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rapier
Joined: 16 Feb 2003
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Posted: Thu Sep 08, 2005 10:33 am Post subject: |
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Seems pretty obvious to me..at first a guy is attracted to a womans looks. But pretty soon, the personality will often disqualify them.
A compatible personality is definitely,the most important thing. |
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Tiger Beer

Joined: 07 Feb 2003
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Posted: Thu Sep 08, 2005 7:16 pm Post subject: Re: Men and attractive women |
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Babayaga wrote: |
What may be the reasons for a man not being interested in a woman even if she's attractive? |
Either 1) she doesn't show interest.. or has a standoffish personality.
or 2) her personality somehow doesn't gel with your own so well - she complains too much, or whines, or has some characteristic that puts you off.
Babayaga wrote: |
Is there a TYPE of physical attractiveness that gets the male attention?  |
Each guy is different. |
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joe_doufu

Joined: 09 May 2005 Location: Elsewhere
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Posted: Thu Sep 08, 2005 8:50 pm Post subject: |
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Maybe because the "6" speaks English and none of the "9"s seem to? |
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Moldy Rutabaga

Joined: 01 Jul 2003 Location: Ansan, Korea
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Posted: Thu Sep 08, 2005 9:22 pm Post subject: |
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It's unfortunate that when a girl is smoking hot, men often believe that she's cruel and/or stupid; maybe it makes us feel better for knowing they're out of our league.
Ironically, sometimes I feel sorry for really, really pretty girls. Decent men are afraid of them, and the arseholes won't leave them alone. No wonder they are often such screwed up people.
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princess
Joined: 16 Jan 2003 Location: soul of Asia
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Posted: Thu Sep 08, 2005 10:46 pm Post subject: |
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Well, my Korean boyfriend tells me I am beautiful but I guess I am not beautiful enough for him to call me everyday. I used to work with a big gal whose boyfriend called her everyday and more than once. I do so much for this guy. I am the one who calls him and sends him messages first. I am nice and a good cook. I guess I just have bad luck. I work with a married lady and her HUSBAND even calls her all the time and my boyfriend won't do the same. Beauty, brains or personality sometimes means nothing. My boyfriend treats me very well but the phone call situation is getting me thinking he's just not that into me. No man is too busy to call like many women say to themselves and their friends. Unless of course, he's the president of a country or an astronaut. That's what the guy who wrote that book said. |
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princess
Joined: 16 Jan 2003 Location: soul of Asia
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Posted: Thu Sep 08, 2005 10:48 pm Post subject: |
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Moldy Rutabaga wrote: |
It's unfortunate that when a girl is smoking hot, men often believe that she's cruel and/or stupid; maybe it makes us feel better for knowing they're out of our league.
Ironically, sometimes I feel sorry for really, really pretty girls. Decent men are afraid of them, and the arseholes won't leave them alone. No wonder they are often such screwed up people.
Ken:> |
Maybe that's why I attract the arseholes. Arsehole Korean men like petite white girls, for a little while anyway... |
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princess
Joined: 16 Jan 2003 Location: soul of Asia
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Posted: Thu Sep 08, 2005 10:51 pm Post subject: |
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Bulsajo wrote: |
Well what about women and attractive men, princess?
BTW, are you SURE you're attractive?
Post a pic and we'll let you know the honest truth. |
Hello Mr. Bulsajo. Are you attractive? I think you are a big fat white guy I used to work with and your wife is Korean and from what I heard other folks we worked with did not like her... |
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dogbert

Joined: 29 Jan 2003 Location: Killbox 90210
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Posted: Thu Sep 08, 2005 11:37 pm Post subject: |
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princess wrote: |
Bulsajo wrote: |
Well what about women and attractive men, princess?
BTW, are you SURE you're attractive?
Post a pic and we'll let you know the honest truth. |
Hello Mr. Bulsajo. Are you attractive? I think you are a big fat white guy I used to work with and your wife is Korean and from what I heard other folks we worked with did not like her... |
Sure didn't take you long to take down the link to your (?) Cyworld page. |
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princess
Joined: 16 Jan 2003 Location: soul of Asia
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Posted: Fri Sep 09, 2005 1:28 am Post subject: |
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Because I just realized I don't want losers making nasty comments. What are you a Greek God? Hardly....You are probably one of those overweight foreign guys who couldn't get a date back home. hey you trash me i'll trash you "DOG"bert... |
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princess
Joined: 16 Jan 2003 Location: soul of Asia
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Posted: Fri Sep 09, 2005 1:30 am Post subject: |
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Richard Gere cheated on beautiful Cindy Crawford with Uma Thurman so pretty gals have men troubles too, Dogbert and Bulsajo. Some of us just attract guys who don't call enough...My boyfriend is great except for the phone calls. |
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Free World

Joined: 01 Apr 2005 Location: Drake Hotel
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Posted: Fri Sep 09, 2005 3:27 am Post subject: |
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princess wrote: |
Well, my Korean boyfriend tells me I am beautiful but I guess I am not beautiful enough for him to call me everyday. I used to work with a big gal whose boyfriend called her everyday and more than once. I do so much for this guy. I am the one who calls him and sends him messages first. I am nice and a good cook. I guess I just have bad luck. I work with a married lady and her HUSBAND even calls her all the time and my boyfriend won't do the same. Beauty, brains or personality sometimes means nothing. My boyfriend treats me very well but the phone call situation is getting me thinking he's just not that into me. No man is too busy to call like many women say to themselves and their friends. Unless of course, he's the president of a country or an astronaut. That's what the guy who wrote that book said. |
Talking on the phone is boring. I hardly ever call and I always make phone calls end asap when she phones. |
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ThePoet
Joined: 15 May 2004 Location: No longer in Korea - just lurking here
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Posted: Fri Sep 09, 2005 3:33 am Post subject: |
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princess wrote: |
Because I just realized I don't want losers making nasty comments. What are you a Greek God? Hardly....You are probably one of those overweight foreign guys who couldn't get a date back home. hey you trash me i'll trash you "DOG"bert... |
Hey! Overweight foreign guys are people too. I may be overweight but I am not without feelings, nor do I not know how to be caring, loving considerate and as passionate/gentle/beautiful as thin local guys, or for that matter, thin foreign guys. In the words of Shylock...if you cut me do I not bleed?
I understand that you weren't addressing me specifically, but your use of overgeneralization is unfounded. Also, you are right that I didn't date back home, and I haven't dated here either. But that doesnt mean I am not worth dating. Some day, some woman will find this out.
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huck
Joined: 19 Jan 2003
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Posted: Fri Sep 09, 2005 4:47 am Post subject: |
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To the OP...maybe what you consider an 8 or a 9 is really a 4...I think it's impossible to be honest about ourselves because...
1) either we don't want to seem egotistical to ourselves, so we convince ourselves that we're not as attractive as we really are...
2) or we greatly inflate our value because the face that we've seen in the mirror every day is going to be the one that we compare all others too...
and princess....why does he need to call you every day? why don't you just hang out together every day? or you call him...if he's a Korean guy, then he won't mind you calling him....he probably doesn't want to see you every day, though, as relationships here seem to be more of the once or twice a week variety. |
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Bulsajo

Joined: 16 Jan 2003
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Posted: Fri Sep 09, 2005 5:43 am Post subject: |
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princess wrote: |
Bulsajo wrote: |
Well what about women and attractive men, princess?
BTW, are you SURE you're attractive?
Post a pic and we'll let you know the honest truth. |
Hello Mr. Bulsajo. Are you attractive? I think you are a big fat white guy I used to work with and your wife is Korean and from what I heard other folks we worked with did not like her... |
No it doesn't sound like we worked together at all....
unless you are that ugly psycho from 209-712 who got kicked out of the Gaepo-dong branch for abusing students. |
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Babayaga
Joined: 28 May 2005
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Posted: Fri Sep 09, 2005 7:22 am Post subject: |
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princess wrote: |
Bulsajo wrote: |
Well what about women and attractive men, princess?
BTW, are you SURE you're attractive?
Post a pic and we'll let you know the honest truth. |
Hello Mr. Bulsajo. Are you attractive? I think you are a big fat white guy I used to work with and your wife is Korean and from what I heard other folks we worked with did not like her... |
Princess,I think Bulsajo was addressing that remark to ME,since it was me(the OP) who started the post about "men and attractive women". Note,that he spelled "princess" with a small "p".So,don't take his remarks personally.
To Bulsajo: Yes,I'm attractive.Lots of people have told me so,including guys.I've had a number of boyfriends,who were very serious about me.The problem is that I haven't been able to attract those that I was interested in. I know quite a few attractive women who have this problem,and it's not because they're b**ches,they're very nice,decent individuals,they're just either shy or just don't exude "sexual" vibes. |
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