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Maserial
Joined: 31 Jul 2005
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God I'm sick of people accusing others of being socks and trolls. Jeezus.
But I am glad someone finally announced to the world princess is a sock: there's one that had everybody fooled. We better keep on our toes, training for the day when we don't have such a piercing superhero watching over us.
Phew. |
Crass! |
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Satori
Joined: 09 Dec 2005
Location: Above it all
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| Posted: Mon Nov 13, 2006 7:44 pm Post subject: |
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| flotsam wrote: |
God I'm sick of people accusing others of being socks and trolls. Jeezus.
But I am glad someone finally announced to the world princess is a sock: there's one that had everybody fooled. We better keep on our toes, training for the day when we don't have such a piercing superhero watching over us.
Phew. |
The only problem with that is that you accuse everyone of being a sock, it's getting to the point where it's quite hysterical, like you're having a psychotic break or something. Time to get some R'n'R, take a break from daves.
I only accuse one person. I know everyone knows, but he continues to post, which is annoying, so it needs attention drawn to it sometimes.
Hint, one of us needs a break from daves and some fresh air, and it's not me... |
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flotsam
Joined: 28 Mar 2006
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| Posted: Mon Nov 13, 2006 7:47 pm Post subject: |
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My heavens, you are self-obssessed, aren't you?
Tut-tut. I wasn't talking about you at all.
P.S. Why do you always sound so stressed and accusatory in your posts? Are you doing OK? ^^ |
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tzechuk
Joined: 20 Dec 2004
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| Posted: Mon Nov 13, 2006 7:52 pm Post subject: |
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| I seem to have stopped keeping in touch with anyone back home but when I go home, I just phone them up and we meet down the road at our local pub and our friendships are renewed. |
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jlb
Joined: 18 Sep 2003
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| Posted: Mon Nov 13, 2006 9:11 pm Post subject: |
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| tzechuk wrote: |
| I seem to have stopped keeping in touch with anyone back home but when I go home, I just phone them up and we meet down the road at our local pub and our friendships are renewed. |
I do a pretty similar thing. I only infrequently talk to people back home when I'm here but I give them a call or email and tell them I'll be in the area and it's all good and we'll meet up. I'll stay at their houses for a couple days usually and that is equivalent to 1 year of time together in normal life!
But I do find that my closest friends are becoming the people here in Korea, which is pretty normal I think. |
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SPINOZA
Joined: 10 Jun 2005
Location: $eoul
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| Posted: Mon Nov 13, 2006 9:13 pm Post subject: |
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I'm rubbish at calling people and emailing.
I keep in touch with my best friend via the net, and I very, very occasionally call another good friend, and I once called my ex-girlfriend when I was drunk as hell (terrible idea), but other than that I'm a crap friend and relative. |
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Homer
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| Posted: Tue Nov 14, 2006 8:12 am Post subject: |
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I would say it varies...the Email correspondance that is.
I say start a Blog...it centralizes all your communications in one place. You post what you need to post, people who want to know about you go there.
Avoids the dreaded block Emails.....
I keep in touch with family and with a few friends back home. After a few years it is normal that you drift appart and the things you have in common change as your perspective changes....
We also bought a webcam for ourselves and for my folks back home. This allows them to see and talk to their grandson once per week and it is free!
They have broadband as do we and we bought top end cameras so there is no lag.
My son loves this now and my mother has said many times that she cherishes this weekly time with her grandson. |
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twg
Joined: 02 Nov 2006
Location: Getting some fresh air...
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| Posted: Tue Nov 14, 2006 5:28 pm Post subject: |
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We're alll ramblers, man. Walking through this world all alone because you can always find company on a short trip, but our journeys take a lot longer.
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| I say start a Blog...it centralizes all your communications in one place. You post what you need to post, people who want to know about you go there. |
This is true. I actually asked my brother and a couple of friends about this very topic a few years back, and they told me my blog tells them everything they want to know about my goings on.
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| After a few years it is normal that you drift apart and the things you have in common change as your perspective changes.... |
Sadly true.
Last time I went back, I could understand where they were coming from, but I just couldn't feel it anymore. If that makes sense. |
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Alias
Joined: 24 Jan 2003
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| Posted: Tue Nov 14, 2006 10:24 pm Post subject: |
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| To any of those who have yet to visit it back home between jobs.....be prepared for "reverse culture shock". Things will be different when you go back. |
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Homer
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| Posted: Wed Nov 15, 2006 4:36 am Post subject: |
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| Last time I went back, I could understand where they were coming from, but I just couldn't feel it anymore. If that makes sense. |
That makes perfect sense.
You also feel disconnected as I am sure the people back home do. After just one or two years here it is not very noticeable but stay abroad longer and...
My brother has been living in Japan for a long time now (over 10 years or so), is married to a Japanese woman and has kids there. When they visit home he visits friends and each timer, when he returns to Japan he calls me here and tells me about how weird that was.
I also have a friend who worked in Japan (1995-1997), Korea (1997-2000) and now Hong Kong (2000-now) and last time I met him (he visited here) he said on his last visit he was now sure he could not live in Canada anymore. His perspective had changed. It was not about Canada being a bad place, it was about Canada not being home for him anymore.
I am not at that point but I do see the difference in relation when we (wife and I) visit. Family remains just as close (well most of it) but many friends seem to live in a completely different universe (they must think the same of me). Living abroad just changes you. |
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Satori
Joined: 09 Dec 2005
Location: Above it all
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| Posted: Wed Nov 15, 2006 5:36 am Post subject: |
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| flotsam wrote: |
| My heavens, you are self-obssessed, aren't you? |
No, that's you, color-code-queen...
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Tut-tut. I wasn't talking about you at all. |
I'd just called out princess as a sock and then you wrote that you were glad someone had finally called out princess as a sock, so yeah, you were talking about me. Try to keep up.
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P.S. Why do you always sound so stressed and accusatory in your posts? |
I don't. That's something you must be imagining. It's called projection.
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Are you doing OK? ^^ |
A little bored of small town Japanese people, but very well in general, thanks... |
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ChopChaeJoe
Joined: 05 Mar 2006
Location: Seoul
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| Posted: Wed Nov 15, 2006 6:03 am Post subject: |
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Never forget your friends. they are like the family that you have chosen.
But they aren't homesick, you are.
Give them a break and make communications only when it's important.
You'll see them when you get home. |
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Qinella
Joined: 25 Feb 2005
Location: the crib
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| Posted: Wed Nov 15, 2006 6:44 am Post subject: |
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Dude, Satori..
You need to lighten up man. Maybe then you can stop misunderstanding Herr Flotsam so consistently.
I guess you will respond to me by insulting me and reassuring me that you don't need to lighten up. Do it! You know you want to!  |
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cosmicgirlie
Joined: 29 Jan 2003
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| Posted: Wed Nov 15, 2006 6:58 am Post subject: |
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I found that if I sent out individual emails I got responses back but with Mass emails I hardly had responses. I didn't expect my friends to call me but I will call them when I know it's a good time. I hardly called though. I was always busy here and they were always busy there.
What I found was that I told them a little bit about my experience but I kept up on the local stuff by internet news services. So when I did talk to them or send off the email I'd ask them about what was happening or what do you they think about this issue or that issue. I just didn't bombard them with stories of travels abroad.
IMing or Skypeing has been a big saviour too. |
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Juregen
Joined: 30 May 2006
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| Posted: Wed Nov 15, 2006 7:03 am Post subject: Re: Friends back home while you're in Korea..... |
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So I've been here for 3 months... and I'm starting to find that emails and phone calls from friends back home
are becoming less frequent. I'm still writing and callin them the same amount. Am I asking too much if I want a response for an email from people who are my 'friends"? I think not. I know everyone's life goes on and such...... but it this some sort of message saying.... stop emailing me all together or until I get back? Should I just forget about them all together>??
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The problem is that they do have to get on with their lives.
I talk to my "best" friends once a month or so, just to keep up to date, but any more would strain the relationship into an enforced virtual encounter, which would make it even more uncomfortable. It is oke, they still love an like you, there is just not that much to say. |
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