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animalbirdfish
Joined: 04 Feb 2004
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| It should be illegal for parents to take their children out in public. I'm either going to abide by that or not have kids. |
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ajuma
Joined: 18 Feb 2003
Location: Anywere but Seoul!!
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| Posted: Sat Sep 10, 2005 9:02 am Post subject: |
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Been there, done that. The best thing I ever did (and I didn't know it at the time!) was making VERY few rules for my kids. My younger son told me that he didn't have the "urge to rebel" when he was a teenager because he didn't have anything to rebel AGAINST! I would always say "You know what I think. Don't be stupid." And it worked! I never said "Don't drink, don't use drugs." I said "Look at the people who DO drink and drug. You wanna be like THEM????"
One of the few "rules" I had was "Never trust the girl." (Sexist? SURE!!) "YOU take the responsibility!! Use a condom!!" Personal responsiblity is a GOOD thing!
If you can get them through the age of 12 without too many problems (any yeah, a smack on the bum now and then can work wonders!), and they know your values, you're home free!!
Parenting is NOT for the weak!! |
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Qinella
Joined: 25 Feb 2005
Location: the crib
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| Posted: Sat Sep 10, 2005 9:48 am Post subject: |
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Babayaga
Joined: 28 May 2005
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| Posted: Sat Sep 10, 2005 11:38 am Post subject: |
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One thing I'm going to do with my kids that my parents failed to do with me is appreciate them. In my teens I heard too much criticism:not good--looking enough,not talented enough,can't do this or that,even though I displayed a lot of good qualities,didn't drink,smoke,do drugs or sleep around. I also heard a lot of ridicule about how hard I worked at my studies,etc.,as if that meant I was stupid.Also,my mother always showed preference for someone else,including my rivals. As a result,I was pretty screwed up psychologically when I entered my twenties! 
Showing loyalty, respect and being positive will definitely be a parenting priority with me! |
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The Man known as The Man
Joined: 29 Mar 2003
Location: 3 cheers for Ted Haggard oh yeah!
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| Posted: Sat Sep 10, 2005 1:46 pm Post subject: |
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Hopefully you will find a man who is not into having sex so children will be redundant.
Let me know how that works out for you. |
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Ody
Joined: 27 Jan 2003
Location: over here
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| Posted: Sat Sep 10, 2005 7:04 pm Post subject: |
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I plan on saving lots of money by not spending anything on daycare or babysitters- those McDonald's playgrounds are there to be used, people.
Being left alone in one for eight hours is a 'character-building experience'. |
i guess this is a smart as* comment on my post?
tool. |
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Bulsajo
Joined: 16 Jan 2003
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| Posted: Sat Sep 10, 2005 10:49 pm Post subject: |
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| Ody wrote: |
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I plan on saving lots of money by not spending anything on daycare or babysitters- those McDonald's playgrounds are there to be used, people.
Being left alone in one for eight hours is a 'character-building experience'. |
i guess this is a smart as* comment on my post?
tool. |
No, I didn't read your post. It WAS a smart ass comment, but not directed at anyone in particular. What did you write that made you think I was smearing you?
EDIT: Oh, yes I did read that, and it yes that must have been where I got the idea to post what I did. I didn't even consider that you might view it as taking a swipe at you- sorry. I just thought it was a funny idea.
I know I'm a big s.o.b. at times but even I'm not so big an s.o.b. that I'm going to mock and criticize where you take your kids to dinner. Kids like McD's and Chuckee Cheese the way moths like lights, and restaurants with playgrounds are a cool idea. The idea of abusing them and using them as daycare is absurd- of course. Having to explain a joke totally kills it and it's pretty good indcator that it wasn't funny in the first place.  |
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Ody
Joined: 27 Jan 2003
Location: over here
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| Posted: Sun Sep 11, 2005 3:29 am Post subject: |
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| Bulsajo wrote: |
| Having to explain a joke totally kills it and it's pretty good indcator that it wasn't funny in the first place. |
thanks for saying so.
people can be sensitive when it comes to their parenting. 'guess i'm no exception. |
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sillywilly
Joined: 20 Jan 2003
Location: Canada.
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| Posted: Sun Sep 11, 2005 10:57 am Post subject: |
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I've done many things differently than I thought I would. I am a lot lazier than I forsaw. So theres a lot of Mc d's and tv in our house. I try to steer him towards Zaboomafoo and Magic School Bus, though. TV isn't all evil. I almost never spank my kid ( Hes a little weird. He asks to be spanked, which is totally icky). I will admit to having kept one promise to myself, though. I strongly believe that children look to others as mirrors so I have tried to tell my son how wonderful, kind and smart he is. I don't know if its genetics or nurturing but he is both kind and smart. He was also cuddled a lot as a baby and is still extremely loving and affectionate. He also has good self-esteem. Sadly, a lack of discipline and bad examples have turned him into a lazy slob but oh well.
Its weird how kids from the same household can grow up completely different. It makes me question the impact of parenting. Wat do you guys think? |
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Babayaga
Joined: 28 May 2005
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| Posted: Mon Sep 12, 2005 7:54 am Post subject: |
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| The Man known as The Man wrote: |
Hopefully you will find a man who is not into having sex so children will be redundant.
Let me know how that works out for you. |
I don't understand your reasoning! |
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