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s2en · Joined: 30 Dec 2003 Posts: 1

Nowadays some of male are gays.If I know that my boyfriend is a gay,I may be shock and angry. Because this shows me he doesn't love me at all.He just want to pretend he is a real guy. I will seperate him but I still had friendship with him.I should not hate or make him sad.No one wants to be a gay.Perhape of their experiences in communicating people or their living styles.And you,what would you do?

Corey · Joined: 23 Mar 2003 Posts: 445 Location: Costa Rica

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Zanthrick · Joined: 31 Mar 2003 Posts: 51 Location: IA, USA

I would probably get upset a bit, but I don't think it would be good to get angry with the person. In the long run I would probably feel good that the person trusted me enough to tell me.

Passerby · Joined: 07 Mar 2004 Posts: 71 Location: Taiwan

Why she becomes my girlfriend and only later to find out she is a lesbian? Why he becomes my boyfriend and he is a gay?

What's gay or lesbian to you? Are you affected by the noral rules or are you controlled by the general definitions in these terms? Ok, if that's not yet enough to be counted as love, then, choose your own one and of course you have the right to be upset and so does your partner.

Both of you are right and both of you are wrong. You make a judge!
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LucentShade · Joined: 30 Dec 2003 Posts: 542 Location: Nebraska, USA

It's a good question: some men that are gay get into relationships with women, or even marry them, for the sake of maintaining their image in society. I thought that I'd work a little English learning into this post, though:

It's kind of strange, but casual English normally uses the term "gay" as an adjective. One would say "he is gay" or "that guy is not gay," without using the article "a." If the term "a gay" is used, it's usually followed by another noun, "a gay man," "a gay author," "a gay guy." Despite all this, "lesbian" for homosexual women is used as a noun. Saying "she is a lesbian" is correct. "She is lesbian" or "He is a gay" would be understood, but would not be considered "normal" English speech, whatever that means Wink

liebe · Joined: 16 May 2003 Posts: 117

I wouldn't get angry with him. After all, it's not his fault. I'd ask him when did he realize that and if he's certain that he is one. Then I guess we'll just end up being good friends.

To fruitek--why would you report him to the police? Why do you call gays "dangerous"? What is so dangerous about being one? They are people like all other people, it's just that they are attracted to their own sex. Having a sexual relationship doesn't endanger others, you know...

I think the reason for "gay" always being an adjective and "lesbian" being a noun, is because "gay" IS originally an adjective. It means happy and joyful.

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txqtpup · Joined: 29 Mar 2004 Posts: 13 Location: texas

In my opinion, every human being has the right to choose the way s/he lives. We have no right to judge! Why does somebody become a gay or lesbian? S/he has own reasons! Right or wrong, leave it to God! Exclamation

simplyblessedwithlove · Posted: Fri Apr 23, 2004 11:57 am Post subject:

What is it, a will and grace's tv show forum?
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openguide · Joined: 24 Apr 2004 Posts: 31 Location: Who cares?

It is very intresting. Razz

first i should announce that i am a boy.
if i find my girl friend is a lesbian, i will not become angry. because i think it is better than to find that she is together with another man.
moreover, maybe i can know more lovely girls this way. Laughing

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tsuneko · Joined: 25 Apr 2004 Posts: 1 Location: Japan

I would not care because it's up to my boyfriend. My boyfriend go together with me at that time, it is no problem. I will never report him to the police. It was natural to man loves man or woman loves woman many years ago in any country. It is not dangerous.

nobiko · Joined: 25 Apr 2004 Posts: 1

I would upset and cry, because I'm not loved by him.
We should separate.

jasper howizter · Joined: 02 May 2004 Posts: 14

Well, I wouldn't go down on him anymore, that's for sure!

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kardin · Joined: 14 Jun 2004 Posts: 24

if u find ur boy/girlfriend is a homosexual, u can try to be a homosexual too... well, if u really love that guy, u can do it...