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Cedar · Posted: Fri Jul 08, 2005 4:28 am Post subject: To Celebrate Love

We've had too much talk about hate, and prejudice and getting through hard times and all that crap...

Why don't we have a happy happy thread to talk about love? This is a thread for people to say something positive about their relations with Koreans or Chinese or Americans or Japanese or whoever it is they love. I am not the only person "in love" on this board. I'd love to hear your stories of LOVE!

JacktheCat · Joined: 08 May 2004

I don't know how much luck you will have there Cedar.

The last time I tried to start a happy happy joy joy thread (Why I Love Korea) I got all of 6 responses; contrast that to the +10 pages the I Hate Korea thread has gotten.

eamo · Joined: 08 Mar 2003 Location: Shepherd's Bush, 1964.

Why do so many posters think it's important to post a happy thread?

If the internet reflects life at all then it's fitting that it does so in an accurate way.

If you want some asinine internet version of prozac then go right ahead.

Me? I'm happy with the world. Warts and all.

If there was no dirt there would be no growth.

Cedar · Posted: Fri Jul 08, 2005 6:51 am Post subject:

Eamo,

It's not that I am not happy with life, warts and all, it's that I AM happy with it warts and all. So I guess I'd like to talk about the stuff OTHER than the warts for once!

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I'll try to get this rolling by explaining why I posted this topic to start with.

You see, today I bumped into a friend, a fellow student, Korean who did his BA in America, very sweet, very nice, good looking, etc etc. Since I first met him last year he's been BIG time on this sort of "countdown" to marriage thing... like he felt like he had to find a wife but RIGHT NOW. I am not quite sure why he felt that urge now (he's about 29) but, regardless, he finally found a woman who also seemed to be interested in marriage track dating.

I ran into him today, we didn't see each other much in the past six months, so I asked how things were going. And his answer just seemed so depressing. So I tried to explain to him why he shouldn't get married just cause he already started that sort of marriage track, or just because if he doesn't he'll dissapoint people, or just because he feels obligated or like he can help her, or whatever. I did that. I got married to a man because of all the outside reasons, but without the inside reasons... so I am speaking from experience. (We separated close to 9 years ago, and divorced next time we could both be in the States at once).

This is what I explained to him; relationships can be work sometimes, and they go through harder spells and all that, but you need something to support that relationship on. When I think of my husband (my current husband), when I am sitting alone, relaxed... my heart feels bigger, tight in my chest. When I look at a photo of him, I feel so happy I want to sing him a song. He's the first thing I think of every time -- and the last person I think of before I fall asleep at night. I would go to the ends of the earth for this man. This joy that I get from this relationship is indescribable... or insufficiently describable. People cannot understand my relationship sometimes, because its so different than what woman are usually looking for (in a calculating way?) but I want to sing about it from the rooftops.

Perhaps I'm also especially joyous right now because I'll be leaving for China in just 8 days... and we're going to have the most spectacular wedding ceremony (timed to the summer vacation for the ease of my friends and family) and I am super super excited about it all.

I would LOVE to hear the love stories of the other people on this board. What's so special about your sweetheart? Do, please, tell!

Cedar · Posted: Fri Jul 08, 2005 4:50 pm Post subject:

C'mon, you guys cannot all be so bitter you have nothing to say... I hope!

JacktheCat · Joined: 08 May 2004

I gave up trying to get happy, joyful, the unbearable lightness of being threads going a long time ago.

They are some very unhappy, bitter people on this board.

the_beaver · Joined: 15 Jan 2003

I'd like to help, but while I could post on a happy thread I don't believe that love exists in the Harlequin Romance, chick-flick manner -- I think it's just a societal construct that the average person likes to situate themselves in.

Make a less specific happy thread and I'll post there.

uberscheisse · Joined: 02 Dec 2003 Location: japan is better than korea.

i'm happy as hell.

why?

-nice gf
-incredible friends
-good job, high pay
-going home to visit family for the first time in 18 months, in two weeks
-various material goods such as gibson les paul, ipod, motorbike that make my life interesting and fulfilling
-exercise regimen

and generally i'm a pretty awesome dude with a great attitude and a big heart.

people post on the internet when they're pissed off... when they're happy they go outside.

Corporal · Joined: 25 Jan 2003

Nothing wrong with happy threads, but there's something odd about sharing personal details with a large public messageboard, the vast majority of whose members you've never met and likely will never meet.

Yeah, I know, some of you go to gatherings, and shook the hands of like thirty other members, and got shit-faced together, but does that really mean anything? I'd have to say not, especially considering the number of two-faced comments about posters that are made AFTER those meetups.

JongnoGuru · Joined: 25 May 2004 Location: peeing on your doorstep

JongnoGuru · Joined: 25 May 2004 Location: peeing on your doorstep

uberscheisse · Joined: 02 Dec 2003 Location: japan is better than korea.

zappadelta · Joined: 31 Aug 2004

My post is not about my girlfriend, although she is wonderful and maybe I will post about her later if this thread keeps going. And, I have already posted about this a couple months ago, but I don't think many people read it. It's about my principal and coworkers at my elementary school. A couple months ago, I had a family emergency and had to go back to the states. I didn't have the cash, so my principal and teachers at my school came up with about 1200 dollars in about a 2 day span to send me back home. This was the nicest thing anyone has ever done for me, and these people were almost strangers. I had only been working there about 2 months when it happened. There are some real jerks out there, but there are also some incredible people as well.

bignate · Joined: 30 Apr 2003 Location: Hell's Ditch

Do you know that time just before you find somethig new and are able to escape something terrrible and stiffling - when you are finally able to breathe for the first time in a long time without sighing.....

New Love is always a beautiful thing

Always......

kermo · Posted: Fri Jul 08, 2005 7:07 pm Post subject:

Here's a couple of happy thoughts that have been pressing my "smile" button in the last 24 hours:

I successfully negotiated a longer vacation and my trip to Canada is coming up very very soon. Family and cheese products, here I come!

Last night I broke my no-flirting vow and spent the evening well-attended by a couple of American boys. A fine time was had by all.

I'm looking forward to a vegetarian potluck tonight, where I will attempt to resume my vow of prudence and propriety, and enjoy the food. I've resolved to leave any other types of tasty dish to his own devices.