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Deconstructor · Joined: 30 Dec 2003 Location: Canada

When I was in Korea, I did meet couple of Russian girls in Guang-ju. They were at Hard Rock Cafe talking to some US military men with tortured English and Russian to each other. I thought it was my lucky day because I speak Russian pretty well, so I said "Ti Russkaya?" simply meaning "are you Russian". They hadn't met a Westerner who could speak Russian. I spent couple of hours chit chatting with them. We had a good time. And yes, they were prostitutes. I could see the glitter in the US military men's eyes.

Hollywoodaction · Joined: 02 Jul 2004

Yaya · Joined: 25 Feb 2003 Location: Seoul

stumptown · Posted: Mon Jan 09, 2006 12:55 am Post subject:

What about the ones who work at Everland or Lotte World? How much do you think they are pulling in a month. My ex said they make about 2 mil a month. I tried to talk to a couple of them last time I was at Everland, but they're pretty standoffish.

Sooke · Joined: 12 Jan 2004 Location: korea

Your mom isn't Russian, is she?

Then, no....I haven't

liehtzu · Joined: 24 Mar 2003 Location: the sticks, Korea

Haven't dated a Russian girl in Korea, though did once in college. She was from the same region that most of the Russkies in Korea are from - remotest Siberia. She was beautiful, literate, and extremely intelligent, so what she was doing with me is anyone's guess. Based on my one experience I'd recommend. There are some real lookers down there on Texas Street in Busan, and although most appear to be "entertainers," I don't think they're all prostitutes. Give it a shot.

Have fun.

xingyiman · Joined: 12 Jan 2006

I was married to a Russian lady for nine years. She was from Krasnodar and Russia is a big place so I cannot simply ascribe my observations to the Siberian women as well. But these are my observations.

1. Russians don't trust anyone. This isn't all their fault as they have lived under a totalitarian regime for so long but it is something you will have to deal with.

2. Most Russians have a really skewed view of Western life. There is a common misconception among them that if you are from America you drive a Mercedes or Lexus, live on the beach in a spacious condo, and have dinner with Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie once a week. When reality hits them in the face it can have some drastic implications on your relationship.

3. Russians are vicious social climbers. They have been genetically seleted as opportunists in their culture and regardless of thier feelings for you they WILL use you to get what they are after. There is no Russian woman who is happy with a little compared with what she had.

4. Most Russians I met either in-law relatives or my x-wife's friends have one set of rules for them and another for you as a Westerner. They will accuse you of being rude to them and then enage in behaviors that are blatantly offensive to you without thinking twice about it.

5. Beware the Babushka! You will never get rid of your mother in law. She feels she has the Orthodox God's divine directive to infringe upon your marriage in any way she can. She will invade your privacy in any any every way without regard to what it wll do to your marriage. And yes she can do it over the phone lines as effectively as if she were there in person.

6. Russians lived in a society where for years the government took care of and ruled every aspect of their lives. As a result they seem to have a entitlement mentality that everyone owes them something. Last summer I worked with many Russians back in America and the girls were very lazy and didn't show up for work very often and lost their jobs frequently.

7. I know it sounds ethnocentric but Russian culture to us Westerners can be jackhammer annoying. The music, the movies, the humor, you name it. I put up with it for a longtime and tried to accomodate my wife in every way possible but she (like all spouses of other American men I know who married Ruskayas) never adaptred to our culture and regularly rubbed my face in hers at every possible moment.

8. You can't trust their friends. Even they don't trust their friends. My wife would hide all our valuables (jewelry, portable electronics, dvds, etc) every time her friends would come over. Her friends were notorious for lifting things and my wife would tell me that it s just a common thing in their culture because the distrust level even among friends is high.

9. Russians have had it rough especially in the past 15 years with the reorganization of their government and the rollercoaster ride of everyday life that they must deal with. The Russians are rated as being one of the most disatisfied populations on earth. Conversely, the Philippines whose population is equally poor and poorly governed has one of the more contented populations in the world.

I can of course be accused of being biased in my sweeping generalizations. But I have known many, many other men who married a Russian and had frighteningly similar stories and observations. Some I met through working relationships as a salesman and some I corresponded with online. Out of about 25 people that I knew and talked with 23 had been either divorced for similar reasons as I or were on the rocks in their relationships. The two that didn't had been recently married. Make no mistake about it, I loved my wife dearly. But the intrusive babushka, the untrustworthy, rude friends, and the unrealistic expectations my wife eventually subscribed to after years of brainwashing by her realtives finally took their toll on us. If you want to date or have sex with a Russian and if she's hot enough then by all means go for it. But if they start talking marriage then my advice is simply RUN LIKE HELL!

Yaya · Joined: 25 Feb 2003 Location: Seoul

I have a Russian friend who lives in Washington, DC, who says he avoids Russians like the plague. Other posters here have said in their experience, Russians apparently will not think twice about killing one of their own.

I'd say the above poster has told a story similar to many men who got wives from Russia via mail-order. Sad indeed.

xingyiman · Joined: 12 Jan 2006

dulouz · Joined: 04 Feb 2003 Location: Uranus

I was really looking forward to meeting Russian women here but its been a disappointment. Its a personal taste thing so far, but I haven't been overwhelmed by their beauty. A few times yes, but largely its been no big thrill. Don't get offended, my sense of beauty is mine and its been formed without the Russians as they weren't part of The USA's fabric of society until very recently.

Russians are easily the most cruel people on earth. They treat each other like dirt and it looks like they will treat you equally. Baltic women are available as are Eastern European women. All without the baggage.

I am looking forward to my trans-siberia trip - Vladivostock, Irkutsk, Khabarovsk. Well, maybe not so much any more.

ddeubel · Joined: 20 Jul 2005

Yingyiman,

You post some acute observations......I could really pull apart a few but for the most part they are revealing..

I lived quite a few years in Russia and russified Ukraine...spoke Czech and picked up Russian as well as Ukrainian easily enough.....so I have a few observations. NO, never married a Russian but if they do love you....you are set. Otherwise, as you stated, they are climbing the proverbial pecking order ladder.

violent? yes. Tender Yes.....an anecdote from Gyorgy Faludi a famous Hungarian poet (102 and now shacked up with a 33 year old.!!).. During the Hungarian revolution, he comments on observing a Russian tank roaring down the street and blowing away buildings indiscriminently......an old woman appears and is trying to cross the street. The tank stops and out of the turret pops a young baby faced Russian teenager...He screams "Babuska!! GEt a move on! We have work to do!!"....says something about that special mix which is the Slavic soul. I also like Nietzsche's anecdote about Russians ........they will march on through snow, freezing temperatures with their guns, no food....march and march....But once they are tired, they will lay down and not move...freeze to death. A kind of fatalism sets in , is part of their makeup and soul.

I agree with the noise, the lack of order/cleanliness..... I agree Russians are a paradox but I love them just the same....Guys have it sooooo easy there...only place where I saw all the construction workers were women!!!! The men were too busy talking and drinking and waiting for their wives to get home and make dinner!!!

Cultural imperialism? Of course but so too has the Chinese, the Americans and for the most part Koreans....they think they are the best, so clean, so pure......

But to sum up my rather winded post....the most important thing to know is that yes, a Russian woman wants something!!! But so too do most of the women I know...Same everywhere in the world.

So are you now going down to the phillipines.????

DD

xingyiman · Joined: 12 Jan 2006

xingyiman · Joined: 12 Jan 2006

kermo · Posted: Wed Jan 25, 2006 6:25 am Post subject:

Lemonade · Joined: 04 Jan 2006 Location: South Korea

Went on a date once with a very good looking Russian guy. The entire date he wanted to discuss his obesession with race cars that he liked to drive well over 120mph on the expressway. He blew engines in bran new cars, was arrested many times and his cars impounded. I couldn't understand why he didn't take them to a track and race them. He said, "I think it's no big deal to get tickets for speeding and my insurance is high. I don't care." I'm sure he was telling me the truth, especially since I watched him take off and drive his new vett with smoking tires. Truely crazy and a rather boring date overall. Easy on the eyes, plenty of money to burn but no conversation skills... rather dull.