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Homer
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 Posted: Fri Jan 27, 2006 7:00 am Post subject: To those with kids |
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| To those of you out there with kids..how has the arrival of the bundle of joy changed your life here and/or your outlook on life here? |
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HapKi
Joined: 10 Dec 2004
Location: TALL BUILDING-SEOUL
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| Posted: Fri Jan 27, 2006 7:26 am Post subject: |
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| I'm more conscious about kicking the bucket early. |
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tzechuk
Joined: 20 Dec 2004
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| Posted: Fri Jan 27, 2006 7:45 am Post subject: |
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Not a lot, really, Homer.
My husband and I have always agreed that we wouldn't stay here very long. With Letty, we know for sure when we will leave - before she attends primary school - so that'll be another 4/5 years. |
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Homer
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| Posted: Fri Jan 27, 2006 7:56 am Post subject: |
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Cool tzechuk,
Sounds like a plan.
However, I meant in your everyday life....I was unclear. |
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spark05
Joined: 08 Sep 2005
Location: Jung Dong
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| Posted: Sun Jan 29, 2006 8:11 am Post subject: |
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My son wasn't born here but I feel a little inadequate not being able to pursue/utilize all the resources that may or may not be available because I'm not fluent enough in Korean language/culture. Back in the States I felt really on top of everything but here I don't have any other mom friends to hang out with/compare stories/playdates, etc. Some aspects of the way I chose to raise my son are not compatible with the culture, and some are more compatible than back home, but I do feel that if I didn't feel secure in how I choose to raise my child Koreans might influence me to second guess myself a lot.
What I've noticed about Korean kids though is that they're not allowed to just be kids. Very young children are exposed to stuff way too mature and in the race to be the best kids are pushed really hard. It seems unnatural to me the way that some Korean kids (my son's age, almost 4) speak and act. I don't want to stay long enough for my son to adapt to that mentality. |
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itaewonguy
Joined: 25 Mar 2003
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| Posted: Sun Jan 29, 2006 11:41 pm Post subject: |
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I think every body deals with a new born differently depends on how you were raised etc..
for us.. it was sweet! didnt make a difference at all!
instead of putting breakfast on the table for 2 we do it for 3!
couldnt be greater!!
first step is..
accepting, then understanding! its a CHILD children do childish things!
then its all SWEET!!!
we have a great time..
im 31 and and my daughter is now 8
if you make it a big deal. it will be a big deal!
if you chill out and accept it as it is.. its awesome!!!
time flys!! |
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Ody
Joined: 27 Jan 2003
Location: over here
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| Posted: Mon Jan 30, 2006 2:47 am Post subject: |
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| spark05 wrote: |
| My son wasn't born here but I feel a little inadequate not being able to pursue/utilize all the resources that may or may not be available because I'm not fluent enough in Korean language/culture. Back in the States I felt really on top of everything but here I don't have any other mom friends to hang out with/compare stories/playdates, etc. Some aspects of the way I chose to raise my son are not compatible with the culture, and some are more compatible than back home. |
i so understand this! my kid's turning 8 (western age) in February and has lived in Korea going on 4 years. i cherish rare conversations with my American friend (living in Northern California), whose son is the same age.
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