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Big_Bird
Joined: 31 Jan 2003
Location: Sometimes here sometimes there...
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 Posted: Fri Oct 13, 2006 8:11 pm Post subject: |
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| CabbageTownRoyals wrote: |
God, it must be amazing being pregnant...
I don't plan to have children, but its always possible I guess!
I'm curious about the emotional/psychological/spiritual side of things...
Would you feel comfortable sharing your experiences?
For example, are you emotionally up and down because of the hormones?
Scared? Excited? Angry? Elated? Horrified perhaps, I mean at being responsibly for a while new life inside you, having it grow inside you...
Do you think about spiritual issues, or does the whole physical side of things distract from this? (being uncomfortable, in pain, tender, tired etc)
And how do your husbands deal with it, are they more scared/nervous/excited than you? ahh, so many questions~ |
I don't know if I get that much more emotional - although my husband might disagree!  I haven't really noticed that - but I do get very tired. Tiredness leads to crabbiness....
I'm not very spiritual, but there are moments when I do feel quite pleased that I am helping create a little life. Most of the time, however, I don't think too much about it. That's because I've already had one, and so this one is not a novelty. It's the same with my husband. He made a big fuss during my first pregnancy, dreaming about his child to be, and we used to talk and sing to it in utero. What would he/she look like? How would we dress him/her? blah blah... Number 2 is sadly neglected... We are both too busy with number 1 who has now learnt to climb up the furniture like a monkey and is giving us no end of trouble...
Although I'm not as excited about him/her as I might be, I'm always conscious that I have a duty to act responsibly toward my child, concerning what I eat, drink, breathe etc.
All in all, I'm not too thrilled with the process, but I am looking forward to seeing the end product! |
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Big_Bird
Joined: 31 Jan 2003
Location: Sometimes here sometimes there...
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| Posted: Fri Oct 13, 2006 8:12 pm Post subject: |
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| JongnoGuru wrote: |
Puking, fatigue, belching... Personally, I'd consider the prohibition on vodka shooters a bigger disincentive to get preggers.
But I hope the best for you. For you two. |
Cheers Guru.  |
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Big_Bird
Joined: 31 Jan 2003
Location: Sometimes here sometimes there...
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| Posted: Fri Oct 13, 2006 8:13 pm Post subject: |
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| dogbert wrote: |
No, but I can stand when I pee!
Ghod, it's glorius being a man~ |
Go on, rub it in you b astard!  |
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Big_Bird
Joined: 31 Jan 2003
Location: Sometimes here sometimes there...
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| Posted: Fri Oct 13, 2006 8:14 pm Post subject: |
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Now why couldn't you have told me that after the first one?  |
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anae
Joined: 13 May 2003
Location: cowtown
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| Posted: Sat Oct 14, 2006 4:54 am Post subject: |
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I don't hate being pregnant but I don't love it either. This time I am battling major fatigue. It doesn't help that our 21 month old still gets up at night. Last pregnancy I swam three times a week right up until 3 days before my due date. Ha! This time my maternity bathing suit hasn't even been worn. I have good intentions, but after I come home from work, cook, do dishes, and put little miss to bed, I just want to go to bed. This would explain the 10 kilos I have already put on with 13 weeks still to go.
I am going to be a beached whale by Christmas dinner. However, my husband knows better than to deny me my daily scoop of ice cream. It is the one vice I still have left. I keep telling myself that I will go back to the gym right after I get the doctor's go ahead post partum.
I also think this pregnancy I will be much more uncomfortable in the end. She is way more active than my first. Last night I swear the baby was sticking her feet up in the air and kicking me in the ribs. Excuse me! You are only 25 weeks old. There must be some room still in there.
I can't imagine if I was pregnant in Korea and had to take the bus everyday or had food nazis looking over my shoulder. I might just lose it. Plus from the maternity "dress" my MIL sent over, I wouldn't wish Korean maternity wear on my worst enemy. |
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JongnoGuru
Joined: 25 May 2004
Location: peeing on your doorstep
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| Posted: Sat Oct 14, 2006 5:51 pm Post subject: |
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| anae wrote: |
| I can't imagine if I was pregnant in Korea and had to take the bus everyday or had food nazis looking over my shoulder. I might just lose it. Plus from the maternity "dress" my MIL sent over, I wouldn't wish Korean maternity wear on my worst enemy. |
Does only Korea have pregnancy food nazis? My sister was kind of a self-taught, self-directed food nazi when she was carrying. In fact, she and our mum had near-rows over it, the mater being far less fastidious and generally old-skool about the whole thing, not just food. But it sounds like in Korea, there's not so much of a generational rift, that everybody & every generation -- the pregnant woman, her mother, her MIL, her co-workers -- are all very concerned and have very precise Do's & Don'ts they want to contribute. It's like they're all responsible, not just the girl who's pregnant. |
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anae
Joined: 13 May 2003
Location: cowtown
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| Posted: Sat Oct 14, 2006 8:35 pm Post subject: |
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| Does only Korea have pregnancy food nazis? My sister was kind of a self-taught, self-directed food nazi when she was carrying. In fact, she and our mum had near-rows over it, the mater being far less fastidious and generally old-skool about the whole thing, not just food. But it sounds like in Korea, there's not so much of a generational rift, that everybody & every generation -- the pregnant woman, her mother, her MIL, her co-workers -- are all very concerned and have very precise Do's & Don'ts they want to contribute. It's like they're all responsible, not just the girl who's pregnant. |
No. Korea is hardly alone with the extremism (I should have taken more care with my post). Plenty of women in NA are what I call pregnancy martyrs. They avoid caffeine like it was poision, never touch soft ice cream or luncheon meats for fear of food poisioning, and refuse chewing gum because it might cotain artificial sweetners. There are also the guilt plagued mommies. Plenty of pregnancy messageboards are loaded with posts like omg I just drank a latte, I used whitening toothpaste will my baby be damaged, or I colored my hair therefore I am a bad mommy.
To clarify what I should have said - I find that in Korea more people feel that they have a say in other people's lives. My hogwon director used to interview my dates and try to tell me where I could and couldn't go on the weekend. She felt like she was my mother and had some kind of duty of care. My in-laws were always lecturing us about our lives. They were always pressuring me to go to the Oriental doctor because after so many years of marriage there still wasn't any baby. Of course, it was totally impossible that our lack of children was on purpose. How could our desires be different from theirs?
I am sure some people in the staffroom at my work would like to tell me not to have my half cup of non-decaf coffee at recess, but here it seems that most people keep their opinions to themselves. Though, I would expect to be confronted if I was lighting up or chugging tequila. I think our NA pregnancy nazis certainly exist, but I also think that our social mores repress them a little more. And with the tired, cranky state I am in right now, it is a good thing. |
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tzechuk
Joined: 20 Dec 2004
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| Posted: Sat Oct 14, 2006 8:58 pm Post subject: Re: Can you STAND being PREGNANT? |
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| Big_Bird wrote: |
Does anyone here actually like it?
I bloody hate it. All that puking, fatigue, contipation, burping, lugging around all that extra baggage....I can't wait for the bloody thing to pop out. .....sigh, almost another 4 months to go... |
Wow, didn't know you were expecting another. Congratulations!!!
I remember really enjoying my pregnancy... so I guess I should answer yes to your question! |
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tzechuk
Joined: 20 Dec 2004
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| Posted: Sat Oct 14, 2006 9:02 pm Post subject: |
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| Also congrats to anae!! Letty is 23 months old, I can't imagine being pregnant again! |
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crazylemongirl
Joined: 23 Mar 2003
Location: almost there...
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| Posted: Sun Oct 15, 2006 1:19 am Post subject: |
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this thread is an advertisement for birth control
Actually I like the idea of making a baby, I'm just not sure what I'm supposed to do with it afterwards. I don't suppose they can stuff it back in and I can ask for a refund? |
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The Man known as The Man
Joined: 29 Mar 2003
Location: 3 cheers for Ted Haggard oh yeah!
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| Posted: Sun Oct 15, 2006 1:29 pm Post subject: |
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| crazylemongirl wrote: |
this thread is an advertisement for birth control
Actually I like the idea of making a baby, I'm just not sure what I'm supposed to do with it afterwards. I don't suppose they can stuff it back in and I can ask for a refund? |
pure gold-quotable poster thread |
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periwinkle
Joined: 08 Feb 2003
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| Posted: Sun Oct 15, 2006 5:09 pm Post subject: |
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| tzechuk wrote: |
| Also congrats to anae!! Letty is 23 months old, I can't imagine being pregnant again! |
Are you guys planning on having just 1 baby? My husband wants just 2, but I hope my next pregnancy is twins (although it must really suck to carry twins~). |
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flotsam
Joined: 28 Mar 2006
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| Posted: Sun Oct 15, 2006 5:29 pm Post subject: |
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| periwinkle wrote: |
| tzechuk wrote: |
| Also congrats to anae!! Letty is 23 months old, I can't imagine being pregnant again! |
Are you guys planning on having just 1 baby? My husband wants just 2, but I hope my next pregnancy is twins (although it must really suck to carry twins~). |
Let's hear back from you the day after delivery, 'kay? |
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Big_Bird
Joined: 31 Jan 2003
Location: Sometimes here sometimes there...
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| Posted: Mon Oct 16, 2006 4:00 am Post subject: Re: Can you STAND being PREGNANT? |
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| tzechuk wrote: |
| Big_Bird wrote: |
Does anyone here actually like it?
I bloody hate it. All that puking, fatigue, contipation, burping, lugging around all that extra baggage....I can't wait for the bloody thing to pop out. .....sigh, almost another 4 months to go... |
Wow, didn't know you were expecting another. Congratulations!!! |
Cheers tzechuk. The next little monster is due in February.
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| I remember really enjoying my pregnancy... so I guess I should answer yes to your question! |
Yes, some women seem to have a fairly good time of it. Ody also found it OK.
You have no plans to give Letty a little brother/sister? She's awfully cute I have to say! |
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Boodleheimer
Joined: 10 Mar 2006
Location: working undercover for the Man
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| Posted: Mon Oct 16, 2006 5:40 am Post subject: |
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my best friend's mom had 3 miserable pregnancies. (all accidental, so she wasn't looking to go through that hell again and again.) she threw up every morning. every morning.
but my best friend is due in december and she's having a good time of it. she said the first trimester just made her feel really, really tired. this second trimester she's on a huge endorphin high.
she's lucky she doesn't take after her mother, i guess. |
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