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Corporal
Joined: 25 Jan 2003
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 Posted: Mon Sep 04, 2006 7:31 pm Post subject: |
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| billybrobby wrote: |
| I mean, when you go to an expat party or gathering it almost always breaks down like this: There are 10 white guys, 6 korean girls (3 of which are girlfriends of the white guys), 8 white girls, and 1 korean guy. Maybe the kguys and wladies just have to start picking up the slack and gettin' it on! |
A couple more things to consider: first, aren't there fewer western female ESL teachers than male in Korea to begin with? (Reasons: the chauvinist male-dominated society that we've all been hearing about, parental discouragement of young Western women going abroad, lack of yellow fever to inspire us, etc.) So wouldn't it be safe to say that your average female Westerner here is in general probably more motivated, independent, and self-sufficient than her male counterpart, considering the hurdles she has to overcome to get by in Korean society? As has been noted, the western women here aren't just coming over for the sake of finding an exotic mate. And lord love you white boys, but many of you heartily confess that's a major motivation. Why else all the "where can I find a K-girl" threads? 
Then there's the factor of Korean women tend to have the jump on the K-men when it comes to English. Most Korean males have little confidence in their English skills even when they're decent (when it comes to interacting with foreigners). Sure, you get the taxi drivers who think they're funny practicing their four phrases on you but really. All my husband's friends, even if they're interested in hanging out with other foreigners at the bar or clubs or whatever have admitted to me that they find the language factor too intimidating to overcome. They're not going to try to hit on their own women while speaking broken English and they're certainly not going to attempt it with the unknown Western girls. Nor are they going to try to make friends with the Western men when all they know how to say is "do you like kimchi."
Anyway, at the gatherings it's usually more interesting when it plays out the way you described it, since the one Korean guy that DOES come is often more fun to talk to than the ten run-of-the-mill ESL guys who just got off the boat, and wow, have you tried soju yet?  |
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doggyji
Joined: 21 Feb 2006
Location: Toronto - Hamilton - Vineland - St. Catherines
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| Posted: Mon Sep 04, 2006 8:10 pm Post subject: |
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Interesting points by billybrobby and Paji eh Wong. A few days ago, I went to my 선배's wedding. He got married to a nice Canada-born Korean lady who speaks Korean very well. They have been friends for nine years. This whole thing got me thinking. I'm not desperate at all but sometimes when I think about my future mate, I fantasize about going back to Korea where every woman I see everyday everywhere is the same korean who speaks Korean. I just miss the vibe. Whenever I personally get to know an attractive Korean girl on a rare occasion, why does she always have a bf already..ha ha.. Guess the dating scene here is a bit small. Maybe it's because I don't go to Korean church. I dunno. Oh I sound a bit lame here he he. Just being honest.  |
Thanks for your comment, doggyji. It made me think about why people are attracted to a certain type of people, and your comment made me realize that, in the end, people are attracted to people who are familiar and comfortable or exotic. For you (Korean-Canadian, right?), I guess you could say that Korean women are both familiar and exotic. |
Of course, I find attractive women in all ethnicities. Each ethnic/cultural group has millions of similar yet different people. I just like the idea of having a common cultural background and knowledge. I don't want to start from "Korea's not part of Japan or China and Koreans know what tap water is." I want respect for and a good understanding of my roots to be one of the cornerstones of the relationship. My language barrier is one thing as well. Flirting in this foreign language is still hard for me. This is basically where I come from. |
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