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princess · Joined: 16 Jan 2003 Location: soul of Asia

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JongnoGuru · Joined: 25 May 2004 Location: peeing on your doorstep

No, please don't do it! God, he's just a bartender!

Okay, maybe he's a really, really good bartender.

Hmm... Judgment call here.

princess · Joined: 16 Jan 2003 Location: soul of Asia

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Swiss James · Joined: 26 Nov 2003 Location: Shanghai

whilst you're having these huge emotional crises is there are a part of your brain going
"Right, I'd better get on Dave's ESL and see what everyone thinks"
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xtchr · Joined: 23 Nov 2004

Erm, it sounds like you need help of a variety that can't be found on an internet forum, i.e if you go about using the word suicide, regardless of whether you're serious or not, then you need PROFESSIONAL help.

(Now can we get back to more light-hearted questions like "Where's the vegemite?)

Wangja · Joined: 17 May 2004 Location: Seoul, Yongsan

Demonicat · Joined: 18 Nov 2004 Location: Suwon

Princess, in his defense- he's known them for alot longer, and sadly the bond is deeper. The fact that his parents are both ill heighteens that bond greatly. I wouldn't hurt yourself or curse him, but rather take a while to reflect and think. Do nothing harmful to anyone as this is a tragic event, but further tradgedy will have no benefit.

sheba · Joined: 16 May 2005 Location: Here there and everywhere!

So you would make you friends and family suffer through your death because one guy doesnt love you as much as you would like?

Yes things can be hard, especially with matters of the heart, but suicide is a very selfish act and NO guy is worth it.

Instead of trying to push him all the time why dont you just let things happen? If they dont happen then you cant force it. It simply wont work.

On the other hand, you cant keep asking us all for advice if youre never going to take it. You are always complaining about your bf.... if hes such a knob then move on and find someone else.

If you think its great being in love, wait til you find someone who loves you back just as much.

Flossie · Posted: Thu Sep 22, 2005 3:49 am Post subject:

Princess, you seem to talk about your personal problems on here quite a lot, so I'm using that as a basis for this comment. You are dating a Korean, in Korea. Try to have a little think about their culture before you go plastering your own requirements and needs all over your relationship.

I think you need to learn to understand Korean culture a little more. By understand, I don't mean just with your mind, I mean with your heart. If you were both in Canada, America, Swaziland or wherever, it would be a little different. But you're not. You're in his country, not yours. Learn to compromise. He is unlikely to change for you (and nor should he have to if you love him totally, like you claim to) Accept differences and work around them. Don't make them into big obstacles.

I'm sorry if this seems a little harsh, but I think you need to remove your blinkers. You seem to have an idealized version of your relationship stuck in your head and therefore have difficulty dealing with anything that happens in reality that doesn't fit your ideal. Life doesnt work that way. Things are not ideal. Learn to live with it. Things are never perfect, but they can be great. My advice: Aim for great, not perfection

gypsyfish · Joined: 17 Jan 2003 Location: Seoul

If you're seriously considering suicide, you need to get off this board and find a counselor, a member of the clergy, or a friend and talk to them.

If you are screwing with your boyfriend to try to change his mind, you're pathetic and need to grow up. I hate the game playing I see in Korean (or any) relationships - it's like junior high. Don't add to the problem.

Tiger Beer · Joined: 07 Feb 2003

suhri1304 · Joined: 18 Sep 2005

okay, let me get this straight. your boyfriend doesn't want to see you anymore b/c his father's last dying wish (since he does have cancer) is to not marry you??? is that right? ummmm, if i were you, i would respect his father's wishes b/c he IS your BF's father and you should give him ALITTLE respect. if i were in your boyfriend's position, i would do same thing... i don't know why in HELL you would think about commiting suicide. maybe you've been watching way too many korean dramas...

the_beaver · Joined: 15 Jan 2003

FUBAR · Joined: 21 Oct 2003 Location: The Y.C.

Only cowards commit suicide.

roybetis1 · Posted: Thu Sep 22, 2005 4:04 pm Post subject:

Princess, my heart goes out to you. If you're looking for serious mature advice Daves ESL is NOT the place for it. Please contact family, friend, clergy as soon as possible. You're in my prayers.