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chaz47 · Joined: 11 Sep 2003

My gf has gone to study abroad in Europe, she got a scholarship for two weeks to travel and do reports, etc. She hasn't emailed me for 3 days. She is/has kind of been a **** to me for the past 5 months... now we are apart and she made me promise to email her everyday, which I have... with no response from her... what gives?

I am in Thailand, she is in Europe. I won't go into details about how much she and her travelmates mentioned "eurostyle" dudes before they left, but I am a little miffed... perhaps it's all the hot Thai girls down here but... really... come on... 3 days... don't they have internet in Europe.

She borrowed money before she left and mentioned she might need more. If the only time I hear from her is a request for more cash... my head will explode... I'll never return to Korea... the land of the inane and superficial has really torn a hole in my fiber.

So many hot girls, so hard to balance that alongside an abusive, lying, neglectful, girlfriend... I think that says it all... but she does owe me money... what to do, what to do...

Mod edit: Please watch the language!

cosmicgirlie · Joined: 29 Jan 2003

Bo Peabody · Joined: 25 Aug 2005

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dulouz · Joined: 04 Feb 2003 Location: Uranus

1) get your money back
2) dump her

joyfulgirl · Joined: 05 Jan 2006

it's crazy, but true...there are girls out there who will email you, call even, lots, just 'cause they feel like it and want to be in touch..and never ask for loans of money just before they take off.

you can't really ask for relationship advice on a web forum. relationships are personal, and only the people involved know what's going on.

but my friend told me once never to date anyone who didn't make you feel like a princess. that sounds real paris hilton-ish, but she meant if someone cares, they do. it's not supposed to be a struggle and worry. it's supposed to be good, fun...happy....etc.

chaz47 · Joined: 11 Sep 2003

sure sure... good fun, reciprocal, etc. what if that other person takes steps to erode your self-confidence, and then says that is their "style"... regretfully i truly do care for this girl but she continually wipes the shit from her shoe with me... i am tired of being a doormat... if she doesn't email me tomorrow... piss on her... i will do as i choose and then wait for my money to be repaid... hopefully, and in full... again hopefully...

Crying or Very sad

TheFonz · Joined: 01 Dec 2005 Location: North Georgia

joyfulgirl · Joined: 05 Jan 2006

SuperFly · Joined: 09 Jul 2003 Location: In the doghouse

Stop acting like she's in control. YOU'RE in control! YOU'RE the boss. Make her want YOU!

Hang on, my wife is calling me....

Yeah honey I'm on the way...gotta go now, don't want another beating. heh.

Alan_Partridge · Joined: 24 Aug 2005 Location: in the posh part of town

chaz...with all due respect, it seems to me you've already made your mind up what to do, and you're looking for validation...so consider yourself validated like a parking ticket (?) and go have some fun!

poker player · Joined: 27 Sep 2004 Location: On the river

I lent money to 2 women in my life when I was young and foolish. I never saw a dime from either of them so I learned a lesson. Now if anyone asks to borrow money from me I ask for collateral(watch, electronic eqpt.) or jewellery, a signed promissory note and a post dated cheque for the full amount. Of course I don't know if any of those except the collateral would work in Korea. For some reason no one has ever taken me up on it.

Finally, cessation of communication from a Korean woman usually means the relationship is over. Take your bump, learn your lesson and move on.

ChopChaeJoe · Joined: 05 Mar 2006 Location: Seoul

Hey Chaz,

This isn't a first-love by chance is it? Because if it is, no advice is going to help you, you're just going to have to work through the process, as painful or rewarding the result may be.

And if it isn't a first-love, then you are in obvious need of the justification for a fling. I say, go ahead and try it. It sounds like she let you down first.

Manghchi · Joined: 23 Jun 2006

I understand how you feel. But hope you try to think there are lots of other things to do. Girl friend or boy friend are not everything in your life.

If I were you, I would not think about money back from her.

counsellor Maangchi

http://maangchi.blogspot.com/

kimchi_pizza · Posted: Fri Aug 04, 2006 3:14 pm Post subject:

Didn't you post a thread about your gf coming home
and smelling like another man had been with her or
something stupid like that?

I couln't believe all the responces you got for that!
It's like something from Jerry Springer. Rolling Eyes

Eat your spinich, grow a pair and leave your, "oh, my
gf did such-and-such to me, what am I gonna doooo?"
for another site.

weak, man, weak...

Doogie · Joined: 19 Jan 2006 Location: Hwaseong City