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Seabass · Joined: 01 Feb 2005 Location: Toronto, Canada

I've been dating one of the Korean teachers at my work and I just wanted to share some of my experiences and see if others out there can relate:

- First date, she paid for everything, movie, snacks for movie and dinner at the Outback. She refused to let me pay. I thought, next time I'll pay for everything, but she only let me pay for half the things on the 2nd and 3rd dates. Finally, the last dinner we just had, I had to wait until she went to the toilet to sneak money to the waiter to pay for dinner. And then she tried shoving money into my pocket, she felt all bad.

- In another money related story, one night we were out past 11 (imagine!) and I missed the last bus home. She kept apologizing for a week about how I had to pay for a taxi home by myself, which cost a grand total of 5,000 won (really put me in the poor house). She still beings that up when we go out, even though it happened a month ago.

-I asked her if she wanted to meet up with some of the other teachers for dinner, but she was not comfortable, even though her closest Korean teacher friend was there. Her friend knows we have been seeing each other too, so I didn't understand why she felt so awkward.

- I bought her an early White Day gift (as I thought it would be awkward to give it to her at work) and she asked me how much it cost? I told her don't worry about it. Why the obsession with money? She loved the gift and thanked me over and over again, but it kind of spoils things when she asked how much it cost.

- I asked her if she wanted to come back to my apartment and meet my dog before going out for dinner but she felt uncomfortable. I told her I had no ulterior motive, but she said no. She said she trusts me, but just scared I guess.

- She always says she is ugly, although she is far from it. Always says she is stupid, but is far from it.

- Everytime we say goodnight, its always rushed, so there is no time for a hug or a kiss. Either she rushes out of a cab we share, or she sends me on a bus on my way in a hurry. Then she calls me 2 seconds later to apologize for the awkward goodbye.

- She is 23 and I am the first guy (Korean or foreigner) she has ever been to a movie with. She has never had a boyfriend.

I'm not saying all these things to be negative. She is the sweetest girl I've ever dated. She is intelligent, funny, pretty and kind hearted. We can talk for hours and hours and never run out of things to talk about. I want to be serious with her and am being patient as far as intimacy goes. But at the same time I want the relationship to progress. I'm hesitant to be aggressive as I dont know how she'll react. Her innocence is refreshing and frustrating at the same time.

Anyone out there share similar experiences?

laogaiguk · Joined: 06 Dec 2005 Location: somewhere in Korea

I couldn't even begin to know if what I am going to say is right, so I will just offer it as food for thought.
1) For the money, maybe she is trying to prove to you that she is not after you just for money or status
2) For the intimacy, maybe she is just trying to feel you out and make sure you are with her for her.

I don't know you or her or even your work situation (though guessing a hagwon by the sounds of it).

Hater Depot · Joined: 29 Mar 2005

I have been in some odd dating situations with Korean girls. My advice, won from hard experience, is not to put up with ridiculous crap that wouldn't fly back home.

Leslie Cheswyck · Joined: 31 May 2003 Location: University of Western Chile

Sounds like she's getting what she wants out of the relationship. At least she's not making you foot the bill, which is something of a good sign. But things are still stuck in neutral.

Start becoming less available. You don't have to start seeing other girls. (Though, why not) "Gosh, I'd love to baby but I'm going out with the guys." "Oh, I just remembered, there's this thing I gotta take care of."

Ah, just start meeting other women.

canuckistan · Posted: Sat Mar 11, 2006 10:05 pm Post subject:

Mashimaro · Joined: 31 Jan 2003 Location: location, location

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jaganath69 · Joined: 17 Jul 2003

Experiences? Korean girls? Well, I know a bit about that, but not much, here is what I have gleaned so far.
MOD EDIT
3. If she has no pulse, chances are she is not for you.
4. They have hair in most places you would expect to find them.
5. They usually walk upright, but there are always exceptions to the rule.

Hope this helps.

igotthisguitar · Posted: Sat Mar 11, 2006 11:34 pm Post subject:

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Apple Scruff · Joined: 29 Oct 2003

Nail her.

And jaganatha69: change your damn avatar. Gawkers in this PC room think I'm looking at homosexual biker porn.

Pak Yu Man · Joined: 02 Jun 2005 Location: The Ida galaxy

Are you sure youare actually dating this girl?

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