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Tiger Beer
Joined: 07 Feb 2003
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 Posted: Wed Nov 09, 2005 1:49 am Post subject: the 'holding hands' poll |
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Referring to holding hands with your boyfriend/girlfriend..
Who is into this and how much?
Honestly.. I'm one of those types that generally doesn't want my hand held.. unless I'm kind of drunk and real social situations. But just trying to get to the store, holding hands feels funny/strange to me.
I enjoyed the 'Sex and the City' episode recently where Samantha was complaining that her current boyfriend was one of those types that always wanted to hold her hand in public.. made me laugh. |
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Ya-ta Boy
Joined: 16 Jan 2003
Location: Established in 1994
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| Posted: Wed Nov 09, 2005 5:31 am Post subject: |
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I clicked 'into it' because I decided to define holding hands as the 'tickle the palm as a way of indicating in public that there will be more intimacies once we get to a private place' kind of thing, rather than the 'I'm holding his hand as a sign that the rest of you biatches better keep your distance' kind of thing.
I will also publically admit that I've allowed, and enjoyed, Korean guys holding my hand. It's all in the context and I guess I don't have any hang-ups about it. So, pa-tooey on those who do. |
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Bulsajo
Joined: 16 Jan 2003
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| Posted: Wed Nov 09, 2005 9:39 am Post subject: |
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| 10 years of dating and 5 years of marriage and we still hold hands 80-90% of the time when we walk somewhere together. Is that strange? I don't pay much attention to other people/couples when I'm walking aroundso i wouldn't know. |
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itaewonguy
Joined: 25 Mar 2003
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| Posted: Fri Nov 11, 2005 3:46 am Post subject: Re: the 'holding hands' poll |
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| Tiger Beer wrote: |
Referring to holding hands with your boyfriend/girlfriend..
Who is into this and how much?
Honestly.. I'm one of those types that generally doesn't want my hand held.. . |
me too.. never really been into that! |
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Qinella
Joined: 25 Feb 2005
Location: the crib
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| Posted: Fri Nov 11, 2005 4:19 am Post subject: |
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| Ya-ta Boy wrote: |
I clicked 'into it' because I decided to define holding hands as the 'tickle the palm as a way of indicating in public that there will be more intimacies once we get to a private place' kind of thing, rather than the 'I'm holding his hand as a sign that the rest of you biatches better keep your distance' kind of thing.
I will also publically admit that I've allowed, and enjoyed, Korean guys holding my hand. It's all in the context and I guess I don't have any hang-ups about it. So, pa-tooey on those who do. |
I've held hands with a few Korean guys, also, after they'd gotten themselves drunk. Usually I pull my hand away, because it's really just not something I'm into, but last week my vice director was holding my hand. How do you tell your superior, while he's trying to display his respect / friendship for you, to please stop? I just let him keep doing it. It was creepy, though.
As for girls, I typically do like it. When two bodies make contact, their energies collide, and their body rhythms syncopate. Which is exactly why I don't like to hold hands with men. I'm not trying to coordinate rhythms with ya, pal, just have a few laughs.
Q. |
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Ya-ta Boy
Joined: 16 Jan 2003
Location: Established in 1994
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| Posted: Fri Nov 11, 2005 4:47 am Post subject: |
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How do you tell your superior, while he's trying to display his respect / friendship for you, to please stop? I just let him keep doing it. It was creepy, though.
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Sorry, Mr. Q, I don't know really. Thinking back on the incidents, I guess I just calculate whether there is anything sexual intended in the situation. So far, there hasn't been. (Or if there was, I'm just too dense and Mid-western to catch it.)
Early on in my life here, I was in a hoff with about 8 or 10 students and the student sitting next to me ( a nice-looking guy) put his hand on my thigh while he was talking to me. My hair stood straight up. I kind of gasped. Then I looked around the table and saw a bunch of people. Who would make a sexual advance in that situation?
That student became a friend. Later he said Koreans touch all the time. (I had seen that in my classes...one guy hanging over the shoulders of another male student.
I have always just figured physical contact is innocent here.
Maybe I'm a fool. I don't know.
I just don't worry about it. |
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huck
Joined: 19 Jan 2003
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| Posted: Fri Nov 11, 2005 5:24 pm Post subject: |
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| put his hand on my thigh while he was talking to me. My hair stood straight up |
Your WHAT stood straight up?
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magicwolfman
Joined: 01 Sep 2005
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| Posted: Sun Nov 13, 2005 11:08 pm Post subject: |
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| put his hand on my thigh while he was talking to me. My hair stood straight up |
Your WHAT stood straight up?
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I thought he liked it too.
TB are you a homosexual? |
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