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[periwinkle]

A lot of guys on this board seem to really be into their (Korean, Filipina, etc.) girlfriend's appearance. It seems like a lot of value is placed on appearance, so I really wonder about a few things. First, if you see a future with her, how will you feel once she gains weight when she is pregnant, or can't lose the post-pregnancy weight? Or gets varicose veins? Stretch marks? Sagging b r e a s t s?

How will you feel towards her when she is middle-aged, a bit soft, and possibly has an ajumma perm?

Do you guys know how much it costs to color your hair, get a manicure/pedicure, get facials, buy those pretty clothes, buy that expensive dept. store make-up, join a health club, etc., etc? You won't give her a hard time about all the money she spends to keep-up her appearance? What if her priorities shift, and she wants to save all that money for your family's future, and no longer wears make-up, gets her nails done, gets her hair done, quits the gym, etc?

[inspector gadget]

She must be attractive, that doesn't mean that she has to make guys drool. I have had plenty of hot girlfriends in the past including my ex wife from Holland.

I think most of the real hotties lack other decent qualities that I put importance on.

Remember Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, I have seen some pics posted on this site that guys say are HOT but others may disagree.

They must be beautiful to me, they also must have qualities such as intellegence, independance, a sense of adventure, among others.

Oh ya, they must have a nice as$, eyes and legs, those are the physical qualities I look for in a woman.

[Dan The Chainsawman]

Well as long as she has all her teeth, and failing that requirement at least wears a pair of dentures I am happy. Other than that I look like a hobo most of the time so I don't get to worried about how the S/O looks. On special occasions it is nice to dress up, but that is a mutual thing as I would of course be nice enough to take a shower and put on clean underwear. As I still stuck in my Miami Vice mindset shaving and wearing socks is clearly optional.

[Axl Rose]

WHat you gotta realize is that 'hot' to me is just that - hot TO ME! I find stuff a turn-on that other guys don't. when a guy says "a lover/partner MUST be attractive", stupid god damn women ASSUME we mean like Pamela Anderson or super model stuff !

of course i must find a lady attractive to look at. who on earth is not of this persuasion? people who place personality above looks and money are LIARS. They're lying to tHEMSELVES!

so you're gonna marry an ugly guy who drives a truck but is a laugh-a-minute and great conversation? get that bull outta my face!

[Satori]

[periwinkle]

[billybrobby]

[laogaiguk]

[Mashimaro]

I like beautiful women

[Yo!Chingo]

Mashimaro EVERYONE likes beautiful women!!! Even Women! Most of us can appreciate an attractive person period. The question is....when her/his butt is hangin' to da floor are you still gonna like them? Far too many people get involved in relationships based upon LUST not LOVE. When the boobs are a hangin' and the blond is now gray we'll see what men are really in love with.
BTW...I'm blond with a nice figure, size C upstairs ,and I'd say a decent face. Men tell me I'm "beautiful" all the time. Doesn't mean crap! It's what's inside that counts!!![/quote]

[JongnoGuru]

[xingyiman]

[SPINOZA]

I have seen cases where a guy who's nothing special to look at - perhaps even rather ugly - get beautiful girlfriends because of personality or sense of humour or what ever. This in my opinion happens more with women than with guys. but generally people - both sexes - are sexually attracted to people they find sexually attractive to look at. That's tautologous because it's so obvious. I've fancied birds who are nothing remotely special to look at; they just had a certain something, physically, that turned me on.

So yeah - looks are important. But 'objectively beautiful' if there is such a thing? It's helpful but it's not essential.

Sex is a physical need for guys. We need to be physically turned on to get it up and reproduce. Women aren't burdened with this. I say 'burden' because it is a burden. I'd be having sex constantly were it not for my need to be turned on by a lady who I personally deem physically attractive. I'd love to sh@g every woman in the whole world, but I can't, because many women don't give SPIN a hard-on. Please no silly comments about "well it's hardly a foregone conclusion that every woman in the world would want to sleep with YOU, SPIN" because that (sadly) I'm well aware of already.

Women don't need to be turned-on to have sex. Men do. Usually it's physical attractiveness (which is subjective) that is responsible for turned-on. A solidly convincing thesis - who can refute me?

[Homer]

Looks are important but they are also relative to your personal preferences.

As someone on here has said: whats hot to him is not necessarily hot to another.

Also, long term relationships need to be based on more than looks as that type of attraction fades or changes. You need the full package here: looks that appeal to you (and your looks must appeal to her as well!), intelligence and character.

As for my wife, we had our first child last year and she looks just as beautiful to me now as before. She had a great pregnancy and delivery and she lost all the weight she had gained (all the gals in her family are like that!) As for her body changing, well its pregnancy and birth! Change is normal. I am not with her because she is thin. I am with her because we connect on many levels.

[crazylemongirl]