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What is the most shocking thing a student has told you?
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Njord



Joined: 12 Jan 2006
Location: South Korea

PostPosted: Fri Feb 03, 2006 1:11 am    Post subject: What is the most shocking thing a student has told you? Reply with quote

One of my younger classes was talking about pets today. Their English is fairly strong, so it is possible to just pick a topic and talk about it for a large portion of a class. Anyhow, one of girls said that she has five hamsters but she used to have six. Then she went on to explain how the hamster died with blood pouring out of its rear end.

I imagine this is fairly tame for some of you who have been teaching for a long time. So what I should brace myself for?
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BigBlackEquus



Joined: 05 Jul 2005
Location: Lotte controls Asia with bad chocolate!

PostPosted: Fri Feb 03, 2006 1:37 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

And I was about to take a bite of that strawberry Dunkin Donut my student's mom just gave me.

Thanks. Confused
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pet lover



Joined: 02 Jan 2004
Location: not in Seoul

PostPosted: Fri Feb 03, 2006 3:08 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

one kid acted out a scene from a porno he'd seen recently..as you might expect, there wasn't much dialogue.

one kid told me how she had seen her father kill her other. actual true story..she told me in private

one kid told me quite seriously that boogers "aren't very yucky".

don't bother to brace yourself...you would be more likely to snap in half. instead develop a good poker face, serious nod, and an uncommitted "uh huh". that'll get you through a lot, though, not situations like the first two i mentioned
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keithinkorea



Joined: 17 Mar 2004

PostPosted: Fri Feb 03, 2006 3:09 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Well I was talking to a class of oldish kids yesterday, and it seems most people in Korea still believe in that fandeath crap!

When I did a little poll 7 out of 8 kids believed it was real and the other kid looked at them as if they were idiots.

One kid called me dirty for blowing my nose when I had a cold, then when he got ill he sat there the whole class with boogers running down his face Laughing

Not been told anything that has completely freaked me out, there just is a generally high level of weirdness that takes a few years to get used too. I'm pretty immune to most things these days.

The hamster story is pretty gross.
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SNoh84



Joined: 05 Jan 2006

PostPosted: Fri Feb 03, 2006 3:27 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Not sure, but I think it's pretty bad etiquette to blow your nose in public in Korea. Maybe that's why he said that?
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ulsanchris



Joined: 19 Jun 2003
Location: take a wild guess

PostPosted: Fri Feb 03, 2006 4:16 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

i had a middle school girl say she was a lesbian in one of my classes.
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xeno439



Joined: 30 Nov 2005

PostPosted: Fri Feb 03, 2006 5:11 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

SNoh84 wrote:
Not sure, but I think it's pretty bad etiquette to blow your nose in public in Korea. Maybe that's why he said that?

No, its better to blow your nose, or do a subtle swipe, than to let the boogers run down. If they think its rude . . . Oh well, can't please them all. I wasn't much of a conformist in my home country. Why change my style here?
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vox



Joined: 13 Feb 2005
Location: Jeollabukdo

PostPosted: Fri Feb 03, 2006 6:11 am    Post subject: most shocking thing Reply with quote

Once in an afternoon class an 8-year old who used to blow kisses and make valentines with her hands once put her fist on her mouth and made a bobbing action with her head and hand and pointed at me smiling. That warranted an instant visit to Korean teacher and a call to mommy to find out exactly where she saw or learned that.

Thank God the class was videotaped is all I have to say. After mommy was shown the video she demonstred a lot more restraint in class but after a couple of weeks of sourface she eventually returned to a positive (if less amorous) demeanour.
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UncleAlex



Joined: 04 Apr 2003

PostPosted: Fri Feb 03, 2006 7:31 am    Post subject: The Most Shocking ? Reply with quote

Once when I had turned my back while writing on the front board at a girls'
middle school and had my rear end in profile, a student just behind me said,
"Teacher, I like your ...." I suppose it would have been even more shocking
if I had been teaching at a boys' middle school. Cool
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Big Mac



Joined: 17 Sep 2005

PostPosted: Fri Feb 03, 2006 7:39 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I had a kid who had a very serious black eye. When I asked her what happened she told me that her mother had hit her. She said it so seriously I had no reason not to believe her.

In fact, this kid would come in quite a lot with marks on her face, but I never asked her again what had happened. I never reported it either, because I assumed this sort of thing was more acceptable than it is in Canada. Perhaps I was wrong in assuming that, but I didn't want to commit a cultural taboo.

She was a great kid and a wonderful student though, and I felt very badly for her.
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Lemonade



Joined: 04 Jan 2006
Location: South Korea

PostPosted: Fri Feb 03, 2006 7:49 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Big Mac wrote:
I had a kid who had a very serious black eye. When I asked her what happened she told me that her mother had hit her. She said it so seriously I had no reason not to believe her.

In fact, this kid would come in quite a lot with marks on her face, but I never asked her again what had happened. I never reported it either, because I assumed this sort of thing was more acceptable than it is in Canada. Perhaps I was wrong in assuming that, but I didn't want to commit a cultural taboo.

She was a great kid and a wonderful student though, and I felt very badly for her.


Child abuse is child abuse. It's not something that should be tolerated in ANY culture. I'm sorry you decided to turn a blind eye and virtually ignore after that. No, I don't believe that that type of physical abuse to children is part of Korean culture.

So, how can a teacher report this type of abuse to authorities? The police? What will happen. Imagine that child being killed or maimed SEVERLY by her parents and YOU do nothing because you think it's Korean culture. Comeon now.
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Gorgias



Joined: 27 Aug 2005

PostPosted: Fri Feb 03, 2006 7:58 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Quote:
"Teacher, I like your ...."

I've gotten this from about half a dozen girls in the last few years. I'm not a total farankenstien so obviously that's gonna happen. On girl in particular: "Anne" would not let it go, and the things she was saying were just getting way beyond the level of ignorability. Luckily I finished that contract and moved on to another academy, or for sure I'd have to had addressed her crush some how.
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captain kirk



Joined: 29 Jan 2003

PostPosted: Fri Feb 03, 2006 8:14 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

He's 15 and he said that three Korean students had jumped to their deaths from his apartment building. That made me wonder if every Korean apartment building has a history of jumpers like his building.
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nev



Joined: 04 Jan 2004
Location: ch7t

PostPosted: Fri Feb 03, 2006 8:29 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Gorgias wrote:

One girl in particular: Anne" would not let it go,


That must have been awkward for you.
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Big Mac



Joined: 17 Sep 2005

PostPosted: Fri Feb 03, 2006 8:38 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Lemonade wrote:
Big Mac wrote:
I had a kid who had a very serious black eye. When I asked her what happened she told me that her mother had hit her. She said it so seriously I had no reason not to believe her.

In fact, this kid would come in quite a lot with marks on her face, but I never asked her again what had happened. I never reported it either, because I assumed this sort of thing was more acceptable than it is in Canada. Perhaps I was wrong in assuming that, but I didn't want to commit a cultural taboo.

She was a great kid and a wonderful student though, and I felt very badly for her.


Child abuse is child abuse. It's not something that should be tolerated in ANY culture. I'm sorry you decided to turn a blind eye and virtually ignore after that. No, I don't believe that that type of physical abuse to children is part of Korean culture.

So, how can a teacher report this type of abuse to authorities? The police? What will happen. Imagine that child being killed or maimed SEVERLY by her parents and YOU do nothing because you think it's Korean culture. Comeon now.


You're absolutely right. In retrospect I should have done something about it. I seem to remember mentioning it to my boss and there wasn't much of a reaction, so I figured it was wise to leave it alone. If I went to the police...is it possible I would get the same reaction?

However, I agree that child abuse should not be acceptable anywhere. But then 30 years ago schools in Canada allowed teachers to hit students with belts...so you have to kind of wonder where the line is at this moment in time in Korean society.
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