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Tracye

Joined: 15 Jan 2006 Location: Wynnewood, PA
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Posted: Tue Jan 17, 2006 4:43 pm Post subject: Friendships and socializing |
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I'm not in Korea yet - planning to go there in August or September as a newbie. I'm wondering what foreign English teachers' social lives are like when they arrive in Korea. Did you make friends primarily with other teachers, with native Koreans (if so, do you speak primarily English or Korean when you're together?), or with English-speaking foreigners who do not happen to be teachers? |
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krats1976

Joined: 14 May 2003
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Posted: Tue Jan 17, 2006 4:58 pm Post subject: |
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Everyone's experience is different, of course. It all depends on where you are, how big your school is (hence, how many other foreigners work there), what kind of social interests you have.
When I first arrived, I was at a small-ish hagwon with two other foreign teachers. They were nice guys and we hung out a bit. I also began attending an English service at church and made friends with other teachers, business people & their families, Filipinas working at sock factories, and so on. I went to dinner with some of the Korean teachers at my hagwon from time to time, but we didn't really hang out that much--probably because I didn't like going to bars or clubs more than cultural or liguistic differences. My first year in Korea, I really didn't have any close Korean friends.
Anyway, that's how I made friends. My coworkers met people other places like bars & clubs. One guy I knew got involved in a rugby league in Seoul & made a lot of friends that way.
I think it's always a little lonely at first, until you've been here long enough to scout out places to go & things to do. But, if you're even a little outgoing, you'll find folks to spend time with. |
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Swiss James

Joined: 26 Nov 2003 Location: Shanghai
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Posted: Tue Jan 17, 2006 5:12 pm Post subject: |
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it's tough at first if you're going from a standing start, but you meet one person, then you meet all of their friends, then you meet all of their friends, and before you know it you're screening your phone calls and trying to split your time between too many people. |
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TOGirl

Joined: 16 Jan 2006 Location: Seoul
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Posted: Tue Jan 17, 2006 6:12 pm Post subject: |
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I think that you are too worried about not knowing any Korean. (I read your other post on teaching English to Koreans). When I went to Korea I knew no Korean at all. But you meet other teachers very easily, through teachers at your school or even when your just out shopping or on the street. I found that foreigners were really friendly and they also wanted to meet friends so talking to random people isn't out of the ordinary.
But get involved in Korean classes and learn some of the language, you will meet other foreigners and it will make your life much easier. Just be proactive about meeting people and you will find you have tons of friends in no time. |
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Tiger Beer

Joined: 07 Feb 2003
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Posted: Tue Jan 17, 2006 6:16 pm Post subject: Re: Friendships and socializing |
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Tracye wrote: |
I'm not in Korea yet - planning to go there in August or September as a newbie. I'm wondering what foreign English teachers' social lives are like when they arrive in Korea. Did you make friends primarily with other teachers, with native Koreans (if so, do you speak primarily English or Korean when you're together?), or with English-speaking foreigners who do not happen to be teachers? |
I spend signicantly more time with other foreign English teachers.. I enjoy having similar points of reference, speaking fluent English, bouncing ideas and thoughts off each other without having to explain the meaning of each word, etc. |
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SPINOZA
Joined: 10 Jun 2005 Location: $eoul
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Posted: Wed Jan 18, 2006 3:33 am Post subject: |
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I'm wondering what foreign English teachers' social lives are like when they arrive in Korea. |
First couple of days I headed to Itaewon (in case you don't know what that is, Tracy, it's Seoul's 'Foreigner/American' town). Got chatting to some US military guys (not GIs). They were really nice guys and I still say hello and have a chat and a laugh with them when I go to the imaginatively-named 'Seoul Pub'. All the military guys I've met have been really cool guys. Can't recall meeting any teachers at first until my job started, about 3/4 days after I arrived, when I met about 100 of them over the course of a week. Made a lot of friends then.
Also in first couple of days: went to a Hoff (a bar, basically) by myself a few times and tried the notorious Soju. One bottle got me a bit merry. To this day, I'm friends with the male server there, whose English is nonexistent. Also met a Korean girl (24) who worked in a PC Cafe and spoke a bit of English. I say 'a bit', which is true, but compared to everyone else she may as well have been fluent. We dated, actually, but she's gone to Australia to study. She was invaluable and a typical Korean - interested in you, hospitable, friendly, fun, helpful - and taught me how to order food, names of K-dishes to order, useful basic phrases (some of them were wrong in hindsight, but at least she tried. My Korean is probably 70-80% as good as her English now, almost exactly 5 months later. It'd be much more if I wasn't so lazy!).
I posted a "Oh my God, help!" thread on this site in the first couple of days, but I panicked over nothing really. What was I expecting - hoards of fluent English-speaking Koreans? |
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Tracye

Joined: 15 Jan 2006 Location: Wynnewood, PA
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Posted: Wed Jan 18, 2006 4:53 am Post subject: |
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Thanks, everyone. Yeah, I think I am pretty worried about not knowing Korean I worry that it will hard for me to get by in daily life, and that Koreans will think something is wrong with me because I seek out English-speakers wherever I can find them. I'm glad to see that what I believe I'll have to do (find English-speakers) is not so unusual. |
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Qinella
Joined: 25 Feb 2005 Location: the crib
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Posted: Wed Jan 18, 2006 8:03 am Post subject: |
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Tracye wrote: |
Thanks, everyone. Yeah, I think I am pretty worried about not knowing Korean I worry that it will hard for me to get by in daily life, and that Koreans will think something is wrong with me because I seek out English-speakers wherever I can find them. I'm glad to see that what I believe I'll have to do (find English-speakers) is not so unusual. |
If you live in Seoul, it shouldn't be a problem. You can just go to a foreigner bar and walk up and talk to people, if you're comfortable with that. If you're looking to meet mostly Koreans, well, that's pretty easy, too. Some people will just walk up and talk to you.
If you live in a small city, it may be more difficult. Not knowing Korean isn't a big deal.
I've always been a bit of a loner, so I'm not really interested in making more than a few friends. But even in a small city, and not knowing much Korean, I've made about 10 friends since moving here in March. I could've made more, but I don't care to.
Cheers,
Q. |
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