? The bottom line is this....my daughter was well aware that this was something done in school....to be handed into the teacher. Now if the teacher asked for the student to bring their diary from home...and snooped through it ...then yes....it is a violation of anyone's right to privacy. BUT.....I'm pretty sure that in this case the student was most likely aware that the journal entry would be passed into the teacher for evaluation.


"Definitions of journal on the Web:

diary: a daily written record of (usually personal) experiences and observations"

That was the first Google hit for "journal definition". I'm not saying that the two words are exactly equivalent in meaning, just that they're so close that they often mean the same thing. Yes, your daughter hands the journal into the teacher and she knows the teacher looks thru it. Does she also know that if she writes something disturbing, whether she means it or not, then the teacher may have to turn the journal over to the authorities? Do all the children understand that?

If the assignment were to keep a paper version of a blog that regularly gets posted in the classroom, then the expectations would be more obvious. I'm sure that most teachers who assign journals just want to get kids to write something, anything, but there's an element of snooping here that bothers me, especially when unusual journal entries are shared with other teachers.

And I agree with "Ya-ta Boy" that the teachers on this forum are applying western values to the situation. I'm not really going to apologize for that when I feel those values restrain me in some way they should. But the article RR cited involved Koreans complaining about journal assignments. To just dismiss their feelings on the matter, you'd pretty much have to say that there's really some hidden agenda in their complaints-- and maybe there is for all I know.

But I'm guessing that there's a privacy issue for Koreans that may revolve around teachers prying into students' private lives, especially what happens at home. The real issue may be less the privacy of the students, but rather the privacy of families.
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canadian_in_korea



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PostPosted: Wed Apr 13, 2005 2:52 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Badmojo you are right, there most definately a price to pay for keeping that attitude while here. One of the things my husband is looking forward to very much is being able to express his opinion freely when someone asks for it. It took a bit for my to explain the deal about respect though.....and that your boss/coworkers/friends don't meddle in your life, if they do you are well within your rights to tell them thanks but no thanks for the advice.


I see what you are saying redbird, myself I think that if a child writes something in a journal that might be disturbing whether it is something that is happening at home or something they intend to do, perhaps they are aware of exactly what they are doing and it is a way to ask for help..? As far as it goes for writing something "mean" or hurtful about the person that is going to be reading the diary, I daresay my daughter has more "tact"...common sense whatever you want to call it. But I think this is something that Korean people don't grasp, they are almost too honest, saying what they believe without a thought about the person's feelings. Another of my husband's complaints about Korean society is that people take it upon themselves to butt into your life and tell you what you should do. The problem appears to be that they butt in when it is something like who you are dating, how much money you make.....but if a woman is getting the crap beat out of her by her husband nobody wants to get involved.
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Ken8589



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PostPosted: Wed Apr 13, 2005 7:04 pm    Post subject: Re: hmm Reply with quote

Badmojo wrote:
Are you kidding?

This is a written composition for submission.

It's not a private journal entry. There's a big difference.

Something has to be done about this kid. You can't disrespect your teacher like that and get away with it. If any kid calls me as little as "babo", he's going to hear about it and there will be repercussions. This journal entry was a thousand times worse.

This arrogant little *beep* needs to learn some respect.

Badmojo, in this situation you are the adult. Yes, you are human too but as a teacher having such an antagonistic viewpoint toward a ten-year old student is very disenchanting. The kid did show disrespect through the journal entry but fussing him out will not change his attitude. Maybe this means the teacher hasn't gotten to know the student enough.

To the original poster, I say that teacher should confront the student about it. It was a well-written assignment but you have to explain how it made them feel. I wouldn't take it too personally though and would try to continue being a good mentor to the child.
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crazykiwi



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PostPosted: Wed Apr 13, 2005 7:24 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

First things first. The privacy issue is a load of bollocks as far as im concerned. the definition of a "journal" in this place is far from western standards. yes, its a chance for the kids to do some writing, and as i am the partner teacher, i feel i have a right to read this journal. As for posting it on the net, its not exactly going to harm the kid, the teacher or me as it was done totally anonomously. If i posted something that was positive would the moral brigade be out in such force? i think not!

Anyway, after talking to soem friends about what i should do, we have come up with some solutions. We have figured out that maybe he thinks his english is better than hers therefore the respect has gone out the window. yes, his diary was almost word perfect, but he has to know when to draw the line. will post later when ive seen him.

thanks for all the useful, and sometimes useless advice

crazy
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kalbi



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PostPosted: Wed Apr 13, 2005 7:42 pm    Post subject: Hmm Reply with quote

I think that a student turning in any assignment has a reasonable expectation that the teacher will read it; and that (s)he may show it to another teacher. I do not think any student expects their work to be published ***'in its entirety' on-line.

As to whether a Korean or Western standard should be applied, do we use coporal punishment in class because the Korean teachers do? Should we as foreign teachers check in our standards at Incheon Airport?

I am not necessarily advocating one position or the other. Instead, my intent is simply to flag some issues that should, at the very least, be considered.

K.
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PostPosted: Wed Apr 13, 2005 8:58 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Isn't this the sort of thing that should be shown to the child's parent?
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Merlyn



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PostPosted: Wed Apr 13, 2005 10:04 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

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hey guys,

here is the diary a young 10 year old, with the most excellent english, wrote to my co-worker. just want some reactions, as in typical korean co-worker style, it has been brushed aside, and evrything is ok, and we should give him another chance.


A teacher can be mean or nice. But @@@@ teacher is the worst worst teacher you evr met. She gives her student homework. she gave me homework to write a diary 2 pages. but im going to write only 1 page (i could write 2 pages but i dont have space!) If a student likes her or loves her he/she is a stupid. i bet nobody in the world likes her, even her parents dont like her. (thats a tiny tiny sad, only 0.1 percent sad) i think nobody will marry her because she is fat, ugly, short, old. i wonder why she has to be so foolish?

(i dont have space to write) why would she placed on earth? she could be in the moon, mars, and the sun! that would be perfect to put her in a spaceship and blast her off to the moon without a space suit. that will be allright. after all, she was bad to us so we need to be bad to her, only her and i made a song

joy to the world! the teacher is dead. we bbq her head. we flush in the potty. now where do we put the head? round and round it go. aren't we very naughty? isnt it funny? i bet it is so funny. by the way. what she did to me was mean!


so folks, what woul;d your reaction have been to a diary such as this tripe?




I think it is a fine story. I wrote the same kinds of essays like that about the bad teachers I had growing up who were unusually cruel and an inhumane and who thought they deserved respect just for the sake of being my teacher. Except, mine usually involved the teacher walking up the stairs while my brother and I poured mustard and ketchup at the top so when she reached the top she would slip and fall down the stairs hurting herself.
There is nothing written in the OP at all that actually talks about the teacher in question, only the student, so we're only getting one side of the story. Everyone is assuming that this teacher should simply be given respect by the students, but it shouldn't work that way. There are a lot of crap teachers out there and I've worked with a number of them as well and the students give them a hard time and rightfully so. Good teachers, who have earned their students' respect get diaries that say, I love and respect my teacher, or my teacher is an angel. I feel sorry for the student who would, quite possibly, have to put up with this monster of a teacher.
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PostPosted: Thu Apr 14, 2005 12:57 am    Post subject: Re: The most insulting diary EVER! Reply with quote

crazykiwi wrote:
hey guys,

here is the diary a young 10 year old, with the most excellent english, wrote to my co-worker. just want some reactions, as in typical korean co-worker style, it has been brushed aside, and evrything is ok, and we should give him another chance.


A teacher can be mean or nice. But @@@@ teacher is the worst worst teacher you evr met. She gives her student homework. she gave me homework to write a diary 2 pages. but im going to write only 1 page (i could write 2 pages but i dont have space!) If a student likes her or loves her he/she is a stupid. i bet nobody in the world likes her, even her parents dont like her. (thats a tiny tiny sad, only 0.1 percent sad) i think nobody will marry her because she is fat, ugly, short, old. i wonder why she has to be so foolish?

(i dont have space to write) why would she placed on earth? she could be in the moon, mars, and the sun! that would be perfect to put her in a spaceship and blast her off to the moon without a space suit. that will be allright. after all, she was bad to us so we need to be bad to her, only her and i made a song

joy to the world! the teacher is dead. we bbq her head. we flush in the potty. now where do we put the head? round and round it go. aren't we very naughty? isnt it funny? i bet it is so funny. by the way. what she did to me was mean!


so folks, what woul;d your reaction have been to a diary such as this tripe? laterz

crazy



Can you just clarify that the co-worker this was written to is the same Korean co-worker who 'brushed it aside'? It seems like they're taking it pretty lightly if so, so is there a reason for that, perhaps something missing from this picture? Also, is this student one of your students too or not?

Secondly, does the teacher in question deserve to be called mean, as in do they beat their students or treat them unfairly? Or is the kid just in a snot because they were given homework, perish the thought?

Thirdly, the English, while impressive for a 10 year old, especially in terms of vocabulary, is hardly word-perfect.

Fourthly, I would not take this as a laughing matter because, even if it was funny, that would send the wrong message. Someone said that teachers are granted respect here purely for their position but this student appears completely lacking in respect for at least one teacher. Imagine if they grow up treating people at work like that.

So, assuming it's your student too, I would probably beat the crap out of a punch bag in the gym first, just to get it out of my system - Twisted Evil -, then put corrections in red ink - or another colour if you really have an issue with red ink - and detailed explanations all over the diary entry. That's work but helps to take the kid down a peg, is doing your job, and may be the kind of attention they need. Then I'd fix on a cold stare, call the student up - in front of the class, possibly - and ask them if it's ok to say bad things about a teacher, wait for a proper answer, ask them why, then ask them what their mom thinks. If they go silent or give you attitude right to your face, send them outside for 5 minutes then call them in and ask again; if they agree it's not ok, bingo, the next step is to apologize; if they stick to their guns, insist on a (good) reason. The next step is to write an apology or write it again but including corrections and explaining why giving homework is bad, why it makes X teacher 'the worst worst teacher you ever met' (good expression!), why it means the whole world hates this teacher, and why killing her is ok. Bet you writing the apology is easier.

If it's not your student of course, there's little you can do...
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