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muu



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PostPosted: Wed Jun 15, 2005 9:51 pm    Post subject: International marriage Reply with quote

International marriage

Recently, many people get marred to foreigners. There is a lot of information like books and TV programs about international marriage and marriage bureau.
I think it�s OK to marry foreigners. It is no problem even though they have different nationalities. Of course sometimes they would have culture shock in their living or there is some difficulty about procedure, but there is not so much difference between international couple and couples from the same back ground.


The other day I asked my friend �Do you mind to marry with foreigners?�
Then she answered �Yes. I don�t want to, and my parents and relatives don�t accept it.�

What do you think of international marriage?? And, do you want to or not :?:
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weiyao



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PostPosted: Thu Jun 23, 2005 9:16 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Actually, some of the marriages involes financial problems. In a few developing countries. people are living a harsh life. To improve their lives, and help their family have a better living condition, some girls would think of marrying foreigners. sometimes it's very ridiculous, because the new couple can not even communicate with each other easily.
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yukii



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PostPosted: Sun Jun 26, 2005 3:15 am    Post subject: I dont mind..... Reply with quote

I dont mind to get married to foreigners. I mean,
nobody knows if you will be in love with someone from your countrly or not. You could meet some foreigners in your life. Of course there might be some problems like religion. culture and your parents?
I've studied English in Canada for a year. and I met a really nice guy who was from Switzerland and I really liked him. what I realized that he was the most interesting guy I'd ever met!!!
what I wanna say is nationalities is just one of part of him. not himself.
I had so many problems with my ex boyfriend(Japanese). so in my opinion, it doesnt matter if your partner is same nationality or not.
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Connie2



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PostPosted: Mon Jun 27, 2005 12:24 am    Post subject: International Marriage Reply with quote

I am English living in Beijing. I married a Chinese boy. He was handsome and he was very good in bed. He gave me two children.

I had a very good job with a very high salary. He was poor from a poor family. I gave him lots of money. Gradually he started going out drinking heavily, gambling and playing Mah Jong.

He started his own business with my money. He bought very expensive cars. One day he dissapeared. Five weeks later I found out he had been arrested. He was sent to prison for two years. It was something to do with renting his premises to crooks. I never found out exactly.

My advice to anyone thinking about cross-country marriage --- don't
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Sachiko0517



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PostPosted: Mon Jun 27, 2005 11:06 pm    Post subject: Re: International marriage Reply with quote

Hi,
I think International marriage is complication.
If someone want to international marriage, he or she needs
a graciousness, address, understanding and love.
But, of course, international marriage is very good!
It can come into contact with a different culture!!
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Ms.pink



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PostPosted: Thu Jul 07, 2005 6:49 am    Post subject: I agree to get married to foreigners. Reply with quote

I think international marriage is OK because I know an International couple. Very Happy I heard from her it is really heard to get married to foreigners. However, she looks happy when she told about her life, so I think to get married to foreigners is not bad. It is natural that people have different way of thinking even if they were born in the same country. The couples should understand their partner. If they can do it, the nation isn't problem. Exclamation Exclamation Exclamation Razz
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Ms.pink



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PostPosted: Thu Jul 14, 2005 4:11 pm    Post subject: Re: I agree to get married to foreigners. Reply with quote

Ms.pink wrote:
I think international marriage is OK because I know an International couple. Very Happy I heard from her it is really hard to get married to foreigners. However, she looks happy when she told about her life, so I think to get married to foreigners is not bad. It is natural that people have different way of thinking even if they were born in the same country. The couples should understand their partner. If they can do it, the nation isn't problem. Exclamation Exclamation Exclamation Razz
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Traviezalizeth



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PostPosted: Tue Aug 16, 2005 6:10 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I agree with International Marriage.

Does it really matter the nationality or the culture ??? I mean, if it's REAL LOVE, i think there shouldn't be any obstacles right?

Actually i know an international couple. They are happy. They seem happy. And they both learned a lot from each other's background. It makes me wonder...what has this guy found in this girl that no other girl in his country has ?

I can't see why you dont agree with it. Confused
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EnyaLynn



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PostPosted: Wed Aug 17, 2005 9:17 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

any marriage should base on a balance of finance and IQ always.
what nationality doesn't matter
I'd like to get a handsome boyfriend,and he must love me,
I will work hard to get as much money as he does,and I don't want a stupid boyfriends,'cause I'm not stupid myself.
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pannulli



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PostPosted: Mon Sep 26, 2005 1:51 pm    Post subject: International marriage Reply with quote

Personally, I'm not against international marriage at all! I think in today's world we're getting more globalized and we interact more internationally than decades ago. It is also interesting to marry someone internationally cause you get to know a different culture,language and everything about that country. However, there're families who do not want their children to marry outside their caste. For example, India! From a personal experience my x-boyfriend's family did not approve us and to get marry in the future. He's Indian and I'm from Iran even though we have some similarities within our culture, our religion were different and other factors. But then the question is, how can you help that? When two people meet and fall in love, then the family gets involved and it becomes a mess. In my case we're no longer together because he took his parent's side and listened to them and some of them follow that due to their obligations to their families. It will be interesting to come up with an idea or solution to this problem and hopefully in the near future countries such as India will be more open minded to this issue!
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RJGG



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PostPosted: Tue Oct 04, 2005 10:45 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

As someone who has married outside his own culture - I can highly recommend it. You get to know a person from another culture and way of thinking that although perhaps different to your own, is worth knowing. Sure, there are challenges, but no more so than in any relationship.
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admiral



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PostPosted: Wed Oct 05, 2005 3:16 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

hi Connie2

Quote:
I am English living in Beijing. I married a Chinese boy. He was handsome and he was very good in bed. He gave me two children.

I had a very good job with a very high salary. He was poor from a poor family. I gave him lots of money. Gradually he started going out drinking heavily, gambling and playing Mah Jong.

He started his own business with my money. He bought very expensive cars. One day he dissapeared. Five weeks later I found out he had been arrested. He was sent to prison for two years. It was something to do with renting his premises to crooks. I never found out exactly.

My advice to anyone thinking about cross-country marriage --- don't


I feel very sorry for you.
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Timurko



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PostPosted: Wed Oct 05, 2005 5:02 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

If it occurs not because of money, I�m for International Marriage. What can stop you, except of prejudices?
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zhoujian



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PostPosted: Fri Oct 07, 2005 1:34 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

International Marriage is acceptable,and children born by such couples are very cute and smart,and they are very luck to encounter two cultures and master two languages,amazing!
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admiral



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PostPosted: Fri Oct 07, 2005 1:53 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

It's not very possible, you know, cultural things and distance.
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