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ChopChaeJoe · Joined: 05 Mar 2006 Location: Seoul

God no. But it is nice to adopt if you think you could do a good job.

jaderedux · Joined: 10 Jan 2003 Location: Lurking outside Seoul

Wrench · Joined: 07 Apr 2005

I frankly don't want to have any kids. I got out of a messed up relationship now I don't even want a girlfriend. Kinda hard to have kids if no opposite sex is around Razz

That and maybe because I was severly abused as a child.. That or just because I have a social disatachment disorder.

Snowmeow · Joined: 03 Oct 2005 Location: pc room

Don't want kids! Excellent!

Join the "Voluntary Human Extinction Movement". May we live long and die out. Thank you for not breeding. http://www.vhemt.org/

igotthisguitar · Posted: Fri Jul 21, 2006 9:40 am Post subject:

It was "wrong" not to make this thread have a poll feature Cool

Ody · Joined: 27 Jan 2003 Location: over here

potblackettle · Joined: 23 Aug 2006 Location: South Korea

The way I see it... there are inumerable numbers of children with NO PARENTS so why does everyone think their specific genes need to be multiplied?

I think we should take care of the kids already here before we go popping more out. I plan to adopt little rainbow munchkins.

There's no reason for the OP to feel guilty. Realizing that you don't want kids is very responsible, you're going with your gut feeling rather than being pressured into something society says is necessary. If you don't want kids, then you (and any kid you had) are not going to be happy.

Good for you I say. Besides, by being a good teacher you are doing your part to help make better, more intelligent kids for the future.

potblackettle · Joined: 23 Aug 2006 Location: South Korea

"Not having kids? I think everyone has a built in desire to want them. Even people who say they don't. It is ingrained biology to want offspring. People who do not have kids tend to lead miserable lives once they are passed their prime. The thought of being 45+ without a person in the world who cares about you is a disturbing thought. Once your life is on the downward slope, family becomes all that matters. You will have a house, a car, a bank account and comfort by then. What will it matter once you've got it all?"

This is a total load of tripe. What a limited, narrow view this person has...

I'm sorry but somehow I don't think your "opinion" on how miserable people without kids are holds much water.

I've known plenty of older folks without kids who were perfectly happy. They dedicated themselves to being teachers, mentors and other necessary things.

My dearest friend and beloved mentor died at 85. He had no children of his own, but had "adopted" dozens. He had worked in film for years and found plenty of young people like myself to keep him company. During the last years of his life his house was always filled with young people. He passed on his knowledge and stories about the film industry. He taught us to rebuild cameras and find beautiful shots... We watched movies and cooked meals. And more than anything else he taught us that there is no "set path" for anyone. That you make the choices and you make your life a joy or a heavy sorrow. He was never alone... and when he died he had more "children" to mourn him than if he had ever been married and reproduced.

princess · Joined: 16 Jan 2003 Location: soul of Asia

Of course it's not wrong! the world has toooooooo many stinking people anyways. There is no law that says you MUST have kids. I think many marriages would be better if there were no kids or only 1 kid involved. My parents just had me and that's A-OK...Oh, yeah POTBLACKKETTLE, your friend is better off remaining single, too, rather than settling like many people do.

Feloria · Joined: 02 Sep 2006

Just yesterday I went to a doctors' appt. When I was waiting in the lobby, this guy came up to me and said "So, do you have any kids"?
I said "No".
He said "Are you married"?
I said "No".
His response: "Oh, I guess things haven't worked out for you then".
GEEZ!

coolsage · Posted: Sat Sep 09, 2006 8:39 pm Post subject:

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captain kirk · Joined: 29 Jan 2003

'People who are past their prime, 45 plus, and without kids, without a person in the world to care about them, are usually miserable'. The poster Worldwide wrote this. I haven't quoted it exactly but I think that's the jist.

Well, then, is one supposed to have kids just to have someone in the world to care about one? And that care is the care of a child; dependence. Yes, it's nice to be needed and in the case of having children the parent feels absolutely needed. Dependence.

I've met some spinsters and rogue males past their prime and yes, some of them did seem 'miserable'. One was an odd sort of woman who came to the hagwon, a spinster librarian type, very pinched looking and hung up. I think her problem was she saw the glass as half full. She focused on the lack, on being childless and thus, supposedly...

...without the chirping sounds of kid's laughter bringing sunshine all around. I think there really is some wonderful connection and the joy of parenting is real. But there are some people who are stubbornly childless because they don't want to be parents enough.

And it's a big job. Hopefully they branch out and skip the moping mode. There are many ways to love your time in the world. I'm older and don't have kids and don't plan to. I was thinking about the glass being half full. Then I thought about reincarnation.

If you believe in reincarnation, and I do, there is no end. I've been married countless times. Sometimes I've been the mother. Other times the father. And I will be again. Probably for the majority of the lifetimes this soul has had, and will have, I have been and will be a parent.

But this time not. It's like a vacation Laughing

spike.matt · Joined: 16 Feb 2006

To answer the question of whether or not it is selfish to not want children, Yes, it is selfish. To want children is selfish as well, but it is natural. Right, Wrong, that I don't know.