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Racism, the Korean experience?
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pest2



Joined: 01 Jun 2005
Location: Vancouver, Canada

PostPosted: Sun Jun 05, 2005 4:21 pm    Post subject: It's still not a bad idea.... Reply with quote

first, the guy with the picket believed it was racism because there were Korean guys going to the hotplace with bad skin... who knows if it really was racism or not though.

Second, yeah, I agree, the whole, diluted blood thing is very hard to swallow. We come from places where the culture transcends ethnicity so it seems odd to us when someone says, "oh, you cannot be from country x because you do not have y parents." Korea is like this insignificant little country sandwiched between two much bigger places and in which all the people look more or less like the people from those bigger places. So they get touchy about that.... you know, its kind of similar to the way in which Canadians get touchy when people just assume they're american...

I try to stay objective when talking about cultures... in fact, learning about Korean culture while I was there was a good way to avoid getting angry and fed up with it. But sometimes you just can't escape making the 'judgement calls,' and I think this is one of those times. I, personally find it really annoying to live in a place where the mindset created by the culture is such that it defines a "must be native or non native" mentality. Regardless of the reason that Korea is the way it is:yeah, if you read this forum and you are a single person who is coming to a new country from any other country and you have a choice about where you can go, maybe you should stay away from Korea.

Finally, I dont think it would be fair to say that the situation is about Koreans and Americans and Canadians "better or worse" than each other. Its about "different" than each other. And the former has an inferiority complex with respect to the latter, so there is some kind of fear there... Have you ever met a really short guy who gets all huffy and puffy and acts more macho and aggressive just to be sure to get his point across that he isnt a "short weakling"? OK so thats like how Korea stacks up in the scheme of all countries maybe...

I think if you read between the lines of the post that preceds this one, you can see the kind of logic that leads to the 'korean national short guy complex.' It goes like, 'its not that we think we are better than you. It's that we don't like you because we are afraid you will think you're better than us'.

Ive gotta say that since I've been living here in China, I've noticed that things are totally different. Shanghai, too, is/was of a confucian, traditional origin. But you can freely and easily walk around the city with a Chinese woman and even make out on the subway and the other people there just dont care. Chinese culture DOES transcend race and Chinese have a tradition of thinking they are the center of the world. If Korea is the shortguy, China is Arnold Schwartzeneggar. However, of course, the cultural revolution changed alot of things...

Yeah, it's true, the GIs in Korea cause some problems there, but Korea is not the only place that has American GIs and yet it does seem to be one of the only places that has such an anti-american GI sentiment. And, I mean, come on.... if those GI's hadn't come to the rescue 45 years ago, Koreans wouldnt even be able to read posts on this internet site... ah the ironies of history and present...
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peony



Joined: 30 Mar 2005

PostPosted: Sun Jun 05, 2005 4:43 pm    Post subject: Re: Racism, the Korean experience? Reply with quote

Jimm wrote:
I have spent a signifigiant amount of time in Japan and SE Asia. I have also spent a signifigant amount of time in Korea Town NYC. I was dating a Korean Woman for about six months. In Japan, people minded their own business like no place else on earth. In most of SE Asia, if people gave me looks it was generally out of curiosity. However, while I was in America dating a Korean girl in NYC (albeit Korea Town) it seemed like at every restaurant we went to we both received nasty looks and bitter comments. I have only been in two fights in my life and both of them were in Korea Town with Korean men who seemed to not have the testosterone to deal with the fact I was with a Korean girl. I suspect that if I go to teach in Korea my experience will be dominated by hateful looks, discrimination, fighting and excellent kimchi. I'm sure if I was willing to walk around with my tail between my legs I could avoid alot of this, but I know I'm not going to take any sh*t just for being a white male(i.e. tolerate racism). Am I off on this or is my experience living in Korea Town a good model for living in the real thing? I posted this on the Job-related discussion board, because it directly related to whether or not I teach in Korea.



that's really odd. im a korean-american woman, live in nyc and have a white boyfriend. we go to koreatown all the time both in the city and in queens and at no time have we ever been looked at in any weird way whatsoever. and believe me, my b/f has a high radar for it as we went through a few things while teaching in korea together. that said, when we were in korea, aside from a few unpleasant looks and maybe a couple of incidents, nothing nasty really happened.
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JacktheCat



Joined: 08 May 2004

PostPosted: Sun Jun 05, 2005 5:09 pm    Post subject: Re: Racism, the Korean experience? Reply with quote

Alias wrote:

A Korean man with a white women = Stud.

A Korean woman with a white man = Race Traitor.



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Gollum



Joined: 04 Sep 2003
Location: Japan

PostPosted: Sun Jun 05, 2005 5:10 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Paddycakes wrote:
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"Just curious what you look like. I have this theory that Korean men seem less upset/offended if an average-looking brown-haired short to medium-height guy dates a foriegn Korean girl, as opposed to a tall blonde foreigner."



Hahahha, that's classic!

And what emperical evidence is this based on? Or even logic?

Do you follow around ESL teachers of Scandanavian decent and measure the reaction of Korean men as they go around with K-girls?

I can see you now hidding behind a bush... "Oh, look, that Korean man's frown is at a 96.4 degree angle... I shall add this to my study and present my findings to the Dave's Fact Finding Commission on Racism in Korea at once!"

Sorry for being sarcastic! I couldn't resist.

I don't even know how you define tall anymore, but I'm somewhat bigger than most Korean men. Maybe that's it. Maybe if I was small and puny the Koreans would feel more brave... I don't know.

I still think most Dave's posters are paranoid. It makes me wonder if it's a chicken and egg kind of thing. How much of the paranoia is created after reading Dave's too long.



Still no answer?

Height/weight/haircolor?

Afraid to prove me right?
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Paddycakes



Joined: 05 May 2003
Location: Seoul

PostPosted: Sun Jun 05, 2005 5:23 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I look like Ron Jeremy on a bad hair day...
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Hollywoodaction



Joined: 02 Jul 2004

PostPosted: Mon Jun 06, 2005 3:00 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Grotto wrote:
Yes there is racism in Korea
If you go looking for trouble you will find it.
If you are polite you will have little trouble in Korea.

That being said you may run into some stick in the mud adjoshhi who will give you crap for being with a Korean girl. Simply place yourself between the girl you are with and the ajoshhi and keep your back to him. Other Koreans may step in to tell him to back off. If nothing else you are letting him know how little his opinion means to you. Getting in a fight with him is what he wants.


You have no clue if you think only men can be racist. Try walking around with a baby in your arms (in my case, my son). Generally, women come up to have a look at my son because they simply love babies (and he's so darn cute and handsome). But, there's often one or two that simply comes up to us, takes a good look at our faces, and then smiles sheepishly when she is satisified that I'm the father. The most insulting ones, however, are the few Korean women (usually middle-aged housewives in luxury sedans) who slow down while driving to get a good look at my face.
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Paddycakes



Joined: 05 May 2003
Location: Seoul

PostPosted: Mon Jun 06, 2005 9:59 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

What do you expect? You're oddity in Kimchie Land! Get over it!

I remember once in Canada a saw a very tall black man who was wearing quite the suit. This was in Victoria, and there are basically no blacks or ethnics there. Victoria is still pretty Waspy.

I couldn't help stare at the guy, along with everyone else.

Why? You don't see people like him everyday, and your eye sight is naturally drawn to things that look different.

It must be the same for Koreans.

You're different here. Korea is not Toronto or New York or London; it's not a multi-cultural place where you see different types of people everday.

Just be glad you're not a Filipino or a Pakastani 3D worker; if anyone gets the racist treatment in Korea it's them because I suppose the Koreans probably genuinely feel superior to them (which from a world power point of view they are).
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rapier



Joined: 16 Feb 2003

PostPosted: Mon Jun 06, 2005 11:42 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Ultimately, as the different races and cultures of the world, we need to be mixing and coming together, hard process that it is.

Here in Korea we are still forerunners in this long and worthwhile process. So are mixed race kids in korean schools, etc.
But it has to be done, and hopefully one day Korea will have become a lot more cosmopolitan and open to all nationalities. Same must happen in many other countries. its a worthwhile thing. Think about that next time you suffer a bit of racism. Running home and sticking with your own, in our comfortable separate groupings, is not going to advance humanity.
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Hollywoodaction



Joined: 02 Jul 2004

PostPosted: Tue Jun 07, 2005 6:35 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Paddycakes wrote:
What do you expect? You're oddity in Kimchie Land! Get over it!

I remember once in Canada a saw a very tall black man who was wearing quite the suit. This was in Victoria, and there are basically no blacks or ethnics there. Victoria is still pretty Waspy.

I couldn't help stare at the guy, along with everyone else.

Why? You don't see people like him everyday, and your eye sight is naturally drawn to things that look different.

It must be the same for Koreans.

You're different here. Korea is not Toronto or New York or London; it's not a multi-cultural place where you see different types of people everday.

Just be glad you're not a Filipino or a Pakastani 3D worker; if anyone gets the racist treatment in Korea it's them because I suppose the Koreans probably genuinely feel superior to them (which from a world power point of view they are).


You don't get it. Read my post again. Some are staring or coming up to look at my son because they suspect I kidnapped him. Trust me, it's quite easy to tell the difference between those women and the ones who just love looking at babies. That's not being an oddity, it's being subjected to racism.
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pest2



Joined: 01 Jun 2005
Location: Vancouver, Canada

PostPosted: Tue Jun 07, 2005 7:58 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

rapier wrote:
Ultimately, as the different races and cultures of the world, we need to be mixing and coming together, hard process that it is.

But it has to be done, and hopefully one day Korea will have become a lot more cosmopolitan and open to all nationalities. Same must happen in many other countries. its a worthwhile thing. Think about that next time you suffer a bit of racism. Running home and sticking with your own, in our comfortable separate groupings, is not going to advance humanity.


I mean, OK... this sounds great, rapier, and I'm sure it will get you points with the "Miss Korea 2005 Beauty Pageant", but do you really believe it? First of all, do you believe Korea will ever integrate?
Second, what is it about living in seperate groupings that denies, "the advancement of humanity?" I mean, come on, maybe humanity wasnt meant to advance as this one happy collective culture.. maybe we're meant to be comfortable and in our groups... Being different is what makes us happily unique and honestly it seems like that may be one of the (many) problems in Korea... people all want to be the same as "the original"... regardless of the verifiable good of that original...
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rapier



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PostPosted: Tue Jun 07, 2005 8:19 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

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[quote="pest2"]I mean, OK... this sounds great, rapier, and I'm sure it will get you points with the "Miss Korea 2005 Beauty Pageant", but do you really believe it? First of all, do you believe Korea will ever integrate?

Its happening slowly..I mean my friend was here 23 years ago and he said the difference since then is startling- the staring was full on open-mouthed shock every step you took, and the racism against him having a Korean girlfriend was ten times worse, not to mention that no korean had ever left their hometown or travelled out the country, never mind spoke English. So its loosened up a bit, and will continue to do so.
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Second, what is it about living in seperate groupings that denies, "the advancement of humanity?"

Advancement of peoples depends upon the exchange of new ideas and fresh blood, not only for the gene pool. I doubt koreans will still believe that fans kill, and that cruelty to dogs and bears etc is OK in 30 years from now. They'll probably even value their natural environment instead of destroying it, and perhaps hold women as equals in the workplace.
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I mean, come on, maybe humanity wasnt meant to advance as this one happy collective culture.. maybe we're meant to be comfortable and in our groups...

Difference cause disagreement. Racism and nationalism are crutch, fall-back- on identities for the weak.Living in the same town all your days and marrying your second cousin was normal before, but now we've invented easy and affordable international air travel. all humanity stems from a single mother in Africa millenia ago. Now we are able to renew our lworldwide kinship.
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Being different is what makes us happily unique and honestly it seems like that may be one of the (many) problems in Korea... people all want to be the same as "the original"... regardless of the verifiable good of that original...

Yes, I like variety, and different cultures add flavor and interest to the world. But surely the more we come together, the better we relate to eachother, the less serious conflicts we will have?
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eddiebaby



Joined: 13 May 2005

PostPosted: Tue Jun 07, 2005 8:41 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Sorry Im confused Confused

Some people talk about racism towards whites and some about Americans/Canadians. Does this mean that British people are exempt?

What about blacks?

Latinos?

In london Latinos are rare and therefore somehow seen as exotic but in madrid they are considered scum of the earth.

Whats clear is that racism is everywhere specialy if you look for it. Does this mean we should stand for it? NO, but your not going to change the mindset of a whole country by standing up to the drunk a**hole whose hurling abuse at you. Things wont change untill people realise its a problem and this takes time ie generations.

Again taking Spain as an example, people really dont think theyre being racist but in their every day vocabulary they use despective terms such as moro (refering to morrocans) and sudaca (ref to soth americans).
Its not until recently, during an international soccer friendly btwn Spain and England where monkey noises were shouted at black English players has there been some colective awakening. Even now however many Spaniards live in denial but I think things will begin to change.


I certainly dont know enough about socio-political and geographical factors regarding Korea, and maybe some of the xenophobia is justifiable, I dont know, but as I said earlier dont fight a one man/woman war aginst racism its just not worth it. Sorry if I sound cynical, but thats the way I see it.
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rapier



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PostPosted: Tue Jun 07, 2005 8:52 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

eddiebaby wrote:
dont fight a one man/woman war aginst racism its just not worth it. Sorry if I sound cynical, but thats the way I see it.


How will koreans ever grow up to relate to something different if every mixed-race child is sent away to a tolerant/comfortable/cosmopolitain school in the west? If every kid with learning difficulties, mixed parentage, etc etc is bundeled away into a secluded international/special school? This is the poit I'm really getting at. Prejudice breaks down gradually with repeated exposure to what is feared/ disliked.

I remember a black kid at school in N.england, the only one. In the beginning he really suffered a lot of victimisation. After a few years he had fought every other kid in the playground, and by the time he was 20, he was a tough character who pulled all the women, and nobody saw any difference between him and them.
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Paddycakes



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PostPosted: Tue Jun 07, 2005 10:37 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

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Some are staring or coming up to look at my son because they suspect I kidnapped him ... That's not being an oddity, it's being subjected to racism.


Hollwood, with all due respect how do you know what the Koreans are thinking? Have they ever phoned the police on you to report a kidnapping in progress?
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Hollywoodaction



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PostPosted: Tue Jun 07, 2005 4:29 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Paddycakes wrote:
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Some are staring or coming up to look at my son because they suspect I kidnapped him ... That's not being an oddity, it's being subjected to racism.


Hollwood, with all due respect how do you know what the Koreans are thinking? Have they ever phoned the police on you to report a kidnapping in progress?


Well, it's pretty obvious they are checking things out when you don't get the usual "He's so cute" reaction. They come up, look at me straight in the face, look at my baby, do a little coy smile as if it's an afterthought and then leave.
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