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Qinella
Joined: 25 Feb 2005
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| When I was about 12 I broke up with a girl but I still wanted to be with her. I had a chat with her near her house... I lived out in the sticks, and she lived on a diary farm. I thought I was getting somewhere, but she left in a huff. I followed her about two metres behind, not sure why, except that my immature mind was thinking there was still a chance and following her would somehow help. Then her dairy farmer step-father jumped out of the bushes, chased me down the road and kicked my arse. |
Brilliant! |
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waggo
Joined: 18 May 2003
Location: pusan baby!
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Joe Doufu wrote....
To make a woman feel attractive, follow the three second rule. Boy, I'm really giving away my gold tonight. Within three seconds of sighting your quarry, DO SOMETHING. Anything. Say "Hi". Blubber something about something genuinely interesting about her... "Nice shoes" or something. After three seconds, your chances (unless you're Tom Cruise) approach zero. When a woman walks into a room and a man is so compelled by the sight of her that he does something bold seemingly by instinct, she feels like a million bucks.
Your Gold???
I think we both know where you nicked that from! shhhh |
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joe_doufu
Joined: 09 May 2005
Location: Elsewhere
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| Posted: Sat Aug 20, 2005 11:59 pm Post subject: |
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| waggo wrote: |
Your Gold???
I think we both know where you nicked that from! shhhh |
LOL, i couldn't remember if they called it by the same name, it's been a few years since I learned it. But I have learned from many teachers, and separated much wheat from much chaff, so I feel that I can give this advice based on my own wisdom. |
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guangho
Joined: 19 Jan 2005
Location: a spot full of deception, stupidity, and public micturation and thus unfit for longterm residency
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| billybrobby wrote: |
alright, i'll give you some advice, cuz i'm pulling in more ass than abraham lincoln and jefferson davis combined.
ignoring them is all well and good, if you're really handsome or charming or something. otherwise you're gonna have to actually, like, talk to them. so we have to think, what is the attraction of ignoring somebody? it's like your interest is elsewhere, like you have more important things to do, like you're ungettable (yeah, that's a new word i invented). so how can you replicate that kind of attraction while at the same time openly chasing after her?
by being completely unreliable and always seeming like you might be cheating on her. it's the best of both worlds. you can actively pursue her while not seeming like your already under her thumb.
alright, maybe it's a completley insane idea. but it's a theory i'm working on. like i said, i'm a classy guy. |
There is actually something to this. Hmmm....pretend to be disinterested but let her know that you're hot for her...but not too overtly because that's just not cool- umm....show her that you like her but treat her like dirt (or just act like you can treat her like that AT THE DROP OF A HAT) to keep her on her toes. Hmmmm.....
....I am moving to Tibet to be a monk. Ciao bellas! |
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Tiger Beer
Joined: 07 Feb 2003
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| Posted: Sun Aug 21, 2005 2:49 am Post subject: Re: Get a girl interested by... ignoring her? |
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| jajdude wrote: |
This was basically the advice given on another thread. I thought I'd start a new one about that. I'm not much into games, but whatever works may be worth trying. I think this may work for some people with some people, in some cases that is, but not all the time. Now why would a girl like a guy who ignores her or seems indifferent to her?
(As a guy, in my experience I like the girls who actually pay attention to me.)
But maybe it's different for girls? (depending on how much attention they tend to get --- how attractive they are?) |
I think this is generally a bad strategy. It has a small remote possibility of working. But 99 times out of 100.. its the conversation and showing of interest in them or something about them that gets them.
Now if you show interest and hold conversations with them but don't appear to have any physical interest whatsoever in them.. then that might be a smarter strategy  Many girls get turned off too quickly by being viewed too quickly as sex objects.
But then again, generally it seems most women know if they are interested pretty much right away regardless of what you do or don't do (same with men for that matter). |
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kermo
Joined: 01 Sep 2004
Location: Eating eggs, with a comb, out of a shoe.
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| Posted: Sun Aug 21, 2005 2:50 am Post subject: |
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| guangho wrote: |
| billybrobby wrote: |
alright, i'll give you some advice, cuz i'm pulling in more ass than abraham lincoln and jefferson davis combined.
ignoring them is all well and good, if you're really handsome or charming or something. otherwise you're gonna have to actually, like, talk to them. so we have to think, what is the attraction of ignoring somebody? it's like your interest is elsewhere, like you have more important things to do, like you're ungettable (yeah, that's a new word i invented). so how can you replicate that kind of attraction while at the same time openly chasing after her?
by being completely unreliable and always seeming like you might be cheating on her. it's the best of both worlds. you can actively pursue her while not seeming like your already under her thumb.
alright, maybe it's a completley insane idea. but it's a theory i'm working on. like i said, i'm a classy guy. |
There is actually something to this. Hmmm....pretend to be disinterested but let her know that you're hot for her...but not too overtly because that's just not cool- umm....show her that you like her but treat her like dirt (or just act like you can treat her like that AT THE DROP OF A HAT) to keep her on her toes. Hmmmm.....
....I am moving to Tibet to be a monk. Ciao bellas! |
 No! Don't do it, you dreadful fool. I love you! |
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kermo
Joined: 01 Sep 2004
Location: Eating eggs, with a comb, out of a shoe.
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| Posted: Sun Aug 21, 2005 2:56 am Post subject: Re: Get a girl interested by... ignoring her? |
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| Tiger Beer wrote: |
| jajdude wrote: |
This was basically the advice given on another thread. I thought I'd start a new one about that. I'm not much into games, but whatever works may be worth trying. I think this may work for some people with some people, in some cases that is, but not all the time. Now why would a girl like a guy who ignores her or seems indifferent to her?
(As a guy, in my experience I like the girls who actually pay attention to me.)
But maybe it's different for girls? (depending on how much attention they tend to get --- how attractive they are?) |
I think this is generally a bad strategy. It has a small remote possibility of working. But 99 times out of 100.. its the conversation and showing of interest in them or something about them that gets them.
Now if you show interest and hold conversations with them but don't appear to have any physical interest whatsoever in them.. then that might be a smarter strategy Many girls get turned off too quickly by being viewed too quickly as sex objects.
But then again, generally it seems most women know if they are interested pretty much right away regardless of what you do or don't do (same with men for that matter). |
This really depends on the context. Unless you're quite handsome, red-headed, or licking your eye-brows, ignoring me in a bar wouldn't get you very far.
I don't know about this conversation idea. That usually turns out to be a buzz-kill for me. Far far too many attractive guys have opened their mouths and turned out to be genuinely boring, vacuous or irritating. In that case, I would much rather he just throw me over his shoulder, haul me out the door, and carry on with what he does best.
Woah. Did I just say that out loud? |
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joe_doufu
Joined: 09 May 2005
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| Posted: Sun Aug 21, 2005 3:30 am Post subject: |
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The point of all this advice is, stop strategizing and be yourself, hopefully a mentally healthy self. So:
1. Have a sense of self-worth not based on what others think or do.
2. Figure out what you want.
3. Tell her that you want her.
4. Go after what you want.
5. If you don't get what you want, review#1 and move on.
6. In other words, don't let shyness or insecurity make you into a stalker or peeping Tom. Don't become obsessed. Get to failure quickly.
7. Don't second-guess yourself. She was probably a lesbian anyway.
8. Return to #2, reviewing #1 if necessary.
A guy who posts on an internet forum about one particular girl who he doesn't have a relationship with months after failing to initiate a relationship is obsessed, and should be reminded that he is not a healthy version of himself. He should stop strategizing and plotting, and the next time he sees a girl he likes he should say "hey, I like you" and get his mojo on.
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joe_doufu
Joined: 09 May 2005
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| Posted: Sun Aug 21, 2005 3:31 am Post subject: Re: Get a girl interested by... ignoring her? |
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| kermo wrote: |
I don't know about this conversation idea.
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In that case, I would much rather he just throw me over his shoulder, haul me out the door, and carry on with what he does best.
Woah. Did I just say that out loud? |
Do you have a pic? |
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Butterfly
Joined: 02 Mar 2003
Location: Kuwait
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| rapier wrote: |
If you meet the right person, no games are necessary. I've seen it a few times... a long -lasting committed relationship, that happens very quickly, right from the start. The drawn out flirtation/game playing is a sign of doubt and insecurity.
Most of it is just practise- enjoy it but see it for what it is- temporary fun until "the one" arrives. |
True.
| Kermo wrote: |
This really depends on the context. Unless you're quite handsome, red-headed, or licking your eye-brows, ignoring me in a bar wouldn't get you very far.
I don't know about this conversation idea. That usually turns out to be a buzz-kill for me. Far far too many attractive guys have opened their mouths and turned out to be genuinely boring, vacuous or irritating. In that case, I would much rather he just throw me over his shoulder, haul me out the door, and carry on with what he does best.
Woah. Did I just say that out loud? |
Fucking hilarious |
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billybrobby
Joined: 09 Dec 2004
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| i was thinking about this the other day. it's kinda weird, but getting shot down actually feels good. i mean, it feels terrible while it's happening, nobody likes to get rejected. but the next day, or sometimes just 5 minutes later, you find yourself smiling and laughing and thinking, "man, i got some damn nerve. she wasn't remotely interested in me." and the crazier your pick-up line or whatever was, or the worse that she dissed you (drink in the face) the funnier it seems in hindsight. what is the saying? comedy is tragedy plus time? yeah, that's it. |
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guangho
Joined: 19 Jan 2005
Location: a spot full of deception, stupidity, and public micturation and thus unfit for longterm residency
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| Posted: Sun Aug 21, 2005 6:25 am Post subject: |
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| kermo wrote: |
| guangho wrote: |
| billybrobby wrote: |
alright, i'll give you some advice, cuz i'm pulling in more ass than abraham lincoln and jefferson davis combined.
ignoring them is all well and good, if you're really handsome or charming or something. otherwise you're gonna have to actually, like, talk to them. so we have to think, what is the attraction of ignoring somebody? it's like your interest is elsewhere, like you have more important things to do, like you're ungettable (yeah, that's a new word i invented). so how can you replicate that kind of attraction while at the same time openly chasing after her?
by being completely unreliable and always seeming like you might be cheating on her. it's the best of both worlds. you can actively pursue her while not seeming like your already under her thumb.
alright, maybe it's a completley insane idea. but it's a theory i'm working on. like i said, i'm a classy guy. |
There is actually something to this. Hmmm....pretend to be disinterested but let her know that you're hot for her...but not too overtly because that's just not cool- umm....show her that you like her but treat her like dirt (or just act like you can treat her like that AT THE DROP OF A HAT) to keep her on her toes. Hmmmm.....
....I am moving to Tibet to be a monk. Ciao bellas! |
No! Don't do it, you dreadful fool. I love you! |
I always liked you. Wait. No I didn't. Wanna dance? Not you I mean. Her...yeah..her. |
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kermo
Joined: 01 Sep 2004
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| kermo wrote: |
| guangho wrote: |
There is actually something to this. Hmmm....pretend to be disinterested but let her know that you're hot for her...but not too overtly because that's just not cool- umm....show her that you like her but treat her like dirt (or just act like you can treat her like that AT THE DROP OF A HAT) to keep her on her toes. Hmmmm.....
....I am moving to Tibet to be a monk. Ciao bellas! |
No! Don't do it, you dreadful fool. I love you! |
I always liked you. Wait. No I didn't. Wanna dance? Not you I mean. Her...yeah..her. |
Why you low-down dirty wretched nasty herpes-ridden... can I please have your babies? |
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guangho
Joined: 19 Jan 2005
Location: a spot full of deception, stupidity, and public micturation and thus unfit for longterm residency
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| kermo wrote: |
| guangho wrote: |
| kermo wrote: |
| guangho wrote: |
There is actually something to this. Hmmm....pretend to be disinterested but let her know that you're hot for her...but not too overtly because that's just not cool- umm....show her that you like her but treat her like dirt (or just act like you can treat her like that AT THE DROP OF A HAT) to keep her on her toes. Hmmmm.....
....I am moving to Tibet to be a monk. Ciao bellas! |
No! Don't do it, you dreadful fool. I love you! |
I always liked you. Wait. No I didn't. Wanna dance? Not you I mean. Her...yeah..her. |
Why you low-down dirty wretched nasty herpes-ridden... can I please have your babies? |
Crabs baby.
Crabs |
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Tiger Beer
Joined: 07 Feb 2003
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| Posted: Sun Aug 21, 2005 8:36 am Post subject: Re: Get a girl interested by... ignoring her? |
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| kermo wrote: |
| Tiger Beer wrote: |
| jajdude wrote: |
This was basically the advice given on another thread. I thought I'd start a new one about that. I'm not much into games, but whatever works may be worth trying. I think this may work for some people with some people, in some cases that is, but not all the time. Now why would a girl like a guy who ignores her or seems indifferent to her?
(As a guy, in my experience I like the girls who actually pay attention to me.)
But maybe it's different for girls? (depending on how much attention they tend to get --- how attractive they are?) |
I think this is generally a bad strategy. It has a small remote possibility of working. But 99 times out of 100.. its the conversation and showing of interest in them or something about them that gets them.
Now if you show interest and hold conversations with them but don't appear to have any physical interest whatsoever in them.. then that might be a smarter strategy Many girls get turned off too quickly by being viewed too quickly as sex objects.
But then again, generally it seems most women know if they are interested pretty much right away regardless of what you do or don't do (same with men for that matter). |
This really depends on the context. Unless you're quite handsome, red-headed, or licking your eye-brows, ignoring me in a bar wouldn't get you very far.
I don't know about this conversation idea. That usually turns out to be a buzz-kill for me. Far far too many attractive guys have opened their mouths and turned out to be genuinely boring, vacuous or irritating. In that case, I would much rather he just throw me over his shoulder, haul me out the door, and carry on with what he does best.
Woah. Did I just say that out loud? |
hahaha.. that was the other part I meant about the fact that the girl knows almost immediately before you even open your mouth!!
but yeah, if someone isn't a good speaker, they shouldn't even open their mouth.. but if they were smart enough to ask questions, they'd do alright. Most english teachers are generally good speakers - unless they have some political agenda they feel obligated to get across - then it all goes back to step one where it would be better to not speak again! |
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