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element105
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| stellara wrote: |
do you mean you don't read books or travel around since you're an adult?
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I will stop doing when I can do these no longer,by then may I consider I'm physically old indeed,but still keep thinking my heart forever young.  |
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Bob S.
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Location: So. Cal
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| Posted: Wed Aug 10, 2005 11:29 am Post subject: |
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| Bob S. wrote: |
| So often I feel like I am just a big kid still exploring the world and trying to find my way. |
 i thought you men never grow up - there's always the little boy blinking through.. |
You understand men too well.
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| Could you tell me by what means you do that?Reading books?Travelling around?Fulfilling yourself in some domains? |
I used to read a lot, back when I was a student and could not afford to go anywhere. Now that I have a job and family responsibilities, I don't have time to read as much as I would like. (Maybe I am just being lazy?  ) But I enjoy travel and sightseeing, whether it is international travel or just local sightseeing to museums, botanical gardens, simply visiting restaurants we have never tried before, or just taking a new route when walking the dog.
One of the nice things about my wife is that she enjoys these things too. In fact, it is one of the factors that drew us together. We probably don't have a "perfect" marriage, but we do provide each other with comfortable companionship whether in the home or out, much like Winnie the pooh above who enjoys her Significant Other's company in everyday things.
How about you? Do you have someone to go on walks with? Someone to help keep your heart young. |
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element105
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| Posted: Thu Aug 11, 2005 5:44 am Post subject: |
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| Oh,not yet,I live alone,have not get married and very much enjoy the current life living at ease.Marriage means too much responsibilities for which I've not get ready yet.I also admire people living a simple married life and having someone to go on walks with just as you,it's kinda early to me though.You ought to understand that as I guess you've been through a same single time which is precious to some extent |
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Bob S.
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| Posted: Fri Aug 12, 2005 1:50 pm Post subject: |
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| element105 wrote: |
| You ought to understand that as I guess you've been through a same single time which is precious to some extent |
Yeah, there are some things you can do at one stage of your life that you can't (or shouldn't) do at another stage of life. Enjoy your bachelor years while you can. |
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lotuses
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I want to ask whether you have a lover or not after marriage, but before marriage do you think it is necessary to keep your first to your husband??  |
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stellara
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| Posted: Sat Aug 27, 2005 4:57 am Post subject: |
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yes, i absolutely agree with Admiral. Cheating on your spouse is pretty much the most damnable thing you can do, in my opinion.
I don't think that it's realistic for marriages to hold a lifetime, or that somebody does love his/her spouse forever. maybe there are some marriages which are like that (a perfect dream..) but i think the most are not.
of course it may happen that you fall in love with somebody else during your marriage, that's unpredictable. but in this case you should be honest, not cheat on your spouse while pretending that everything's okay, but tell her/him and get divorced. that's the fairest thing one can do if one really falls in love with somebody else than his/her spouse.
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stellara
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| Posted: Mon Aug 29, 2005 10:50 am Post subject: |
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For me, it's not really important if my boyfriend had had sex with other women before me, because that's past and i can't influence it. as long as there's no danger of aids or other diseases, of course.
when he's my boyfriend i expect him to be faithful.
| Mr.Admiral wrote: |
| Do you want to have sex with different people |
what do you mean by this? if i want to have only one sex partner for my whole life? no. because firstly, i can't expect to find anyone who is faithful for a whole lifetime. and secondly, i don't know what will happen in the future so i don't think i can say now what will be in ten or twenty years.
i always try to be faithful myself, but i do think it's the best to act on the current situation.
"I only want to have one" - i think that's a personal decision. but i wouldn't say that. the human race make so many more or less grave mistakes, how could i decide if the one i fell in love is just the one i want to be with for my whole life? and if it turns out that he wasn't then i'd have to stay alone for the rest of my life.. no thank you.
why do you ask?
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stellara
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| Posted: Mon Aug 29, 2005 11:14 am Post subject: |
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that's a personal decision
sure it's because of the cultural difference, too. and i didn't assume that somebody had slept with so many girls but with a normal number of women, depending on his age
greets and ciao 
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lotuses
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| hello! thanks for your attention. of course i absolutely think there shouldn't be any lover or mitress between the spouse. however, so many things happened quietly and slowly, but we never know how it turns up. may i ask you : what's the reason why the first cannot be perfect? if the two are crazy in love with each other, the fire should be mad? the reason from mental or from suroundings? or other? |
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lotuses
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Mr.Miracle,  thanks for your attention! could please give me an answer about my question above?
by the way, may i ask if you are a student ? thank you! |
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lotuses
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| Posted: Thu Sep 01, 2005 7:43 pm Post subject: |
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Mr.Miracle, thanks for your attention! could please give me an answer about my question above?
by the way, may i ask if you are a student ? thank you! |
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lotuses
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| Posted: Sat Sep 03, 2005 5:44 am Post subject: |
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Thanks Admiral!  And do you believe that only this kind of experience can make a girl mature? |
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stellara
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| Posted: Sat Sep 03, 2005 7:42 am Post subject: |
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hey, we're not that bad!
but i admit that we can be really complicated.. so can men, but they are easier to please most of the time, at least.
i agree with Admiral about why the first time is usually not the best.
and i really doubt that this is the only way to make a girl become a woman, become mature.. this would be awful.  maybe, among other things, it can contribute to maturity, but it's not mainly important.
maybe, if you can get a little more detailed, i can answer your question in a better way, but at the moment i don't really know what you wanna knoe, sorry
greets
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lotuses
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Thanks! I agree with you. A girl can become mature from experiencing other things
. This experience is not the only way, but also important.
Few women or men are satisfied with their current situation, so a perfect marriage can hard breathe.
Their desires are nonstop increasing. |
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