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[peppermint]

If the situation is still that uncomfortable there, why don't you rent a car, and tell the folks you're going on a bit of a road trip to somewhere scenic a day or so's drive away. That's lots less likely to cause hurt feelings than moving into a hotel for the rest of your stay, but still gives you a break.

[red headed stranger]

What peppermint says has a lot of merit. My wife and I both have some serious issues with our parents, and our parents live within an hour of each other which can rally make things sticky.

We rent a car and set up our own itinerary before we get there that we absolutely stick to. Staying in control of what you do is the important thing.

[Qinella]

[poker player]

Show your parents the original post.
They'd be proud.

[Corporal]

I have to agree it was a bit weird to read the OP bashing his parents--not what I expected out of the post. I couldn't relate to it at all. That said, we don't know anything of his history beyond what he revealed, and just because his family situation is different doesn't mean he doesn't have a right to vent about feeling odd when he goes home.

Anyway, to answer the question, I personally have many people vying for my attention when I go back--I don't mean that to sound arrogant, it's just true. I have a large family and network of friends that would all be happy if I stayed only with them. Still, my main choice is always the home in which I grew up.

[kermo]

I stayed with my parents for a month, hoping for a nice visit after a 6 month absence. I love them to bits, and they are really very well-adjusted human beings. I can't say the same for my sister, who wasn't so keen on sharing "her space" which tended to include rooms she wasn't in, and even places around the city she was simultaneously occupying. It was excruciating, and if I go back, one of us will be in a hotel. I feel for you Quinn.

[Qinella]

[Qinella]

Corporal, interesting post. I assume a lot of people probably feel the same way. It's tough for me to relate to the desire to stay at the growing up house.

[red headed stranger]

[Dawn]

I've yet to go back for more than a week or two at a time, but I tend to alternate between my sister's place and my parents'. Both are nice. One big draw at my sister's is my six-year-old nephew, plus my sister and brother-in-law are more inclined to do stuff -- go to movies, go out to eat, go hiking or to the zoo or on a picnic with the munchkin, etc. My dog, my books, and most of my other earthly possessions are at my parents' place, though, and most of my friends/relatives live in that area. Unfortunately, the two family units live about 1,100 miles a part, so it's kind of hard to squeeze both of them into a single visit. Decisions, decisions ...

This year, I'm avoiding the issue. Have reserved rooms in L.A. and invited the family to fly to the West Coast and join me.

[OiGirl]

My mother has decided that housecleaning is unnecessary. And she has a houseful of cats. So I won't ever be staying with my parents ever again. (I tried it once and had a severe allergy attack.) I am fortunate to have other friends in town who will put me up and even lend me a spare car!

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[jinju]

Quinella is a loser. He/She should just stay away from his parents' home if there are these "issues". Using your parents for free room and board and free food to stuff down that undeserving throat is the height of hypocrisy. Either you have issues and you stay away since its so damn bad, or you stick that tail between your legs and accept your parents without whining. Id respect you if you shelled out the bucks for a motel room and your own food. THEN you can whine and moan on the internet about how bad your father is. Getting things for free from people you dont like is being a hypocriical wanker.

[Qinella]

[Qinella]