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[Mr. BlackCat]

That link is hilarious.

Unfortunately we also work with an individual like this one from the link, but she really is good-hearted so we deal with it and try to give hints.

As for having a rational discussion, one on one, it might be difficult. You're right in saying they'd probably become defensive. In my situation (its all about me! sorry) it was that one time that I tried to explain to my boss how I and some other people felt that ended up becoming the gunpowder for my co-worker's shots at me and other workers.

I'm starting to realize that you can't change other people, especially people you have a casual relationship with. So I'd concentrate on yourself. How can you react better? For me, like I said, I just feel sorry for him because he really is a lonely person who isn't confident in himself enough to just be cool. You can try to be positive around your co-worker and hope it rubs off. Best result would be if he just got sick of you being so optimistic and just stopped talking to you.

As for my previous post:

[Dan The Chainsawman]

[SeniorEnglish]

Thanks for the kind ear.

[simpleminds]

You're the only one working with this skunk? Drat. I was going to suggest you guys gang up and terroise him; pins on chair, missing bits of paper, ask about his (student) girlfriend in front of a Korean, do annoying little habits like slamming your pencil on your desk when planning lessons, play music he doesn't like, say what a wonderful lesson you've just had, comment about how wonderful the weather is, anything that annoys the hell out of him. Eventually he'll lose it and the Koreans will see he is psycho, and you can slide in a comment about how he hasn't gotten his next batch of anti's yet.

You have my sympathy.

[SeniorEnglish]

I can't

[Junior]

What works best is to say you have something confidential you want to tell them later, when they're free. Or just signal them into a deserted classroom and diplomatically tell them, express it. Be sure to be very cool about it and mention that a few others have said the same thing. Try and leave it on good terms, and keep it confidential. Not many people can object to that, and it usually works.

What doesn't work is the full on volcanic confrontation in front of everyone else. save that only for the most persistent offendor who has ignored all warnings. Loss of face is big in Asia and among westerners too.Better to warn people and give them a clue first- its amazing how many people never try discrete but open diplomacy.