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Hollywoodaction
Joined: 02 Jul 2004
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Posted: Tue May 30, 2006 6:48 pm Post subject: |
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| You'll get more comments for being 'tall', actually...which is odd because many of the 1st year female students that I have this semester are about 5'9" or 5'10". |
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Horangi Munshin

Joined: 06 Apr 2003 Location: Busan
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Posted: Tue May 30, 2006 6:50 pm Post subject: |
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My favourite was,
"You're very handsome. I think you'll be a good teacher"
Pretty much sums up those kind of comments! |
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ajstew
Joined: 04 Feb 2004 Location: Korea
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Posted: Tue May 30, 2006 7:38 pm Post subject: are you big? |
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| To the OP, it doesn't really matter what the height to weight ratio is and whether that is technically, 'big' or not, as some have been stating. If you look in the mirror and you see excess fat where it shouldn't be, meaning in the belly or on your hips or around the lower back and/or shoulders, be prepared to hear comments about your weight. In Korea if you are not slim... you are fat. |
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Aussiekimchi
Joined: 21 Apr 2006 Location: SYDNEY
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Posted: Tue May 30, 2006 7:54 pm Post subject: |
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I think it is funny when I hear so many Koreans saying that someone looks like a movie star. i.e He looks like Brad Pitt. Actually the guy usually only has blonde hair and white skin.
I get "you look like Robin Williams" or even " OOh Guss Hiddink!"
But the air of defeat comes when you go to a hairdresser. They give you a set of photos of movie stars so they can copy the hair style.
Finally I can break the mould! I think.
Eagerly, I point to the Brad Pitt or the Heath Ledger, but still come out with the same generic Korean style haircut and the cat calls of Guss! Guss! HIGH-TING! |
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thebum

Joined: 09 Jan 2005 Location: North Korea
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Posted: Tue May 30, 2006 9:09 pm Post subject: |
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You don't sound too fat to me. 5'10 150lbs? That's not bad.
Now, that doesn't mean people won't call you fat, though, so if you're really sensitive, you need to prepare for that. For example, I have just an average amount of hair on my arms, but kids love to call me monkey and try to pet my arms. When I teach them what "fur" means while we're talking about animals, they inevitably point to my arms as an example of fur and laugh. |
that's probably because in korean, the same word is used for animal fur that is used for body hair (everything except the hair on your head) |
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kiwigirl :O)
Joined: 05 Jan 2006 Location: Bundang
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Posted: Tue May 30, 2006 9:39 pm Post subject: |
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i wouldnt worry to much about it
the most important thing is that you will look exotic to them
you may get the odd comment (that you wouldnt normally get back home) but dont take it too seriously
i am not as slim as a korean woman but i still get many favourable compliments (i think i am roughly the same as you but not as tall) it is sexy to be curvy!! |
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Peter Jackson

Joined: 23 Apr 2006
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Posted: Tue May 30, 2006 10:24 pm Post subject: Only on an internet forum... |
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would women talk so cadidly about weight and height!
The title could be changed to "Big Korean girls in Korea" as Lord knows there's plently of those...
It always irks me when some Korean man says, "Korean girl very small!" Not all of em...makes me wonder where the heck do THEY buy clothes...even been to Mcdonalds on a Saturday morning?
Cheers, |
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rawiri

Joined: 01 Jun 2003 Location: Lovely day for a fire drill.
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Posted: Tue May 30, 2006 10:41 pm Post subject: |
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| You must be lying about your nationality if you think your big at 150 pounds. Some advice, grow a thick skin if your planning on coming over here, the kids are merciless and adults aren't much better at commenting on your looks. |
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PRagic

Joined: 24 Feb 2006
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Posted: Tue May 30, 2006 11:08 pm Post subject: |
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Every (tall) western woman I have known in Seoul has had a tough time of it. I'm not pulling any punches, and you should be prepared. As a guy, we can get about without too many hastles. Western women that I've talked to here over the years, though, paint a different picture; glaring, touchy men on the street, not being able to walk about comfortably alone at night, terribly annoying and agressive teenaged boys on the subways and buses...you name it. Sounds like life in pretty much any other big city, though, if you ask me, but, like I said, the male perspective is different.
All I know is that most of the women I know here prefer to get around in their own car, and very few I know have been happy staying here past the first one or two years; the exceptions I know are those few married to Western men. The VERY rare exception is the woman married to a Korean guy, as even 99% of these that I know want to get out of dodge pretty bad.
Good luck to you. Be ready for the cultural differences, and you'll be OK. Get defensive and you'll have a tough time of it almost right off the bat. |
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Snowkr
Joined: 03 Jun 2005
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Posted: Tue May 30, 2006 11:16 pm Post subject: |
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I'm 5, 6 and about 120 pounds.
The Koreans say I'm too skinny.
These little tiny stick figure women actually say to me "you are so beautiful but so skinny. Are you hungry?"
I get the "Ruuussiaaa" thing from men here all the time. I usually just say "quido mei gook" (Christian and American) and that shuts them up right away.
I've also been told that I must be Italian because I have wavy hair and big brown eyes... because Italians all look exactly like that!
150 lbs at 5,10 is most certainly not big. If you are blonde and tall, you'll have people lining up to take photos with you!
Well... maybe not lining up, but they might snap your picture and then run off giggling...
I'm often reminded of high school when we used to look at the Asian exchange students as geeks or wimps because they looked, dressed and talked different from us. The stereotypes exist in our culture too. |
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Qinella
Joined: 25 Feb 2005 Location: the crib
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Posted: Tue May 30, 2006 11:19 pm Post subject: |
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| Qinella wrote: |
You don't sound too fat to me. 5'10 150lbs? That's not bad.
Now, that doesn't mean people won't call you fat, though, so if you're really sensitive, you need to prepare for that. For example, I have just an average amount of hair on my arms, but kids love to call me monkey and try to pet my arms. When I teach them what "fur" means while we're talking about animals, they inevitably point to my arms as an example of fur and laugh. |
that's probably because in korean, the same word is used for animal fur that is used for body hair (everything except the hair on your head) |
The same word is used for head, legs, arms, etc. as well, but the only time they point to me for comparison is when I teach about fur.
Come now. Don't write it off as a linguistic misunderstanding. They think I'm a monkey!!
Btw, I do what Anyway does--thank them sincerely, and act like it as a big compliment. Aww! Monkeys are so cute! You think I'm cute? Thanks! Totally knocks their socks off. |
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jacl
Joined: 31 Oct 2005
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Posted: Tue May 30, 2006 11:28 pm Post subject: |
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| Qinella wrote: |
| thebum wrote: |
| Qinella wrote: |
You don't sound too fat to me. 5'10 150lbs? That's not bad.
Now, that doesn't mean people won't call you fat, though, so if you're really sensitive, you need to prepare for that. For example, I have just an average amount of hair on my arms, but kids love to call me monkey and try to pet my arms. When I teach them what "fur" means while we're talking about animals, they inevitably point to my arms as an example of fur and laugh. |
that's probably because in korean, the same word is used for animal fur that is used for body hair (everything except the hair on your head) |
The same word is used for head, legs, arms, etc. as well, but the only time they point to me for comparison is when I teach about fur.
Come now. Don't write it off as a linguistic misunderstanding. They think I'm a monkey!!
Btw, I do what Anyway does--thank them sincerely, and act like it as a big compliment. Aww! Monkeys are so cute! You think I'm cute? Thanks! Totally knocks their socks off. |
"But my brain ok. You have monkey brain." |
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crazylemongirl

Joined: 23 Mar 2003 Location: almost there...
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Posted: Wed May 31, 2006 3:23 am Post subject: |
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Oh yeah I forgot my standard, develop a don't f with me attuide rant.
When I first arrived, I was a freak magnet. Men would call me a hooker, the would grab my boobies, or just stare that horrible stare.
Then I developed a bit more of a don't f' with me thing. If someone stares, I stare them right back in the eye. I had a guy on the subway staring at my legs, so my friend and I glared him down until he eventually moved to another car. If they call you a hooker, you tell them the have a small gochu, and most importantly you carry yourself with an attuide that you aren't going to take any crap.
Also make at least one good western girl friend. I know my life is better when I can whinge to someone who knows where I am coming from. |
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Hollywoodaction
Joined: 02 Jul 2004
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Posted: Wed May 31, 2006 8:19 am Post subject: |
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crazylemongirl, I sometimes wonder if these creeps harrass you ladies because they actually think you aren't Russian. Those Russian ladies could probably F-them up pretty bad. Russians are tough as nails. Fighting a stereotype with another one. |
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periwinkle
Joined: 08 Feb 2003
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Posted: Wed May 31, 2006 9:18 pm Post subject: |
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| crazylemongirl wrote: |
Oh yeah I forgot my standard, develop a don't f with me attuide rant.
When I first arrived, I was a freak magnet. Men would call me a hooker, the would grab my boobies, or just stare that horrible stare.
Then I developed a bit more of a don't f' with me thing. If someone stares, I stare them right back in the eye. I had a guy on the subway staring at my legs, so my friend and I glared him down until he eventually moved to another car. If they call you a hooker, you tell them the have a small gochu, and most importantly you carry yourself with an attuide that you aren't going to take any crap.
Also make at least one good western girl friend. I know my life is better when I can whinge to someone who knows where I am coming from. |
Word, girl! The attitude thing goes a LONG way here. When guys I'm sitting next to on the train have to turn to a 9:00 position to check me out, I turn to my 3:00 position and give them a withering up-and-down look with my nose way up in the air. Stops them COLD !!! Other people see me do it, and they can think I'm a biatch all they want, but I've NEVER seen them to that to a K girl, so hell no, they ain't doing that to me. My friend gives them the old, "What's your problem?" Heh. I don't want to engage any pervy older (especially drunk) guys in conversation, though.
Today my co-worker told me I look the secretary from "Ghostbusters" just because I'm wearing my nerdy black frames and I've got my hair completely pulled off my face (I was going for the look from that cell phone commercial where the guy has like 6 girls all dressed the same- vaguely reminiscent of that Robert Palmer video- who wait on him hand and foot).
What is it about the obsession with appearance, anyway? Why does it matter? You'd think people would care more about your personality traits, level of intelligence, etc. God, as long as my (future) kids' teachers are effective, reliable, kind, etc., who gives a shit how much they weigh? |
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