Korean Job Discussion Forums

trigger123 · Posted: Tue May 17, 2005 7:55 pm Post subject:

steriodmaximus wrote:

Harpeau · Joined: 01 Feb 2003 Location: Coquitlam, BC

I think Western women are very attractive. Before I married, I thought that I would wed a Westerner. I just figured that I would be better off that way.

But then I met my wife. We were compatible, she spoke fairly good English, we both shared a love of playing music (guitar & piano), and we were both ready for a serious relationship. (BTW, she's Korean. Very Happy

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I think that one thing that makes a difference is that people be ready for something long term. I think one of the worst problems with Western guys dating Korean women is that guys sometimes have a tendency of "objectifying" women. They are a sex object or trophy. Most of these relationships tend to break apart after a few years since the guy doesn't allow the relationship to grow and mature. Call me crazy, but I've seen it happen so often.

My wife and I have both grown over the years. We're both very passionate "hot-blooded" people so we tend to be hard on each other a lot. Yet, over the years, things are getting better.

In any event, I still think Western women are hot. But personality goes a long way with me.

Cheers!
Harpeau

PolyChronic Time Girl · Joined: 15 Dec 2004 Location: Korea Exited

Summer Wine · Joined: 20 Mar 2005 Location: Next to a River

agraham · Joined: 19 Aug 2004 Location: Daegu, Korea

thorin · Joined: 14 Apr 2003

Living in Korea and dating a westerner is like living in Korea and eating at McDonalds every day. Dating someone you can't communicate with is like going to a Korean restaurant, closing your eyes, pointing at the menu and eating whatever they bring you. After reading that other thread, I'm hungry for black noodles:

thorin · Joined: 14 Apr 2003

sillywilly · Joined: 20 Jan 2003 Location: Canada.

[quote="thorin"]Living in Korea and dating a westerner is like living in Korea and eating at McDonalds every day. Dating someone you can't communicate with is like going to a Korean restaurant, closing your eyes, pointing at the menu and eating whatever they bring you. After reading that other thread, I'm hungry for black noodles:

Is that why you hear western men asking: " You want fries with that shake?" Couldn't help it, sorry. I would hope that any interesting partner would be more like a highschool caf: somethign new and mysterious everyday. Maybe thats idealistic.

pollyplummer · Joined: 07 Mar 2005 Location: McMinnvillve, Oregon

[quote="PolyChronic Time Girl"]

PolyChronic Time Girl · Joined: 15 Dec 2004 Location: Korea Exited

Actually he wants to study Spanish with me!! I have to pass a proficiency test in Spanish for future grad school, so unfortunately, my time has been more focused on Spanish than on Korean at the moment. So maybe Spanish will be the language....I'm just beginning Spanish, so maybe we can start fresh together. I know that another poster, Cedar, speaks Chinese to her husband, although neither of them are native speakers of the language. I just read your other post...yeah, it will be hard for him to study Spanish...but you should have heard him belt out Richie Valen's "La Bamba" at the local noraebang with a pretty decent Spanish accent...I was floored Shocked

But since we plan to move to the states (Oregon, hopefully!) he also wants to speak English. He said he now wants to speak/study English...now if only I can pull him away from Tooniverse to study Laughing

Cedar · Posted: Wed May 18, 2005 1:41 am Post subject:

PP- if you read up on pidgens, your worries are unfounded. Parents speak pidgen, children speak a creole (a new language with a grammar and everything). Or, if they are in an environment, say, of English speakers, they still don't take on the bad habits they hear at home (otherwise all those Gyopos wouldn't have perfect English, would they?) so they become fluent speakers of English even if they hear pidgen at home.

schwa · Joined: 18 Jan 2003 Location: Yap

nev · Joined: 04 Jan 2004 Location: ch7t

Callipear · Joined: 02 Mar 2005 Location: Seoul Mapo-gu Seogyo-dong

My korean boyfriend and I have been living together in paris for the past 3 years. We speak French together - but we also communicate in English and a little Korean. (my first Language is english). He's just left for Korea, and I'll be joining him soon, so one day I hope to have Korean under my belt too. My BF's English is pretty awful (bad pronounciation and grammar), but he understands 85% of what I say. Our dream is to one day be able to communicate with each other in our respective native languages. Because no matter how good either of us is in French, it's not our native language and I feel that our ability to express ourselves suffers, and will continue to suffer especially since we'll no longer live in France. Communication in french is okay but sometimes it leaves a lot to be desired. Using our own native languages there'd be less of a discrepency between what we mean to say and what actually comes out of our mouths...I know this is a farfetched dream, but we're working steadily towards it.
Everyone solves their communication problems differently, and I know that being able to say what you want to say doesn't solve everything, but it will help smooth over a few of the bumps in our relationship, not to mention provide the impetus for learning another language fluently! Cool

Yu_Bum_suk · Joined: 25 Dec 2004