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corvidae333



Joined: 26 Oct 2009

PostPosted: Sat Aug 07, 2010 9:24 am    Post subject: I was assaulted Reply with quote

Just an hour ago I was assaulted while going to my apartment. It was a sexual assault (I think he just wanted to get off on my fear) and I really need advice about what to do. I'm really afraid of the possibility that he might come back and try it again. I'm afraid to leave my apartment. All my close friends are on vacation somewhere. What do I do?
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laguna



Joined: 27 Jun 2010

PostPosted: Sat Aug 07, 2010 9:29 am    Post subject: Re: I was assulted Reply with quote

corvidae333 wrote:
Just an hour ago I was assaulted while going to my apartment. It was a sexual assault (I think he just wanted to get off on my fear) and I really need advice about what to do. I'm really afraid of the possibility that he might come back and try it again. I'm afraid to leave my apartment. All my close friends are on vacation somewhere. What do I do?


Was it a rape, a grab, words?
"Sexual assault" is broadly defined and it would help if you mentioned at least the severity of it. If it was a rape, you need to get to the police asap, if it was something less serious you should probably just hang out until someone can come over and talk to you.

Sorry is that sounds cold, but when I was in college the local papers scared the shit out of everyone with a spree of "sexual assaults" that everyone assumed were rape cases and were then disclosed after 3 months of this to be just random groping and cat calling.
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corvidae333



Joined: 26 Oct 2009

PostPosted: Sat Aug 07, 2010 11:14 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

It was a very aggressive assault in which a man followed me up to my apartment, pulled down his pants and jumped on me. He used his fingers, so it wasn't a full-on rape, but it was damn close.
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ChilgokBlackHole



Joined: 21 Nov 2009

PostPosted: Sat Aug 07, 2010 12:23 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

What did the police say when you called them? Did they pull the CCTV tapes from the security office?
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young_clinton



Joined: 09 Sep 2009

PostPosted: Sat Aug 07, 2010 3:30 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Go to your embassy and inform them what has happened. There's some other things I could tell you to do, but I dont know if I should do it here.
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ssulja



Joined: 01 Sep 2009

PostPosted: Sat Aug 07, 2010 3:32 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I believe the Embassy is the best choice. I think I've read that's where it says to go. Embassy + Police.
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pangaea



Joined: 20 Dec 2007

PostPosted: Sat Aug 07, 2010 4:12 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I'm so sorry OP. Definitely get help with this. Go to the embassy and they should be able to guide you from there.
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curiousaboutkorea



Joined: 21 Jan 2009

PostPosted: Sat Aug 07, 2010 5:14 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

corvidae333 wrote:
It was a very aggressive assault in which a man followed me up to my apartment, pulled down his pants and jumped on me. He used his fingers, so it wasn't a full-on rape, but it was damn close.


if fingers were inserted, that is absolutely rape. Contact the police and embassy immediately.
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NYC_Gal



Joined: 08 Dec 2009

PostPosted: Sat Aug 07, 2010 5:37 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Go to the police and then the embassy. I am so sorry to hear that this happened to you!

<<hugs>>
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cdninkorea



Joined: 27 Jan 2006
Location: Seoul

PostPosted: Tue Aug 10, 2010 1:37 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

This is awful. I don't know if your country's embassy can help you (they do say that they can't get involved in local affairs, don't they?) but it's worth trying. I hope you'll keep us updated.
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janafromfrance



Joined: 07 Nov 2009

PostPosted: Tue Aug 10, 2010 1:47 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

You need support! I feel so sad for what you went through! Please find someone to help out, I wish some of the women on here would be available to help you, this is an emergency!
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curiousaboutkorea



Joined: 21 Jan 2009

PostPosted: Tue Aug 10, 2010 3:42 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

cdninkorea wrote:
This is awful. I don't know if your country's embassy can help you (they do say that they can't get involved in local affairs, don't they?) but it's worth trying. I hope you'll keep us updated.


I think the embassy can guide one to the right places, just not act on behalf of the individual. but yes, give it a shot.
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Tigerstyleone



Joined: 01 Feb 2009

PostPosted: Tue Aug 10, 2010 3:54 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

This happens more than people admit. Last year a New Zealand woman was raped in her own apartment. She went to the police first.
They have a special victim's unit for women in every Gu for these types of crimes.
They will understand and do everything they can to help you and catch the perp.

You need to report this right away and seek help.
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PatrickGHBusan



Joined: 24 Jun 2008
Location: Busan (1997-2008) Canada 2008 -

PostPosted: Tue Aug 10, 2010 4:21 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Contact the police and as was said the Embassy.

All the Embassy can do is to point you in the right direction (people who can help).

Get a Korean friend to go with you when you contact the police, as translation can be needed sometimes. Your Korean friend can help you find the SVU unit in your local police station as well.

Sorry this happened to you and I hope they catch the creep.
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lithium



Joined: 18 Jun 2008

PostPosted: Tue Aug 10, 2010 6:46 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

young_clinton wrote:
Go to your embassy and inform them what has happened. There's some other things I could tell you to do, but I dont know if I should do it here.


"Clinton?" Does anyone else see the irony?
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