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10 months in, I feel like a failure.
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Dan The Chainsawman



Joined: 05 May 2005

PostPosted: Fri Jan 13, 2006 4:25 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Wow you talk to your kids outside of class?

How interesting!

Normally I completely ignore them even if they come running up to me trying to talk to me. I will just step around them and keep on walking. Sometimes I will say hello, but that is about it.

I figure if the school wanted me to talk with them in my off time they would pay me for that as well.
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Demonicat



Joined: 18 Nov 2004
Location: Suwon

PostPosted: Fri Jan 13, 2006 5:45 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Frankly, I'd have to say that they just may not give a damn. You are a teacher in one class- consider if you will, this exchange:

(You're waiting at the bus stop to go home. On your mind are thoughts of what mom is serving for dinner, whats going to happen on your favourite tv show, and getting down and dirty with some video games"
"What is the formula for density?" A voice says, its your physics teacher
"uh...(quickly thinking) D=M/v"
"And what is the ratio for dissolving gasses?"
"uh..."
"(sigs) What is the iodization/oxidation speeds for lithium?"
"uh...hahah...uh..."
"bye"
"(relieved) bye)

Remember, though English is a major part of OUR lives, to students it is just another class.
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Yu_Bum_suk



Joined: 25 Dec 2004

PostPosted: Fri Jan 13, 2006 6:58 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

This happens to me all the time. I'll pass two students at the bus stop.

'Where are you going?'
'Huh?'
'Are you going home?'
'Huh?'
'Jeep gasayo?'
'Oh nay, nay, nay'.

I mean, they're doing government listening tests where they have to indicate where people are going based on a dialogue, but they can't answer that?

But then there are victories, too. Last week at the gym I met a recently graduated student who was there with her mom. I could see her mom was just beaming because her daughter could hold a coversation with a foriegn teacher (and I only taught her for one semester). Later I complimented her mother with a 'joun haksang' and she seemed so proud.
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Qinella



Joined: 25 Feb 2005
Location: the crib

PostPosted: Sat Jan 14, 2006 8:16 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Well, thanks for the encouragement and attempts to comfort or help explain, everyone. A few of you have suggested that my student was simply outisde her comfort zone and caught by surprise. This is certainly a possibility. If the scenario in the OP were the only one of its kind, I wouldn't have been so unnerved.

However, this is routine, even in the classroom. For example, I was reading a story with a class of 6th graders on Friday. When I read stories with students, I stop after each paragraph and ask questions to make sure they are comprehending. So, the paragraph started by saying something like, "He brought a box with him. In the box were pieces of wood one and a half meters long, some thick wire, and some pieces of cloth." After the paragraph, I explained what a meter is, about how big it is, and then asked, "How big was the wood?" blank stares "What size was the wood?" drool beginning to accumulate on lower lips "How many meters was the wood?" durrrr "The wood was MOMO meters long." one? Then I asked, "What was in the box?" No one could answer the question.

This is all very standard with my older students. As I said, I ask tons of questions during class time, and I speak slowly and clearly, using easy vocabulary and grammar. Generally, the students have a very difficult time understanding. Sometimes, we'll spend thirty minutes practicing a new grammar point, such as "How often do you..." Then, I'll go around the room and ask each student a question with the grammar point. "Karl, how often do you eat breakfast?" Mo rago? Musseun ddeushiyo?

With my youngest students, they are generally very capable of keeping up, even though I always challenge them. Come to think of it, though, the youngins also seem to really enjoy learning English. When they understand or are understood in English, their faces glow with happiness. Among the older students, the only ones who enjoy success are the ones with this type of interest.

So, that may be all it is. The ones who look at it like just a subject don't succeed. The ones who look at it as a second language do. Unfortunately, the former group far outweighs the latter, which makes me feel like I'm generally doing a horrible job of teaching.

Anyway, thanks for listening. It's good to have a place where I can vent about this and people understand and care.

Cheers,
Q.
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Qinella



Joined: 25 Feb 2005
Location: the crib

PostPosted: Sat Jan 14, 2006 8:23 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Visitor Q, I wanted to respond to your comments separately, as your opinion was so different from everyone else's, and you seem very confident.

visitor q wrote:
What is your teaching style? You need to learn how to make your students feel comfortable.

I can't be wrong - I teach 6 classes a day, and my students are great. 10 months is not enough experience to know how to connect with kids whilst teaching EFL. I hate to say this, but the problem lies with you. Experience is key. And...

Korean students, for the most part, are great!


As I said in the OP, I pray the problem is with me. That would give me hope. You say experience is key, but are you sure that's all there is to it? Did you take any kind of training? How long have you been teaching EFL?

visitor q wrote:
I forgot to add that I can communicate with my 8/9/10 year olds in English, in the classroom and out the classroom, speaking at my normal pace. They understand my "Western humour" too. Experience is key.


Are all of your students in this age range? My post previous to this one mentions how my students in this range are generally successful, and that the problematic group is around 4th grade through early middle school.

Quote:
You have issues. Now how about posting something constructive, and something that at least makes sense?


You said this to Grotto, but you had not posted anything constructive yet, either. I would be happy if you did, because I constantly strive to improve as a teacher. What would you suggest?

Thanks,
Q.
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Wrench



Joined: 07 Apr 2005

PostPosted: Sat Jan 14, 2006 9:07 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Dan The Chainsawman wrote:
Wow you talk to your kids outside of class?

How interesting!

Normally I completely ignore them even if they come running up to me trying to talk to me. I will just step around them and keep on walking. Sometimes I will say hello, but that is about it.

I figure if the school wanted me to talk with them in my off time they would pay me for that as well.


Amen to that. I completly avoid them and ignore them. I am not geting paid to teach them outside of class.
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TheUrbanMyth



Joined: 28 Jan 2003
Location: Retired

PostPosted: Sat Jan 14, 2006 9:07 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

visitor q wrote:
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You have issues. Now how about posting something constructive, and something that at least makes sense?



About 2/3 of your posts so far are non-constructive. You spend a large amount of time attacking well-established members.
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Alias



Joined: 24 Jan 2003

PostPosted: Sat Jan 14, 2006 11:45 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Visitor q = Austin?

(older board member will know what I'm talking about)
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The Kung Fu Hustle



Joined: 30 Jan 2005
Location: Incheon

PostPosted: Sat Jan 14, 2006 11:48 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

visitor q wrote:
You have issues. Now how about posting something constructive, and something that at least makes sense?


HAHAHA the guy who names himself after *THE* most ���� movie I've ever seen, saying "You have issues" ....... HAHAHAHA Very Happy
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Mr. BlackCat



Joined: 30 Nov 2005
Location: Insert witty remark HERE

PostPosted: Sun Jan 15, 2006 7:12 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Now, I've only been here a couple of months, but I say by your post and my personal experience that you are doing a great job.

First, I have found that outside of class my kids have little to no interest in speaking correct English to me. Second, after months of getting my kids to use full sentences, if only based on repitition rather than knowledge, all is lost once an observer is placed in my class. Then nearly no words are spoken.

Also, there's a few of us at our school who actually care about any of this. Then there's a couple who find ways to get by, mostly on our backs, without even preping. These guys don't care, but have the best relationship with their kids cause all they do is play games and let them talk with each other.

Recently, one teacher took over a class of mine that I was having problems with and now they love him. Of course, this is my failure. I tried to teach them, he tries to be their best friend and ride out the clock with games and puzzles they do alone. And who will get a re-newed contract?

The fact that you care about your kids' progress already places you miles ahead of most foreign teachers I know here. At my school it seems that how you teach is secondary to how charming and smooth you are.
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Mr. BlackCat



Joined: 30 Nov 2005
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PostPosted: Sun Jan 15, 2006 7:12 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Now, I've only been here a couple of months, but I say by your post and my personal experience that you are doing a great job.

First, I have found that outside of class my kids have little to no interest in speaking correct English to me. Second, after months of getting my kids to use full sentences, if only based on repitition rather than knowledge, all is lost once an observer is placed in my class. Then nearly no words are spoken.

Also, there's a few of us at our school who actually care about any of this. Then there's a couple who find ways to get by, mostly on our backs, without even preping. These guys don't care, but have the best relationship with their kids cause all they do is play games and let them talk with each other.

Recently, one teacher took over a class of mine that I was having problems with and now they love him. Of course, this is my failure. I tried to teach them, he tries to be their best friend and ride out the clock with games and puzzles they do alone. And who will get a re-newed contract?

The fact that you care about your kids' progress already places you miles ahead of most foreign teachers I know here. At my school it seems that how you teach is secondary to how charming and smooth you are.
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Big Mac



Joined: 17 Sep 2005

PostPosted: Sun Jan 15, 2006 2:40 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I don't think you are a bad teacher. Where are you from? Perhaps it is an accent issue. I know a lot of Koreans tell me they have difficulty understanding anything other than North American English. They say it's more neutral. I think they should learn how to understand all English, but nevertheless that's what they say.

I've spoken to my children outside of school and they clam up initially but then they are fine. They even send me e-mails that are legible. And they are quite young.
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Qinella



Joined: 25 Feb 2005
Location: the crib

PostPosted: Sun Jan 15, 2006 4:10 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Big Mac wrote:
I don't think you are a bad teacher. Where are you from? Perhaps it is an accent issue. I know a lot of Koreans tell me they have difficulty understanding anything other than North American English. They say it's more neutral. I think they should learn how to understand all English, but nevertheless that's what they say.

I've spoken to my children outside of school and they clam up initially but then they are fine. They even send me e-mails that are legible. And they are quite young.


Oh, email... that's a cool idea. I think I'll give my hanmail address to my students and encourage them to email me in English. That might be fun for them.

Btw, I have an American "news caster voice". I can mimic the dude on those audio tapes perfectly and my students get a kick out of it. Laughing If you know who I'm talking about, that guy sounds so weird!
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some waygug-in



Joined: 25 Jan 2003

PostPosted: Sun Jan 15, 2006 4:43 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Don't worry. This happens to me all the time......... I mean as a Korean student. I study and study and study, on and on and then when I get into a real life situation...........my mind goes blank.

Don't feel bad about it, it happens to the best of us.

(And I'm not implying that I am the best...by any means) Laughing
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mithridates



Joined: 03 Mar 2003
Location: President's office, Korean Space Agency

PostPosted: Sun Jan 15, 2006 6:23 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Demonicat wrote:
consider if you will, this exchange:

(You're waiting at the bus stop to go home. On your mind are thoughts of what mom is serving for dinner, whats going to happen on your favourite tv show, and getting down and dirty with some video games"
"What is the formula for density?" A voice says, its your physics teacher
"uh...(quickly thinking) D=M/v"
"And what is the ratio for dissolving gasses?"
"uh..."
"(sigs) What is the iodization/oxidation speeds for lithium?"
"uh...hahah...uh..."
"bye"
"(relieved) bye)

Remember, though English is a major part of OUR lives, to students it is just another class.


Laughing

I can see where the filmmaking comes from. I'd love to see that scene get made.
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