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[SN]

dont you think that knowing too much about the partner is a obstacle to get marriage? The more you know about the partner, the more you worry about the marriage life with the partner?
so called marriage-blue.

[Roseray]

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[kai007]

I agree cohabitation provided that we decide not to have baby. Why I said that.For me, I don't think marriage is what PugachevV said it is only a matter of the church or religious establishment, the government involvement nor tax nor other benefits when the couple are married. I think the important thing to be considered are the children whether are legitimate or not. . It is not enough for them though they have plenty of love from their parents. As they are living in the world full of gossips and discrimination, they need recognition of the others and dignity.
Besides, if their parents are rich, they should be legitimate in order to inherit their parents properties.

[Diana]

It doesn't bother me what people do in their house or behind the bedroom doors. Whether they want to get married or not is not my business. As for having children, that is a different story. Children should always be protected and loved. No child should be stigmatized because of their parents' mistakes.

[Jennifer]

Marriage is a life-long commitment. Cohabitation is simply living together. Of course, each couple decides what "living together" means to them. However, the problem is often that each person has different ideas about what their relationship means. For instance, a woman might see cohabitation as a path to marriage, and a man might see it as free sex!

My personal opinion is that if someone is ready for a life-long commitment, then marriage is a beautiful way to show the world that you are a couple. If you aren't ready for marriage, then why spoil a good thing? Nothing kills a budding romance than too much intimacy (including bad breath first thing in the morning!) too fast. If a romance is mature and lasting, it can weather a lot more.

I respect the right of others to live their lives the way they feel, but I've seen so many relationships that have been ruined because of cohabitation, so these are merely my own personal views. And with all due respect to anyone who is currently living together, I don't think of shacking up as a very "classy" act.

[Corey]

I don't know about Asian countries, but in the West marriage is quickly becoming a thing of the past. More than 50% of couples in Canada now live together without marrying.

Why?

Because of all the problems people can see associated with marriage. If anyone here is married, you will know that the Wedding ceremony itself is an extremely stressful process Plus the tax advantage for marrying really doesn't exist anymore.

Regards,

Corey
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[wing]

Do you mind telling me why cohabitation in Canada has been so much popular? A silly question perhaps:)

[mjbinsanjose]

Religion used to be a much stronger factor in the lives of people in the West. Sexual intercourse outside the bounds of marraige was considered to be a shameful act. A sin. An act by someone who was a pagan. Someone without understanding. Someone who did not care about society.

Now religion is less important in the lives of people. They do not feel the same sense of shame. They laugh about the idea of something being a sin.

When China reaches the point that children stop obeying parents, when friends stop trying to prevent other friends from doing bad things, when husbands and wifes refuse to accept their proper roles, when employees refuse to obey and respect their bosses, when youngest sons refuse to defer to oldest sons; in other words when all semblance of the idea of filial responsibilty has evaporated, than China will be in the position that the west is now.
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[toninho]

Why in the world would people not want to live together before getting married.

wait a minute, there's more to the topic

When you decide to live with another person, isn't it because you're comfortable and compatible with that person?

If it is a question of culture in a closed society then live with it and don't go round asking others what they think or critise their opinions. It boils down to be something private between 2 people and who cares what others should think or feel?

That's how I feel anyway.

[sandy]

I don't agree cohabitation.Because I think marriage is a serious thing in the world and I think each girl desire to meet her good man and marry him.It is a dream for each girl.Because of that ,I am a girl . In addition,
female will be protected after she marries.And marriage can make their promotion become more hardy.
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[2011]

When we talk compare cohabitation to marriage, we often associate the former word with negative meaning. Consequently, we think cohabitation is not as natural as marriage. I think the meaning of words can be arbitrary (if we have good point to argue). Some people feel bad or uncomfortable with this because they force themselves to follow rules. But what are rules? If two people really wants to live with each other, then what's the problem whether they have got married or not.

[Simon]

Marry, I think most people like this, and also want to have a good husband or wife. Somebody was different. They don't like to marry. Some people has different sexual orientation, man loves man or womam love woman.
Love is not crime(include the cohabitation). But somebody wear the colour glasses. However, in the western country, they don't think anymore, just love.