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Cristi
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 Yikes, mate!
Very wise decision.
Good for you and your daughter! 
Bye. Mwa!  |
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bluesapphire
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Definetely no. Because I think if a parent want to teach his/her child, they should explain to them what they had done is wrong and not just cane the child.If a child is growing up in this way, maybe they will become agressive in the future.And if a child had done something wrong and they should be punish, I think the parent should give a milder punishment. In this way, it will not affect the child psycology.  |
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beta
Joined: 22 Sep 2005
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| Posted: Thu Sep 22, 2005 1:46 am Post subject: Re: Should parents strike children? |
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Parenting is hard. and as you guys know, every parent wants their children to have a great fature and life. but parenting is different among people.
Some parents beat kids when the kids make some mistakes, and they think that would be a good for kids. but some parents think it would be terrible for parents to strike their kids. so they never strike kids.
What kind of parent might you be or will you be? the strict one or the one who regards kids as adults and never strike them? |
i would treat my kid as i wanted to be treated when i was a little boy.
kids are cute,talented, they learn everthing faster than grown ups.
they are naughty,often they disobey the parents because they dont appreciate parent's expectation from them, but why shouldn't the parents try to understand them, appreciate their idea? give them freedom, encourage them to do whatever they want.
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Cristi
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Location: Costa Rica
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| Posted: Sat Sep 24, 2005 5:40 pm Post subject: |
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| bluesapphire wrote: |
| Definetely no. Because I think if a parent want to teach his/her child, they should explain to them what they had done is wrong and not just cane the child.If a child is growing up in this way, maybe they will become agressive in the future.And if a child had done something wrong and they should be punish, I think the parent should give a milder punishment. In this way, it will not affect the child psycology. |
Hey, hey!
I was talking about RedRose's decision of not beating her daughter again...
Mate, did you read my last post?? Didn't you see that I've never been striken painfully? Please, read more carefully next time...
I'm not being rude to you just trying to mend this misunderstood. Please don't think I'm yelling or talking sharply. |
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RedRose
Joined: 21 May 2004
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| Posted: Sat Sep 24, 2005 7:56 pm Post subject: |
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In China, many parents don't feel guilty after beating kids. on the contrary, they think they are benefiting kids!
We have to learn how to respect ou kids. |
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Cristi
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| Posted: Mon Sep 26, 2005 7:02 am Post subject: |
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Yes indeed, RedRose! I'm glad my parents have always respected me!
I'm sure you'll respect your kids and they'll respect you, because now you're making conciense about it.
Bye.
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"Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear--not absence of fear."
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Bob S.
Joined: 29 Apr 2004
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| RedRose wrote: |
In China, many parents don't feel guilty after beating kids. on the contrary, they think they are benefiting kids!
We have to learn how to respect ou kids. |
And equally important, the kids must learn to respect us adults! I am not 100% against corporal punishment, only that it should be limited to certain situations and the personality of the child. As children grow and develop, their minds also go through different developmental stages. So, like training Pavlov's dog, a quick spank or swat on the hand can be a useful reminder of what is good or bad behavior until they are old enough to understand verbal explanations.
I'll tell you a story. I was waiting at Shinjuku Station in Tokyo (a couple years ago), and I saw a child throwing a tantrum and hitting his mother. I thought, daaammnn!!! My parents would never let me get away with that. And it that were my kid, I would NEVER allow him to ever hit his mother! After thrashing him within an inch of his life, I would staple his butt to the train car ceiling for the ride home. Then he would still be grounded for a year. For this situation, comedian Bill Cosby has the best quote: "I brought you into this world, and I'll take you out!" |
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RedRose
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| Posted: Mon Sep 26, 2005 8:59 pm Post subject: |
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| Bob S. wrote: |
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I'll tell you a story. I was waiting at Shinjuku Station in Tokyo (a couple years ago), and I saw a child throwing a tantrum and hitting his mother. |
wow!! that's terrible! In China, it's hard for you to see that kind of thing happen! |
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