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dunmore
Joined: 15 Aug 2006
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Posted: Thu Aug 17, 2006 1:38 pm Post subject: Breastfeeding norms in Korea |
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I'll be arriving in Korea in a couple of weeks. I'm just wondering what the etiquette is regarding breast feeding in public. I'm very discrete of course, but would like to know what the norms are. Is it OK to feed whenever and whereever? |
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laogaiguk

Joined: 06 Dec 2005 Location: somewhere in Korea
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Posted: Thu Aug 17, 2006 2:25 pm Post subject: Re: Breastfeeding norms in Korea |
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dunmore wrote: |
I'll be arriving in Korea in a couple of weeks. I'm just wondering what the etiquette is regarding breast feeding in public. I'm very discrete of course, but would like to know what the norms are. Is it OK to feed whenever and whereever? |
The answer is no. I don't even know if it is accepted here (almost definitely not) but the fact that you are a foreigner means people will be watching you closely all the time. You stand out, and would find it almost impossible to be discreet and it would not be good I think to be "caught" doing it either. I don't know what country you are from, but as far as I know, even in all English speaking countries, breast feeding is still considered private and doing it in public is not so accepted, which is wrong. But wrong or not, that is how it is. I wouldn't suggest doing it here in public, and go to a washroom or something. Sorry. I am a guy if that affects your opinion of this opinion  |
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hojucandy

Joined: 03 Feb 2003 Location: In a better place
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Posted: Thu Aug 17, 2006 2:38 pm Post subject: |
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he's right about korea. korean women don't breast feed in public.
i would not say it is not accepted in all english speaking countries. it's perfectly ok to do so in australia ^^ |
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laogaiguk

Joined: 06 Dec 2005 Location: somewhere in Korea
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Posted: Thu Aug 17, 2006 2:41 pm Post subject: |
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hojucandy wrote: |
he's right about korea. korean women don't breast feed in public.
i would not say it is not accepted in all english speaking countries. it's perfectly ok to do so in australia ^^ |
Are you sure about that? My pregnant Australian boss at my last job told me differently. I am not sayng you can't do it, just that it still isn't really accepted and people still act shocked or disgusted. |
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jaganath69

Joined: 17 Jul 2003
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Posted: Thu Aug 17, 2006 2:58 pm Post subject: |
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When I was new to Korea, I was fortunate to have some Aussie friends here, a couple with a newborn. The baby was a troublesome tot who would only shut up through repeated comfort feedings. They showed me around Seoul one day and the wee one was constantly on the tit. I thought it might be a bit weird for the locals, but my friend had no hesitation to whip it out and let her infant suckle. The natives didn't seem to mind either. That being said, I am yet to witness a Korean woman doing it in my three years here. |
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tzechuk

Joined: 20 Dec 2004
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Posted: Thu Aug 17, 2006 4:17 pm Post subject: |
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I breastfeed wherever, whenever.
It's interesting that you are getting answers from all the guys.
So here's an answer from a woman who has done it for a long time.
Look, breastfeeding isn't a norm, period. It's getting more popular but it still isn't that popular.
Letty is 21 months old and I still breastfeed her and we do it whenever she wants. No I don't have a fetish but weaning is difficult and time consuming - so I want her to be a little older and understands more before I totally wean her off. IN any case, the WHO suggests you breastfeed until the child is 24 months old.
The operative word here, by and large, is to be discreet. Korea is quite a good place for breastfeeding, to be honest, because all major department stores and supermarkets have a baby room, where you can just go and feed in privacy.
In the event that there are no baby rooms, like in a blinking restaurant, I still feed Letty, but we do do it with as little fuss as possible.
May be I am thick-skinned, but I'd rather feed my child wherever it is required than have her screaming at the top of her lungs for hunger or comfort. |
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Banana Bender
Joined: 24 Jun 2003
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Posted: Thu Aug 17, 2006 4:34 pm Post subject: |
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I have seen Korean women breast feeding a few times and that was in a small town as well.
The women were very discreet and had a jacket over their shoulder so it wasn't really noticeable.
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red dog

Joined: 31 Oct 2004
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Posted: Thu Aug 17, 2006 4:42 pm Post subject: |
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My former boss's wife (they were both Korean) used to feed her eight-month-old son at the institute, in the reception area. It was no big deal and she didn't seem to be hiding from the public. |
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periwinkle
Joined: 08 Feb 2003
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Posted: Thu Aug 17, 2006 6:45 pm Post subject: |
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I had a Korean friend that breastfed her son while we were having lunch in a restaurant. It was a quiet restaurant, but I have a feeling if it was busy and crowded, she would've done the same. |
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Corporal

Joined: 25 Jan 2003
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Posted: Thu Aug 17, 2006 7:18 pm Post subject: |
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to whoever wants you to go to a washroom. Why don't you go eat your lunch in the washroom so that you won't get stared at in the food court then?
No Korean mother is going to try to argue that formula is better than breastmilk. Usually they FF because it's more convenient and because there's still the stigma that breastfeeding is something that mainly lower-class people, farmers, people in Africa etc. do. But my friend does both--formula feeds and breastfeeds, usually the former in public and the latter at home. That's just her personal decision though. There are nurseries/feeding rooms now in places like Walmart and Emart where you can go and BF in private.
Of course you'll get stared at. We get stared at for doing absolutely nothing in public, too. |
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anae
Joined: 13 May 2003 Location: cowtown
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Posted: Thu Aug 17, 2006 7:35 pm Post subject: |
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I breastfed in public in both Canada and Korea and had zero problems. My Korean SILs all breastfed as well.
When my in-laws visited Canada, they saw no reason I shouldn't stop right in the middle of a dept. store and feed my daughter. They thought going all the way to a nursing room was a waste of time.
My complaint about Korea was a lack of change tables in public places rather than about any nursing issues. |
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JeJuJitsu

Joined: 11 Sep 2005 Location: McDonald's
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Posted: Thu Aug 17, 2006 7:51 pm Post subject: Re: Breastfeeding norms in Korea |
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dunmore wrote: |
Is it OK to feed whenever and whereever? |
Only if you are female. |
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periwinkle
Joined: 08 Feb 2003
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Posted: Thu Aug 17, 2006 7:57 pm Post subject: |
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anae wrote: |
I breastfed in public in both Canada and Korea and had zero problems. My Korean SILs all breastfed as well.
When my in-laws visited Canada, they saw no reason I shouldn't stop right in the middle of a dept. store and feed my daughter. They thought going all the way to a nursing room was a waste of time.
My complaint about Korea was a lack of change tables in public places rather than about any nursing issues. |
Oh, God- the changing tables are NASTY. People use them to put their purses on and stuff. I bought a portable changing table mat so I don't have to stick my baby on the flithy changing table. (We need a puking smiley...) |
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anae
Joined: 13 May 2003 Location: cowtown
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Posted: Thu Aug 17, 2006 8:03 pm Post subject: |
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Gee, you even found change tables? I always had my trusty mat, but I often had to put it on the wet, filthy floor of a restaurant or store washroom. Yuck. |
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periwinkle
Joined: 08 Feb 2003
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Posted: Thu Aug 17, 2006 8:27 pm Post subject: |
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anae wrote: |
Gee, you even found change tables? I always had my trusty mat, but I often had to put it on the wet, filthy floor of a restaurant or store washroom. Yuck. |
Well, not in restaurants, really. Come to think of it, I don't even know if I've seen them in many of the fast food joints. I'm mainly thinking of the subway. I think I'll have to start scoping out changing tables in my area, just to be prepared!! Sounds like my mat was a smart purchase! |
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