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danyuk · Joined: 17 Jun 2003

Are these girls engaged just because they dont wanna end up single? Fair play if they feel they have to, but when u think there could be a possibility it's bloody annoying to see that engagement ring on the Godamn finger!! Confused

makushi · Joined: 08 Jun 2003

Most of the time...the ring doesn't mean a thing...and likewise the lack of ring doesn't mean she's single...

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JackSarang · Joined: 28 Jan 2003

gomurr · Joined: 04 Feb 2003

Yep, I agree women over 30 and being umarried is frowned upon over here. i have an adult class and two of them were just over 30 and had no husband or boyfriend when i started teaching them in 05/02. Now both are already married within a 10 month span of that time. Of course they could have been lying to me about the boyfriend thing. I couldn't have cared less one way or another since I am happily married.

ThreeDogNight · Joined: 30 May 2003 Location: Seoul

I can't stand this custom of what they, the Koreans, refer to as 'The Michin Kae' syndrome. They say once a woman reaches this age she'll do almost anything to get a man. She's like a mad dog.

I can see why many women end up unhappily married here in Korea if this is the case. It also makes for a lot of desperate women coming to class and making a damn matching game out of things.

JackSarang · Joined: 28 Jan 2003

sillywilly · Joined: 20 Jan 2003 Location: Canada.

It's so sad. I want to tell them to move to the west.. Here, 90% of Korean women, even over 30, would be considered very desirable. But, i guess noone should get married just to get married, whether it's to someone attractive or someone for whom they are settling.

A western woman's perspective. I'm nearing 30 now.. and I actually am starting to think that it's too late for me. Weird eh? Not that I am going to run out and get married.. But even if I wanted to, I feel that my chances are getting smaller of finding and test-driving the right guy before I am menopausal. I mean, it takes time to date and get to know a man. Most of those men will turn out to be the wrong guy somewhere down the road. Picky, I know but I don't believe in settling when it comes to a life-long commitment. I returned to Canada two weeks ago, and though I am starting to like western men again ( the absolute beauty of Korean men not distracting me), finding a boyfriend, let alone dating, seems like such effort

helly · Joined: 01 Apr 2003 Location: WORLDWIDE

A spin-off based on the last post. At 30 (ish) are you now feeling old? Do you think you'd feel the same way back "home?"

I'm 31 and my wife and I both feel like we're getting old. (of course, the baby making us tired isn't helping.) But I also feel this at work, as 45 is now the "end of professional life" for Korean men; at home where in-laws are pressuring us about saving and buying a house and settling down.

I met a Spanish guy the other day, 28, who was full of youthful energy and he laughed at my old feeling.

Friends back home at 31 are still acting "young"

I, on the other hand, feel old, look old, act old.

What about you all?

BTM · Joined: 20 Jan 2003 Location: Back in the saddle.

I'll be 38 next week.

Some days I feel 50, some days I feel 12. Mostly, my fears of aging were completely stupid, and I feel as good or better than I ever have.

That said, I think I'd rather cut my own *beep* off than reproduce, so there's some Peter Pan-age there, no doubt.