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goyovista



Joined: 29 May 2006
Location: Masan

PostPosted: Wed Sep 27, 2006 8:16 am    Post subject: What do you do to cope with being here? Reply with quote

I've only been here a week (Masan) and no matter how exciting the situation of being a teacher here seems, I frequently have to fight off second guessing my choice, even though I can't imagine living in the USA anymore. I'm sure this type of gripe is quite common to the forums on Dave's, but I'm just curious as to what others have done to keep themselves occupied/sane while spending their time here. Don't get me wrong, I write music on the laptop, brought painting supplies to crank out a few pieces, am reading Don Quixote, watching Jon Stewart and Stephen Colbert on a regular basis thanks to viideoo.com, and listening to new music (new Sparklehorse at the moment, pretty good so far), I'm having trouble shaking that sinking feeling unless I drink myself stupid on terrible Korean beer and suprisingly good soju (no headaches yet!). I've met many other expats, but it just doesn't seem to cut it. I'm incredibly self reliant, but at this moment am embarassingly looking for advice. Anyone?
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jajdude



Joined: 18 Jan 2003

PostPosted: Wed Sep 27, 2006 8:25 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Good question. I've been here for years and still struggle to cope with it sometimes.

Friends help a lot.

Reading is good. Some other hobbies help.

Surprisingly good soju? Oh dear, that doesn't sound right. Korean beer aint great but soju is just nasty. I'd recommend wine as a good alternative, at least sometimes.

If you like your job you are already doing well. It's the time outside work that needs to be filled as well as you can.

I don't really have any advice. Maybe some other wise people will help.
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Qinella



Joined: 25 Feb 2005
Location: the crib

PostPosted: Wed Sep 27, 2006 8:37 am    Post subject: Re: What do you do to cope with being here? Reply with quote

goyovista wrote:
I've only been here a week (Masan) and no matter how exciting the situation of being a teacher here seems, I frequently have to fight off second guessing my choice, even though I can't imagine living in the USA anymore. I'm sure this type of gripe is quite common to the forums on Dave's, but I'm just curious as to what others have done to keep themselves occupied/sane while spending their time here. Don't get me wrong, I write music on the laptop, brought painting supplies to crank out a few pieces, am reading Don Quixote, watching Jon Stewart and Stephen Colbert on a regular basis thanks to viideoo.com, and listening to new music (new Sparklehorse at the moment, pretty good so far), I'm having trouble shaking that sinking feeling unless I drink myself stupid on terrible Korean beer and suprisingly good soju (no headaches yet!). I've met many other expats, but it just doesn't seem to cut it. I'm incredibly self reliant, but at this moment am embarassingly looking for advice. Anyone?


Maybe Korea's just not for you? I very much enjoy it here, but I can easily see how some would hate it. Why can't you live in the US anymore? Are you running from something, like bill collectors, or are you just fed up with it? Do you mind if I ask what state you hail from? I've heard it said that Oregon is a great escape for people looking to flee the madness of Middle America. If I were to return, that's where I'd look first, I think.

Really, it sounds from your post like you are all set and good to go. Much better than many newbies, at least. It was 5 months before I got my laptop. Try PCBanging it every time you want to check your email.

Realistically, the only thing that can change is you. Korea's not a bad place, and a lot of people like it. You have to find out what it is inside of you that makes you react negatively. Pinpoint this, and that will likely absolve it. As a wise man once said to me: you can't change what other people do; you can only change how you react. In this case, you can't change Korea. You can only change your perspective.

I don't mean to be condescending. Just trying to offer good advice.


edit: why did I supplant "computer" with "laptop"? I don't have a laptop. Lame, lame.


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goyovista



Joined: 29 May 2006
Location: Masan

PostPosted: Wed Sep 27, 2006 8:57 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I didn't mean that I disliked Korea at all. I actually really appreciate the culture here. There are moments when I've thought, "Wow, I'm living the life I've always wanted" and that keeps me up for a while. I came from Texas, Houston (El Paso then Austin for 8 years, Houston for three) to be exact, so there's obviously no point in going back there. I spent a lovely 5 weeks in Portland, Oregon before I came to Korea. I would return there in a heartbeat if it wasn't for the low wages and lack of real jobs. The funny thing is, I wouldn't trade my position for anything. I've often fantasized about living in this part of the world, but it's quite a different story (mentally) once you're here. I'm sure I will emerge as a different person in two months, more optimistic about what this decision will lead to (job in Japan, China, and eventually a South American university, Chile or Brazil perhaps), but for now my dilemma is a concern. How can I be homesick for a country that I have no real yearning to return back to (save the Northwest)? I have found that I have a taste for soju, even the cheap stuff. Strange, maybe. I sincerely appreciate your advice/comments though. Thank you.
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Satori



Joined: 09 Dec 2005
Location: Above it all

PostPosted: Wed Sep 27, 2006 12:33 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

A week? You don't even know what it is yet. Damn. Just take some time to let it all sink in. Korea is complex, bizarre, and utterly unique as an experience for a westerner. If you stay at least a year, then good or bad, it will leave an indelible impression on you. Whatever it will be for you, it will be intense. Korea is not always all easy going gravy type stuff, but I describe it a gritty, vivid, and full of flavour. It gets in your bones after a while...
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VanIslander



Joined: 18 Aug 2003
Location: Geoje, Hadong, Tongyeong,... now in a small coastal island town outside Gyeongsangnamdo!

PostPosted: Wed Sep 27, 2006 1:04 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I can't relate to that feeling after a week!

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Korea is complex, bizarre, and utterly unique as an experience for a westerner

Gawd I love that! Took me six months to get over the Cinderella phase: there are so many differences here and each one is a pleasure, even when presenting detours and difficulties.

Humour and a sense of the absurd, not just for what happens here but for customs and practices back home, once one thinks of them reflectively in contrasting reflections.
Anyways, I never second guessed my first year here. It was wonderful for me. I only second guess whether I have stayed here tooo long, this being my fourth year, and my not getting any younger.

Perhaps you should go home. Korea is not for everyone. And Masan is the armpit of an otherwise awesome province.

Or step outside of the box of your thinking. Sounds like you went into an expat bubble a bit too early. Challenge your own expectations and get to know some locals. Learn a bit about their culture. Ask a ton of why questions. And figure out what you want to take away from your Korea experience at the end of your year. What do you want to do next year? You'll have plenty of money if you don't indulge too much in nonKorean habits.

Good luck whatever.
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Cohiba



Joined: 01 Feb 2005

PostPosted: Wed Sep 27, 2006 2:45 pm    Post subject: Masan Reply with quote

Masan! Hahahahahaha, another one who didn't learn.
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JongnoGuru



Joined: 25 May 2004
Location: peeing on your doorstep

PostPosted: Wed Sep 27, 2006 3:02 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

http://wikitravel.org/en/Masan
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The Chewbacca Defense



Joined: 29 May 2004
Location: The ROK and a hard place

PostPosted: Wed Sep 27, 2006 3:16 pm    Post subject: .. Reply with quote

I drink and study....usually at the same time.
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Smee



Joined: 24 Dec 2004
Location: Jeollanam-do

PostPosted: Wed Sep 27, 2006 3:18 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Also, www.tour2korea.net has information about all the provinces. Click on "siteseeing" then "destinations by region" to browse each province and each province's county. Maybe try getting out one weekend to see what's around you.


I wasn't necessarily a cheerful person during my first week. I was living in a love motel, teaching classes on my first full day in the country, and already experiencing hagwon bull for the first time. But I had reasons for coming here, so I was able to enjoy my experience.

Why did you come to Korea? It's good to remember your priorities. THere will be lots of ups and downs. But, for example, if you came here to learn the language, the distract yourself by learning the language. If you wanted to "experience a new culture," then spend your time people-watching or travelling around the country. If you can't answer that question, maybe spend some time thinking about it. You've got 51 weeks left, and it'd be a shame to waste all that time.
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flotsam



Joined: 28 Mar 2006

PostPosted: Wed Sep 27, 2006 3:20 pm    Post subject: Re: .. Reply with quote

The Chewbacca Defense wrote:
I drink and study....usually at the same time.


Can I please quote you in my new thread? Cause this is a classic example.

Eh, who the hell needs permission?
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Smee



Joined: 24 Dec 2004
Location: Jeollanam-do

PostPosted: Wed Sep 27, 2006 3:21 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

JongnoGuru wrote:
http://wikitravel.org/en/Masan


*chuckle* now that wasn't very nice. Smile

I guess the person was just trying to notch more "pages added." But why prepare a template if there's nothing to add? Isn't Jirisan and Jirisan National Park in the area?
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JongnoGuru



Joined: 25 May 2004
Location: peeing on your doorstep

PostPosted: Wed Sep 27, 2006 3:27 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Smee wrote:
JongnoGuru wrote:
http://wikitravel.org/en/Masan


*chuckle* now that wasn't very nice. Smile

I guess the person was just trying to notch more "pages added." But why prepare a template if there's nothing to add? Isn't Jirisan and Jirisan National Park in the area?

That's the template for wikitravel pages. If the OP can put down the soju long enough, he might help fill in some of the blanks! Wink

Oh, I was just joking with you, goyovista. We all know you haven't got a drinking problem. So don't go gettin' yerself liquored up again and come hunt me down for saying that. Please.
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cubanlord



Joined: 08 Jul 2005
Location: In Japan!

PostPosted: Wed Sep 27, 2006 4:50 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I can definitely empathize. There are times when I think to myself, "man....why am I here.....". But then, I turn away from the PC and glance at my wife and realize, "THAT'S why I am here". I then go back to my happy self at the thought that she's having the time of her life; content to know that we are building our future together.

Also, continuing on with your education may help. My wife and I are both studying. It is a constructive way to pass your time. I can't tell you the amount of times I have seen threads on this board, posts on other sites, or been part of conversations that focus on the "what are you doing here/are you wasting your time here" topic.

Make the most of it. Find something you enjoy and go for it. Smile
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manlyboy



Joined: 01 Aug 2004
Location: Darwin, Northern Territory, Australia

PostPosted: Wed Sep 27, 2006 5:38 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I cope with it by not thinking of it as something that needs to be coped with.

Serious answer.
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