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SPINOZA · Joined: 10 Jun 2005 Location: $eoul

I've changed my hairstyle recently. It's a hairstyle I've had many times in the past but only the first time I've had it like this in Korea.

"What style is that then, SPIN, I hear you all ask?"

gelled back basically with short back and sides. It suits me a lot - I have jet-black hair, unusually-black for a white guy - but I always get bored and change it because I'm rather vain. There's nothing wrong with being vain. All humans are self-obsessed animals (!) and I take that to extremes in an existentialist parody.

Getting to the point at last, everyone in the whole world has told me I look more handsome with my hair like this. I agree. But they also tell me I look older. This is a problem for me because I have an excessive dread of aging. Since my mid-20s, I've become obsessively, morbidly self-conscious about looking older than I actually am. Living in Korea has made it worse. Students at school today simply wouldn't accept that I'm 27 (29 K-time). With my previous hairstyle, my mother said I looked very boyish but less handsome than with this current style.

We all wish we looked younger. We all wish we could be young for longer. Someone telling you that you look older than you are is extremely insulting. Yet...we all want to be handsome or pretty. People say "personality is more important than looks" but what would you be most offended by...being called boring, or unpleasant to get along with...or ugly? Or even not handsome/pretty? That's a rhetorical question, because the answer for every human animal on this planet is "I'd be most offended if I was called not handsome/pretty".

Your view...older-looking yet better-looking vs younger-looking with the possibility of looking less good?

coolsage · Posted: Wed Mar 08, 2006 7:16 am Post subject:

Spin: Get over yourself. It's true that appearance cuts more ice than does ability in this land, but that shouldn't impair your perspective. Whatever cosmetic changes you might make, you're still the same person under your skin, where you know yourself, and wherever anyone of any value will know you as well. You're 27; if you take decent care of yourself, you can look good for fifty more years (remember Cary Grant?). That's not the point. The older you get, the less shallow you need to be (remember Madonna?). Some day, when you leave this land, someone will appreciate you for your soul, assuming that you cultivate that aspect of you. Cheers.

QQworld · Joined: 04 Jan 2006

In the same sentence you both said something was a rhetorical question, and then happily continued on to answer aforementioned question.

Congratulations.

sillywilly · Joined: 20 Jan 2003 Location: Canada.

The problem is that the younger you look the better looking you are, generally. Sophia Loren still looks good even though she doesn't look that young, though.

peppermint · Posted: Wed Mar 08, 2006 2:03 pm Post subject:

trying to look young is what lead men to comb-overs. Do I need to say anything else?

coolsage · Posted: Thu Mar 09, 2006 9:09 am Post subject:

Pep: Indeed the comeovers are pathetic. On the other hand, Sean Connery, among others, proves that an absence of hair has little to to do with a lack of attraction to the other gender. Really; wouldn't you like to get it on with even an aging James Bond, shaken, not stirred?

EFLtrainer · Joined: 04 May 2005

spin!!! Get hold of yourself, man!!!!

EFLtrainer · Joined: 04 May 2005

LL Moonmanhead · Joined: 21 Mar 2005 Location: yo momma

I know it sounds terrible and all, but no mattter what haircut i have i still look young and exceedingly handsome.

Of course as the years roll by this will change, but my personality will more than make up for this.

To the OP, grow up.... why are you that bothered, if one person thinks this, the other generally thinks that.

'If everyone looked the same, we'd get tired of looking at each other', to quote dodgy dance tune.

peppermint · Posted: Thu Mar 09, 2006 2:41 pm Post subject:

Swiss James · Joined: 26 Nov 2003 Location: Shanghai

indytrucks · Joined: 09 Apr 2003 Location: The Shelf

You walked into the party like you were walking onto a yacht
Your hat strategically dipped below one eye
Your scarf it was apricot
You had one eye in the mirror as you watched yourself gavotte
And all the girls dreamed that they'd be your partner
They'd be your partner, and....

Big_Bird · Posted: Thu Mar 09, 2006 9:30 pm Post subject:

Satori · Joined: 09 Dec 2005 Location: Above it all

My answer, though actually IS the answer the question you posted, comes from quite an oblique angle, however, it is the most helpful answer you'll get in this thread, and if pondered upon with sufficient veracity, may even lead you towards enlightenment...

You're a knob...

SPINOZA · Joined: 10 Jun 2005 Location: $eoul

New Zealand wit, folks.

Don't all burst out laughing at once.