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winnie · Joined: 08 May 2005 Location: the forest

do you think its better to go all out on a first date...looking your absolute best, or is it better to pretend not to try too hard, and just look normal, and a little spruced up?

manlyboy · Posted: Wed Dec 14, 2005 11:06 pm Post subject:

Always look your best.

riley · Joined: 08 Feb 2003 Location: where creditors can find me

it's best to put out on the first date. That way everyone gets what they want. Cool

Swiss James · Joined: 26 Nov 2003 Location: Shanghai

you're a girl right? I don't think I would ever think
"Hmm she's made a bit too much of an effort, seems over-keen"
if you look fit, you look fit and that's the end of it- if you don't want to seem like you're trying too hard- that's all in your actions.

ChimpumCallao · Joined: 17 May 2005 Location: your mom

JongnoGuru · Joined: 25 May 2004 Location: peeing on your doorstep

Paji eh Wong · Joined: 03 Jun 2003

Going to give you the same advice I gave you in the other thread.

Approval seeking and trying to impress people is bad news. Think about it. What do you think about someone who try's to impress you? You take them and you slot them underneath you in the social pyramid we all have in our heads.

I say, show up, have some fun, and don't be too attached to the outcome.

deessell · Joined: 08 Jun 2005

JongnoGuru · Joined: 25 May 2004 Location: peeing on your doorstep

mole · Joined: 06 Feb 2003 Location: Act III

I say just be the comfortable and natural you.
And bring a dictionary if you expect communication difficulties.

joe_doufu · Joined: 09 May 2005 Location: Elsewhere

Dress the way you dressed when you met him, but better. By that I mean, if he met you when you were wearing jeans, he probably isn't expecting to see you in a flowery dress or something. It's not a question of whether he likes dresses, it's just his mental picture of you was formed on your first meeting(s). So certainly wear "nicer" trousers, but in the same general style, if it's your style that attracted him. Same goes for the style of personality, type of place you go to, and so on... generally go with what you know he's already responded to. That's all my advice.

rapier · Joined: 16 Feb 2003

Qinella · Joined: 25 Feb 2005 Location: the crib

Satori · Joined: 09 Dec 2005 Location: Above it all

Well sure there's nothing you can do about how your body and face is, but how your dress is actually part of a language we all speak, and it communicates stuff that we are not saying with our mouth. That doesnt mean be uptight and think about it too much though. I would say, sure, look good, dress "well", but perhaps not dress "up". Depends on who you are. If you feel you look good, you'll feel confident, and that makes you relax, and makes you a better time to be with. If you dress up so much that it's out of your normal range and you feel uncomfortable, that will come across too. But putting some effort into your appearance on a date shows you care about yourself and also that you're willing to make a little effort to please the other person.

Course in the end it will be a minor part of the equation

Ya-ta Boy · Joined: 16 Jan 2003 Location: Established in 1994

Part of it depends on what you are going to do on the date. If you're going to the opera, I'd say dress up a lot. If you're going ice skating, then for that.

If you're going on the dinner/coffee shop/movie kind of date, I'd say dress up a little bit more than your normal Saturday night get up. Whoever asked you out already thinks you are special. It's only fair to repay the compliment.

PS: Take a shower and put clean sheets on the bed in case you get lucky.