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[Qinella]

So I've been home a few weeks, still waiting on my visa, and have been staying at the natural choice -- my parents' home.

There are the upsides. Free. Comfortable. Cable internet access.

There are the downsides. My parents don't drink, and 100%ly disallow all alcohol from their home. Also, the no smoking thing. The biggest downside is when they come home in the evening. If there were ever in life a great motivator to get my ass into gear, it's the prospect of being caged in a house with both my parents. I will go out and do anything until 2am just to be away from them. Do I loathe their presence that much? Since childhood, yes.

Today my father has deemed we shall go to "dinner and a movie". This man must be the boringest being alive, and here I am, roped to him for the entire night. Of course, the option-less invitation came replete with, "Ooorrr we can .. do something else... orrrr, whatever you want, heh heh..", only intensifying the awkwardness. Alas, I have no other plans, and will alight on an evening of strained conversation, forced smiles, and ruminations on how things could be different were a nice, married Christian boy or he an open-minded freethinker with a functioning logical capacity and willingness to appreciate fun.

I'm 25 now, and when I next return, I'll be 26. Perhaps at that time it would be appropriate for me to find a suitable hotel to lodge in during interrum contract time. The average decent hotel around here is $60 a night, or about $250 a week. That could mean close to $1000 for lodging. Then another $400-500 for a rented car. Perhaps.. next year, I will just suffer my parents once again in the name of frugality.

Is peace of mind really worth $1500?

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[peppermint]

I get along fairly well with my parents, so it's not so much of a burden. In your case, maybe going to Thailand for a month is a better option?

[VanIslander]

Come on, you could stay at a friend's or neighbour's.

Just offer someone you know five hundred bucks for the month.

Get peace of mind. You can come and go as you please, and visit family as you like.

But you will probably have to endure countless whining from your family inquiring about why you aren't staying with them, and your answers will be insufficient.

C'est la vie.

[Yo!Chingo]

You'll miss them when they're gone. I make it a point to stay with my mom and dad at every possible chance in the States because I know that they won't always be here. They may be boring but it is free and I could think of worse situations than no smoking and or drinking in their house. Think of it as a cleansing experience!

[Homer]

Dude...you live and work abroad...enjoy the time you get to spend with your family. As it was said they won't be around forever!

[jaderedux]

Have to agree with most. You will miss all that when they are gone. My dad would be so stoked I was in Korea and I can't tell him because he passed sometime ago.

They put up you for a long time. And if you were a normal teenager you are like the rest of us you are lucky to have lived.

If you can't go a month without a drink then perhaps it isn't your parents that have the problem.

I would giving anything to have a boring dinner with my dad. His sole purpose in life when I was a teenager was to embarass me ....not really but it sure felt that way.

Honestly unless they beat you or mistreated you mentally or physically ...um you sound like an ungrateful twit. But maybe your mom is Joan Crawford and your dad is straight out of "Bad Lt.", dunno, but to loathe being in your parents presence seem pretty harsh.

Yeah we all shoulda been something we aren't. If we were all what are parents wanted us to be the world would be overrn with doctors, lawyers, teachers and nuns, the churches filled to overflowing and everyone would be married with 2.1 children and a mini-van would grace every drive way.

You can't just listen to them for a few hours. Let him and your mom enjoy having their child around because even when you are 40 you will still be their child.

P.S. You are living in THEIR house, eating their food and probably not adding alot to the budget from what you say.

Love em while you can.

Jade

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[jinju]

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[Qinella]

You people who judged me are assholes. My OP was intentionally light-hearted. The "no smoking" thing, for example, was supposed to be a joke! Do you twits think I'm going to get on here and convey to you my family history, like you're my gd therapists or something? I had a very tumultuous time growing up, such that I really did seek therapy when I hit my 20s to try to and become somewhat normal. Do you think my OP was intended to convey that entire history!? What fools you are!

I wrote a longer explanation so you more judgmental types could have a better understanding, but I erased it all now because I realized if you're that quick to judge, and so fast to let everyone know what a great person you are by way of cutting me down, then your opinion is worthless anyway. I'm not sharing my personal history with people who will so quickly use it to tear me down at an opportune time.


The thread topic was, "Where do you stay when you visit home?" No one has responded to that topic at all. Are you all so desperately in need of lashing out at someone else to make yourself feel better that you forget the reason you clicked on a thread?

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[jaderedux]

Well if they were that bad and your childhood was so horrible then what the hell are you doing there now?

Get a cheap hotel and live there.

Nobody asked for you family history but you posted this message and if you read it over again it sounds like the only problem you have with your parents is that they are boring. You never elluded to a bad childhood only that your parents are boring. Unfortunately on a message board people can only reply to what they read.

Again, if they mistreated you, abused you mentally and/or physically then what the heck are you doing there? Don't stay there don't give them the time of day. Forgive them but don't put yourself in the line of fire.


Jade

[Qinella]