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[Ya-ta Boy]

I need someone to take me to school. Until this afternoon I had not heard from anyone that what was sent in a PM was not to be posted in a public forum. BIG news to me.

I am not a total na�ve fool. (At least I don�t think I am.)

If I sent a PM to FreddyFreeloader and talked about something like problems in my family or personal insecurities, I would expect him to keep those things private. Even if I didn�t specifically ask for privacy, the nature of the exchange would indicate that I expected it. If that privacy were violated it would indicate that Freddy was a scumbag. I think most people would agree.

If someone sent me a PM attacking me, even if they were not threatening me, but attacking me in a way that I thought was beyond the �you�re a moron� kind of thing, I think the sender has surrendered any right of privacy. This would certainly hold if the person were someone I had no relationship with. There is something offensive in a slime ball attacking other people and hiding behind 'the right of privacy'.

Clearly, I am missing something.

Please educate me on the �unwritten� rules of message boards.

[The Lemon]

[Qinella]

I think private messages should be renamed to Direct Messages. Isn't that more accurate?

[Ya-ta Boy]

Thank you for the response, Mr. Lemon, but I still don't get the logic of the second paragraph.

There is just something qualitatively different to calling someone a dolt (which I have done) and threatening to suffocate a jar full of lightening bugs (which I did to get red dog's goat) and even 'threatened' to fire bomb rapier and red dog's apartments (or was it schools?) and to actually say something that plays on someone's legitimate dignity as a human being.

Part of what is bothering me is that I don't know what the rules are. Right now the rules seem arbitrary and obscure and I don't know where to get a clarification.

[rawiri]

Sorry man but if you are over 50 years of age things like private message conundrums should occupy very very little of your time. Correction...make that 15 years of age.

[Louis]

I think pm's should stay privat and only be divulged to admins in most cases. Only case I would differ on is when a recruiter or school makes promises via email or pm and then they reneg on it later.

[laogaiguk]

Again, I would like to ask,
"If you recieved a nasty letter, would you send it to 'Letters to the Editor' of your local newspaper, or would you call the cops?"

[Demophobe]

[Ya-ta Boy]

[uberscheisse]

i think that if you're dumb enough to send something in private to anyone on this board you're dumb enough to have your worst side advertised like coca-cola.

seriously - if you're enough of a retard to expect that PMs are going to be kept between you and the lump of dough you're trying to win an inconsequential online argument with then... you are pleading for whatever you get.

[dulouz]

"P" means private.

[Zyzyfer]

[SuperFly]

*Grumpy old man* D. Carvey


I'm oooooold! And I'm not happy! And I don't like things now compared to the way they used to be. All this progress -- phooey! In my day, we didn't have these fancy message boards and private messaging. If you wanted to use the computer, you'd get in line, seventeen miles long, and the line became an angry mob of people -- fornicators and thieves, mutant children and circus freaks -- and you waited for years and by the time you got to check your email. And that's the way it was and we liked it!

We didn't have computers either...and all these new fangled "ESL Resource" websites! When we taught a class, it was with a textbook that was handed down from person to person as they left Korea and the new one arrived! That's the way it was and we liked it!

[gang ah jee]

Ya-ta, like any form of private correspondence, whether or not a pm should be made public depends on the context. There's a stong case for making threatening or harrassing messages public. However, if someone were to post a pm in order to score points in a petty argument, then I'd say that's just not cricket.

[Zyzyfer]