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Real Reality · Joined: 10 Jan 2003 Location: Seoul

Utilitarian Dating in a New Korea
There are four iron rules... no falling in love, no physical affection beyond kissing, a clean break if interest wanes, and, importantly, no interfering in you mate's private life. The concept is similar to the American idea of "f*ck buddies," but without the sex.... Kim is a 25-year-old working woman who has both a lover she intends to marry and a datemate. The reason, she says, is that her lover works in the provinces, and she doesn't get to see him very much. "My datemate agreed to this situation, so I don't feel guilty," she says. "He, too, has a girlfriend, and we just meet casually."
Chosun Ilbo (November 11, 2005)
http://english.chosun.com/w21data/html/news/200511/200511110013.html

joe_doufu · Joined: 09 May 2005 Location: Elsewhere

Oh my god, that so doesn't make sense.

Demonicat · Joined: 18 Nov 2004 Location: Suwon

so...basically its just a friend of the opposite sex? Wow, that is ammmmaaaaazing...

Wrench · Joined: 07 Apr 2005

Ya-ta Boy · Joined: 16 Jan 2003 Location: Established in 1994

I agree. Females are just but* ugly and only good for doing your homework or else they are the kind you want to tear their clothes off and get it on. There is nothing else. Anyone who disagrees is obviously....I won't say it because I am compulsively PC.

JongnoGuru · Joined: 25 May 2004 Location: peeing on your doorstep

Yeah yeah, bizarre concept. Who cares? This is Korea.

The real eye-opener is seeing THIS...

red dog · Joined: 31 Oct 2004

JongnoGuru · Joined: 25 May 2004 Location: peeing on your doorstep

Ya-ta Boy · Joined: 16 Jan 2003 Location: Established in 1994

Ya-ta Boy · Joined: 16 Jan 2003 Location: Established in 1994

*beep* = c**ktails

BigBlackEquus · Posted: Fri Nov 11, 2005 10:01 am Post subject:

Koreans have no leg to stand on in the divorce category.

They are nearly equal with the US in the numbers of divorces, but there are several other factors here which need to be taken into account.

1. Far fewer Americans stay together when the marriage goes south beyond repair. They bail. Koreans stay in it, lead separate lives, and cheat, cheat, cheat. One only needs to look at the massive numbers of yagwons on every corner of this country. If the Koreans had the same mentality as Americans, and just bailed rather than living separate lives under one roof, the Korean divorce rate would easily surpass the American rate by a significant number.

2. When Americans marry, they marry and it's recorded to law quickly. When Koreans marry, the popular thing is to now wait several months, or even a year or more (up to 2?), to officially do the paperwork. If things don't work out, they just split up, and they are merely out the cost for the wedding. And they DO split up. These are, for all practical purposes, divorces we don't see statistics for. This new trend is all the rage in Korea, and the stigma of divorce is what feeds it.

As a side note, Korea is a country where over 60% of Korean males consider prostitutes a necessity in a marriage relationship. Try that poll in the USA, and see what you get for a number.

ladyandthetramp · Joined: 21 Nov 2003

Real Reality · Joined: 10 Jan 2003 Location: Seoul

couple watch a movie in a DVD room in Shinchon on Friday.
They may be holding one another, but the two are just "datemates," not lovers.
http://english.chosun.com/w21data/html/news/200511/200511110013.html

chiaa · Joined: 23 Aug 2003

First the Kimchi worm propaganda and now dating without sex propaganda.

Dear Leader:

The other day I was frockling through....

bestyoucanget · Joined: 06 Nov 2005

ha in the contry where there are millions of "&*%" hotels but its not ok to talk about sex............amazing???...............Korea must surely be hte stupidest country out there...........cant wait to go home and mock the Wa ga ins!!!