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Grimalkin · Joined: 22 May 2005

At home on holiday with too much time on my hands to think about things and this question has taken root in my mind.

My students have, at different times, confidently assured me that love lasts no longer than three years (they saw it on the telly so it must be true!).

What I want to know is how long does sexual attraction last? Am I going to end up in a relationship where I still love the person but no longer fancy them and I have to choose between being celibate for the rest of my life or being unfaithful.

Okay I'm not asking for someone to produce a crystal ball for me and predict my future but I'm looking for people's views about whether love in general tends to outlast physical attraction (and by much?) and what should people do in that case. What if you're still relatively young when that happens? Confused

Married people, coupled people and single people are all welcome to share their experience, views, insights etc.

Mr. BlackCat · Joined: 30 Nov 2005 Location: Insert witty remark HERE

My sexual attraction to my partner lasts about 6 minutes. I can stretch it out to 10 if I do some mental exercises.

Maybe I'm not the best to ask though. I hate people.

ChopChaeJoe · Joined: 05 Mar 2006 Location: Seoul

I always thought it was 7 years. Seven Year Itch, all of that.

Grimalkin · Joined: 22 May 2005

khyber · Joined: 16 Jan 2003 Location: Compunction Junction

til the lights come on

*rimshot*

Qinella · Joined: 25 Feb 2005 Location: the crib

Well I've been attracted to the Olsen twins for about ten years now.. so that fantasy is still going strong. Another girl I grew up with I've been attracted to since kindergarten, so that's about 20 years. Still find her incredibly hot (though a religious nutcase, unfortunately).

VanIslander · Posted: Mon Dec 04, 2006 3:36 pm Post subject:

As someone who has had two long term relationships I'd say the nature of sexual arousal changes over time and indeed by the fourth or fifth year one is less sexually attracted by the looks and allure and more attracted by the thoughts, memories and rapport of the relationship.

Lovemaking can get better and better, not worse over time. If it changes rather than dies with the waning of the excitement, frenzy, unsettled newness of sex with someone you don't know well (yet).

Roch · Joined: 24 Apr 2003 Location: Seoul

I.Q. and educational background play a part in a woman's perceived sexiness, eh.

How many guys on this board literally followed their brains when an allegedly so-so looking gal with an enormously high Intelligence Quotient entered their lives?

Be honest!!!

A highly-intelligent chick with excellent manners and a kind way about her is just too sexy for words, and that is all there is to it.

For instance, reckon that Barbie Benton was not sexy enough for Bertrand Russell. Let's just reckon.

But, add 29 points to her I.Q. and watch her date a Russell or a Flotsam or a Spinoza or any of the other resident scholars on this board.

Go to any big city in the world: You'll see smart ladies lacking in looks hand-in-hand with guys smart enough to have asked them out for a date.

Spinoza and Flotsam are two of the most famous Lady Killers on this board, and we would like to know what sort of woman rings their bells.

robot · Joined: 07 Mar 2006

tzechuk · Joined: 20 Dec 2004

robot - teenager infatuations..

I have known my husband for 7 years, coming to 8 next March. We've been married 4.5 years. He still turns me on.

I think it's different for different people.

Qinella · Joined: 25 Feb 2005 Location: the crib

Thunndarr · Joined: 30 Sep 2003

I don't think it's a function of time. I think it's a function of the number of shags you've had with the object of your desire (as well as the strength of that desire to begin with.)

So, for example, you're dating someone who really turns you on to the tune of, say, 500 shags. If you break up before the final shag, you may never be unattracted to that person. On the other hand, let's say you break up around the 750th shag (around the 6th month mark for me CHAKOW!) you've probably gone well past having sex out of desire, and will likely never use that particular individual as wank material ever again.

There are ways, of course, for you to increase the "Shag Limit." One way is to put yourself in situations where a concussion, and therefore memory loss, are likely. Another way is to get get so completely hammered off soju that you blackout before the shag, ensuring that it doesn't count against your Shag Limit. These are just a couple of ways to keep your sex life exciting and fresh. Use your imagination, be creative, and you may never reach your Shag Limit. Godspeed.

tzechuk · Joined: 20 Dec 2004

Big_Bird · Posted: Mon Dec 04, 2006 7:33 pm Post subject:

seoulunitarian · Joined: 06 Jul 2004