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Butterfly
Joined: 02 Mar 2003
Location: Kuwait
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 Posted: Wed Aug 30, 2006 2:10 am Post subject: Re: Korean Women and Foreign Guys |
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| Having an exotic look |
Korean women love the foreign look and want their prospective kids to look a little different from the rest.
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| Making more money than a lot of Korean men |
Thats true, esl teachers are on a par with most Korean "businessmen" and the chicks here love it.
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| Being taller than a lot of Korean men |
Most K-men are about 5ft7 so many of the delicious K-babes will swoon and get all excited when you enter a room. personally i pretend not to notice, but turning half of them down for drinks after hours can be a bit tiresome.
Get yourself over here quick, you will be a king, surrounded by supplicating bashful princesses in no time. |
Just read this, you made my day man. Funny S**t. |
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Butterfly
Joined: 02 Mar 2003
Location: Kuwait
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| Posted: Wed Aug 30, 2006 2:23 am Post subject: |
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| Sure, Korean women are some of the most beautiful in the world, but based on my 6 months here the Korean women you find with ESL Teachers are plucked from the decidedly average batch. |
And how is that a bad thing? Most of the time I would rather be with a slightly above average girl than a stunner. On average the stunners thing that men should bow down and worship them. |
But they are really looking for the men who don't. |
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Real Reality
Joined: 10 Jan 2003
Location: Seoul
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| Posted: Wed Aug 30, 2006 2:49 am Post subject: |
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"What Korean Women Want?"
I have dated older men, younger men, Korean men, and foreign men. In fact, my last two boyfriends were foreigners. Its funny, I broke up with my last boyfriend, who was an English teacher from Canada so that I could go out with this French guy in my office.
My Canadian boyfriend was really upset, but I don't care that much. It�s not that he was a bad guy; it was just that he didn't understand that in Korea, there are some things a boyfriend must do for his girlfriend.
One of these is paying "pocket money." Every one of my ex-boyfriends, except him, always paid me "pocket money." It wasn't that much, maybe only 200,000 won per week but it showed that they loved and really cared for me. My new French boyfriend is great; he pays for everything and gives me "pocket money." I think that French guys really understand what women want!"
From: Hee-jin, 26, Clerk
Seoul Classified (November 2002) |
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stevieg4ever
Joined: 11 Feb 2006
Location: London, England
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| Posted: Wed Aug 30, 2006 2:55 am Post subject: |
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thats *beep**^ up rr. having said that it would help if we knew what she was willing to do for that 200,000 
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"What Korean Women Want?"
I have dated older men, younger men, Korean men, and foreign men. In fact, my last two boyfriends were foreigners. Its funny, I broke up with my last boyfriend, who was an English teacher from Canada so that I could go out with this French guy in my office.
My Canadian boyfriend was really upset, but I don't care that much. It�s not that he was a bad guy; it was just that he didn't understand that in Korea, there are some things a boyfriend must do for his girlfriend.
One of these is paying "pocket money." Every one of my ex-boyfriends, except him, always paid me "pocket money." It wasn't that much, maybe only 200,000 won per week but it showed that they loved and really cared for me. My new French boyfriend is great; he pays for everything and gives me "pocket money." I think that French guys really understand what women want!"
From: Hee-jin, 26, Clerk
Seoul Classified (November 2002) |
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StAxX SOuL
Joined: 04 Jan 2006
Location: London
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| Posted: Wed Aug 30, 2006 2:56 am Post subject: |
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| the chick ends up with the alpha males... |
What makes you think that these are the alpha males. They may just be the guys who are jerks and are not afraid to talk to anyone. Maybe they are alpha males but maybe they are just j a c kasses! |
Not all will be alpha males... some will be jerks, but her exterior has already filtered out the males who aren't alphas... |
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JZer
Joined: 13 Jan 2005
Location: South Korea
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| Posted: Wed Aug 30, 2006 2:57 am Post subject: |
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| But they are really looking for the men who don't. |
If that is true I should have three stunners on my arm right now!  |
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Real Reality
Joined: 10 Jan 2003
Location: Seoul
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| Posted: Wed Aug 30, 2006 3:14 am Post subject: |
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"What Korean Women Want?"
I have been going out with the same guy for nearly four years, and whilst I am reasonably happy, the truth is, I'm bored. It's not that my boyfriend is a terrible person, in fact, like most Korean men, he does everything for me. It's just that I feel as if something is missing for our relationship.
Recently, I took the decision to start dating other guys in secret.
I just told my friends that I wanted to be "introduced" and the dates quickly started happening. I try to go 2 or 3 dates per week, and I am not ashamed to say that I am having the best time of my life. My friends know my taste in men, so the guys that I am "introduced" to are always handsome and have great prospect ($$$$). I usually have a great time and even if I never meet the guy again, I know that he is only as far as a phone call away.
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Seoul Classified (November 2002) |
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stevieg4ever
Joined: 11 Feb 2006
Location: London, England
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| Posted: Wed Aug 30, 2006 5:45 am Post subject: |
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wouldnt like to be around when the guy finds out 
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"What Korean Women Want?"
I have been going out with the same guy for nearly four years, and whilst I am reasonably happy, the truth is, I'm bored. It's not that my boyfriend is a terrible person, in fact, like most Korean men, he does everything for me. It's just that I feel as if something is missing for our relationship.
Recently, I took the decision to start dating other guys in secret.
I just told my friends that I wanted to be "introduced" and the dates quickly started happening. I try to go 2 or 3 dates per week, and I am not ashamed to say that I am having the best time of my life. My friends know my taste in men, so the guys that I am "introduced" to are always handsome and have great prospect ($$$$). I usually have a great time and even if I never meet the guy again, I know that he is only as far as a phone call away.
from Gun-ah, 27
Seoul Classified (November 2002) |
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JZer
Joined: 13 Jan 2005
Location: South Korea
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| Posted: Wed Aug 30, 2006 5:22 pm Post subject: |
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| but her exterior has already filtered out the males who aren't alphas... |
Or maybe the mothers of some alpha males taught their sons good manners, not to be a di c k to a lady.
Furthermore, I think some studies have shown that alpha males on average do not really like to marry alpha females. They are used to being in control and just want to relax at home. Sometimes if the female is also successful, the alpha male feels he always has to compete with her. |
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cdninkorea
Joined: 27 Jan 2006
Location: Seoul
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| Posted: Wed Aug 30, 2006 5:48 pm Post subject: |
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| Real Reality: if you have links for those articles, they would be much appreciated! |
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Butterfly
Joined: 02 Mar 2003
Location: Kuwait
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| Posted: Wed Aug 30, 2006 6:46 pm Post subject: |
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| But they are really looking for the men who don't. |
If that is true I should have three stunners on my arm right now! |
Yup, you should. 
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| like most Korean men, he does everything for me. |
So what's the problem lady?
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| It's just that I feel as if something is missing for our relationship. |
Perhaps that he feels he doesn't have enough value in his own character and looks to be enough for you, and tries to compensate for it by kissing your bottom and giving you everything you want? You sense this, and it turns you off?
Honestly, everyone blames Korean women for their princess-like behaviour, but it's a man made problem. For a former patriachy, Korea is amazing - I've never seek to many weak, pathetic, kiss-arse fawning men in one place. No wonder there are so many women who don't respect them. Men who are perplexed by the modern Korean phenomenon of demanding, high maintenance women should think about the times in college or whenever, when they had that clingy girlfriend, who hung on your every word, bought you things you didn't ask for. You treated her like crap didn't you? Well, same thing with Korean women. |
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Junior
Joined: 18 Nov 2005
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| Posted: Wed Aug 30, 2006 7:14 pm Post subject: |
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| Butterfly wrote: |
| For a former patriachy, Korea is amazing - I've never seek to many weak, pathetic, kiss-arse fawning men in one place. . |
Hold on. Korea is a patriarchy. Women are generally not treated as equals- in marriage or the workplace.
The only time K-men have to kiss ass is when they are dating. This is the window when K-women know they absolutely hold all the cards. "Korean woman want their boyfriends to be ..perfect" a K-girl told me a couple of weeks back. At the same time it strikes me that many K-women are sigularly untrustworthy. I know, because as friends, I know what they do and say behind their boyfriends backs.
Personally I'm tired of the ridiculous dating scene here. I refuse to give my money to whores, I refuse to give my money to duplicitous princesses., and Korea will will not get any more of my dignity.
Just to show that not evertthing is a financial transaction, I even teach a couple of private lessons for free. Voluntarily. I guess not all foreigners are "lazy, spoiled, drunken sexual predators after all". |
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Zulu
Joined: 28 Apr 2006
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| Posted: Wed Aug 30, 2006 7:59 pm Post subject: |
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| Real Reality wrote: |
One of these is paying "pocket money." Every one of my ex-boyfriends, except him, always paid me "pocket money." It wasn't that much, maybe only 200,000 won per week but it showed that they loved and really cared for me. My new French boyfriend is great; he pays for everything and gives me "pocket money." I think that French guys really understand what women want!"
From: Hee-jin, 26, Clerk
Seoul Classified (November 2002) |
LOL - this was pretty funny. I'm not into Korean women (or men in case you're wondering) but for those fellow expats who've jumped into the dating scene here - Is that for real?! I mean, c'mon, do Korean women really expect that you lavish them with money and gifts all the time? I'd have to just laugh at any Korean chick that demanded 'payment for services rendered'.  |
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Doogie
Joined: 19 Jan 2006
Location: Hwaseong City
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| Posted: Wed Aug 30, 2006 8:03 pm Post subject: |
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| Junior wrote: |
| Butterfly wrote: |
| For a former patriachy, Korea is amazing - I've never seek to many weak, pathetic, kiss-arse fawning men in one place. . |
Hold on. Korea is a patriarchy. Women are generally not treated as equals- in marriage or the workplace.
The only time K-men have to kiss ass is when they are dating. This is the window when K-women know they absolutely hold all the cards. "Korean woman want their boyfriends to be ..perfect" a K-girl told me a couple of weeks back. At the same time it strikes me that many K-women are sigularly untrustworthy. I know, because as friends, I know what they do and say behind their boyfriends backs.
Personally I'm tired of the ridiculous dating scene here. I refuse to give my money to whores, I refuse to give my money to duplicitous princesses., and Korea will will not get any more of my dignity.
Just to show that not evertthing is a financial transaction, I even teach a couple of private lessons for free. Voluntarily. I guess not all foreigners are "lazy, spoiled, drunken sexual predators after all". |
I've only been here a year so I don't have the insight that you do on this. I've definitely seen the "Korean Princess" phenomenon, with the boyfriends bending over backwards and doing tricks to win their hands. I've certainly heard all about how Korean wives are, generally, treat pretty shabbily. To be honest, I haven't really seen that part of it yet. Most of the Korean married couples I know seem pretty happy and they seem to be in respectful relationships. Mind you, who knows what goes on behind closed doors. By the way, good on you for giving free lessons. I've recently done the same thing for someone I know.
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JongnoGuru
Joined: 25 May 2004
Location: peeing on your doorstep
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| Posted: Wed Aug 30, 2006 8:03 pm Post subject: |
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| Is that for real?! I mean, c'mon, do Korean women really expect that you lavish them with money and gifts all the time? I'd have to just laugh at any Korean chick that demanded 'payment for services rendered'. |
Hey, it's just like everything else life -- you get what you pay for. |
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