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[MUOhio82]

Does anyone teaching in Korea have experience with either leaving a spouse or a significant other behind in their home country?

I'm heading over next week, and leaving my better half here to fend for himself for the year.... we're both pretty laid back and easy-going, but have no illusions that's it's going to be rough at times. He's coming over for Thanksgiving/Christmas, so we'll roughly be apart 5 months at a time....

Does anyone have experience with this sort of thing? Or stories? I'm interested to see how people have fared with this.... We did agree that if I happen to run into Edward Norton while away, all rules are out the window.... HAHA.

[nolegirl]

Break up with him, long distance does not work.

I must agree Ed Norton is hot!!

[Stormy]

[Stormy]

[UberJRI]

I had a long-distance relationship with a Dutch guy for over three years. He didn't earn enough to get me a visa in the Netherlands, and I didn't have a stable enough job to bring him over here (plus he didn't want to live in the U.S.) so we just saw each other every summer and Christmas. It was doable, but very rough. We decided that it would be best to end it after all those years. BUT, it is doable as long as both understand what the plan is.

[MUOhio82]

Well, I can't really "break up" with him, I married him, lol. And yes, Edward Norton, I absolutely think he rocks. Only I get a "one", he doesn't. LOL.

Yea, we have a plan, I really need to be "independent" and he gets it, all that lame and mushy stuff.... I think all that's needed is a basis of communication and the ability to not get angry every 5 minutes. I had this all planned beforehand and he knew about it and thinks it's a really good thing for me to be doing, so he's 100% supportive, which I think helps a lot.

Thanks for the advice though, keep it coming if you've got it!

Does Edward Norton frequently travel to South Korea? Seriously, he's my favorite actor, not because he's hot (which he is) but because he's so SMART! Ok, enough babbling on that, lol.

[Adventurer]

[MUOhio82]

I sure am from Ohio I'm heading to Korea on the 24th. It's currently 90 here, insane humidity, and we're in the middle of a cicada invasion....

I am going to miss this place..... HAHA!

[the ireland]

it gets very hot and humid here....very very hot and humid

[dasmith2]

i'm not married, and i don't know how long you've been with your husband, but my boyfriend and i have been together for going on three years now. We spent one of those years as far apart from one another as possible without leaving the country. He graduated a year before I did and subsequently moved to British Columbia, and I stayed behind in Nova Scotia to finish my degree. It as rough, and we say each other only twice in that time. We almost broke up a bunch of times, but if you know your relationship is worthwhile, you'll get through anything .

[Scarlet13]

[KumaraKitty]

I did it 5 years ago. I wasn't happily married, I was married to my high school sweetheart. I left to come here for a year knowing he'd come visit after 6 months. We didn't even have sex the night I left, that's how unhappily married we were. I cheated on him after 4months, mainly because he didn't pay the bills and the phone and internet were cut off. I had no contact with him and felt VERY neglected. At the 6mth mark, I knew I wanted a divorce. I told him as soon as he finished his visit.
Now, 5 years later, I'm happily re-married and a first time mom. My husband is the most amazing man I've ever met. I'm so glad I took the chance to come over here, I found happiness. If you already are happy, hopefully you will stay happy. I wasn't but I found it here. I do think communication is key. If my ex had maintained good contact, e-mail, phone
calls, letters, etc., maybe I would have stayed unhappily married.
Good luck to you!

[nolegirl]

Kumara Kitty that is the sweetest story ever. Congrats on the baby!!!
Seriously, that is so great, I am getting teary eyed.

To the OP if you are leaving him behind that should be the conclusion right there that it probably is not meant to be. Let yourself be open and avialable to meet new people. You never know what the future holds.
The people posting below seem to have been through the same trials and tribulations and have know found true, honest happiness in their sole mate and it really is touching. Best of luck

BTW, if I ever spot Edward Norton anywhre I will PM you immediatly with the location. I except the same from you if you see Vince Vaugn, he's mine!!!

[Adventurer]

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